To be disappointed in husband

[Pondlife87]

Hello everyone
So i am 34 weeks pregnant and was doing pretty well until the last 2 weeks when my feet have started swelling terribly, my hips constantly ache, and as baby is currently back to back I have back pain.
I have a pretty active job (I work in a hospital) and because of the last two weeks I have asked my boss if I reduce the amount of manual handling I have to do which has been agreed.
My husband is aware of all of the above and is verbally very supportive, even saying if they weren't willing to let me be less manual then I should take early mat leave.
Anyway, the last 2 weeks he has been giving me lifts to work when he can, as where I park my car is a 25 minute walk to work. The walk there is ok, but getting back I end up with a lot of hip pain the following day as I've over exerted myself.
He is a teacher and has the next 2 weeks off. Last night he said 'i will give you a lift once a week, as I want to make the most of my lie ins'.
AIBU to be upset? I feel he is being selfish to not try and help me more if I need it....but I'm more upset that I feel he has given limited thought to me. I would never expect a lift every day, but to cap it and not consider my needs just feels hurtful. But i am aware of my hormones and that i probably have a huge empathy bias towards myself.
Should i mention it or just let it go?

I'm guessing this guy will manage to get himself 'loads of lovely lie ins' once the baby is born as well.

The idea that he should have two weeks of lie ins because you're about to go on mat leave is nonsense. You are building a person. The reason women go on mat leave before the baby is actually crowning is because growing a person takes a physical toll, especially in the last months and you need more rest to function and be well.

He is not comparing like for like here.

Also the idea of mat leave being a 'year off' is a bloody joke. I had an extremely stressful demanding job for years prior to going on mat leave. The kind of job that when you tell people what you do they gasp and say 'oh my god that must be so full on.'... so I naively looked forward to my 'year off' on mat leave.... I have never worked so hard in my life. Keeping a newborn alive is incredibly hard work in every sense. And I had a cleaner and my husband would scrub in the moment he walked in the door. I was better off than most.

I hope your pre birth classes disabuse him of this notion, because he doesn't seem particularly sensitive or observant in relation to the burden you carry now. He's not going to figure it out unless someone spells it out.

He asked me if I think other men are more supportive than he is

The issue is not whether other men are more supportive than he is, but whether he provides his wife and the mother of his child with the support she needs. If he isn't doing that, it is utterly irrelevant that some men might be worse than him. If he must compare himself with anyone, it should be other people - he doesn't get held to easier standards because he's a man.

Oh God, he is BVU. His attitude needs to change big style. I'd recommend the book 'how not to hate your husband after having kids'

It sounds like you'll need it. How do I measure up compared to other men? Does he just want to be above average or want a medal?

Good luck OP