To be disappointed in husband

[Pondlife87]

Hello everyone
So i am 34 weeks pregnant and was doing pretty well until the last 2 weeks when my feet have started swelling terribly, my hips constantly ache, and as baby is currently back to back I have back pain.
I have a pretty active job (I work in a hospital) and because of the last two weeks I have asked my boss if I reduce the amount of manual handling I have to do which has been agreed.
My husband is aware of all of the above and is verbally very supportive, even saying if they weren't willing to let me be less manual then I should take early mat leave.
Anyway, the last 2 weeks he has been giving me lifts to work when he can, as where I park my car is a 25 minute walk to work. The walk there is ok, but getting back I end up with a lot of hip pain the following day as I've over exerted myself.
He is a teacher and has the next 2 weeks off. Last night he said 'i will give you a lift once a week, as I want to make the most of my lie ins'.
AIBU to be upset? I feel he is being selfish to not try and help me more if I need it....but I'm more upset that I feel he has given limited thought to me. I would never expect a lift every day, but to cap it and not consider my needs just feels hurtful. But i am aware of my hormones and that i probably have a huge empathy bias towards myself.
Should i mention it or just let it go?

Yanbu I'm 32 weeks pregnant and also struggling and we are the ones waddling around in pain!
I'd be hurt also

Selfish twat. I'd expect a lift everyday.

Being in pain whilst being very pregnant is absolutely awful. Maybe show him this thread op...?

I'd want to insist that he is responsible for the 5-7am baby shifts. He's got to be up for school, anyway, so he might as well get up a bit earlier, do the feed, wind and change, then bring a clean and fed baby back up to you in bed (along with a cup of tea and some toast) just as he's leaving.

What a bastard

Nip this in the bud now. If he has to be told that you need help/support, this isn't going to be an easy journey into parenthood for either of you.

When I was in early pregnancy, DH had sold his car and I was cycling 3 miles each way into work. I wasn't sleeping well, felt permanently nauseous and nearly got knocked off one day by an irate motorist, all while he was driving "our" car to work. The fact that his needs came before mine should have been a very red flag that I just didn't see.

If I had our time over again, I'd have stood up for myself from the word go. He doesn't get away with anything now, btw in fact far from it, but that confidence sadly only came with age. Do not allow him to put your needs behind his when you are carrying his child

YADNBU!! What a selfish prick! Make him give you a life everyday! The baby is his responsibility too - he needs to step up!! Good luck with it all 💐

He takes you to work, he picks you up.

He prepares dinner (or takes you out) and does the vast majority of the housework.

That will still give him 'resting' time.

Tell him to stop mucking about, he WILL be giving you a lift each day.

Don't even think about being ok with anything less. He should be ashamed.

If he's like this now . . .

He is selfish, he could come home and sleep once he has dropped you off!

Order a taxi as someone said. And tell DH as you have been doing all the baby care so far he will need to step up once baby is 'out'!

YANBU. he'll have to say goodbye to any lay ins for years to come soon as the baby arrives anyway, even when they're no longer babies and in first school they still wish to get up at 7am on a weekend plus if he's that bothered by it he can go back to bed when he gets home or he can nap in the afternoon if he hasn't got work!

Excuse me! That would be the end for me I'd have dumped him. The lazy, self serving prick.
Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn after all it's your husband but WTF!!!
is he going to want lie ins all the time when the baby is born?
Mumsnet makes my mind boggle each and every day with these selfish husbands.

He can pay for your taxi if he doesn't want to get up, Just tell him to leave the money on the side the night before. Then he can sleep in all he likes.

Woah what a selfish prick.

I hope you let him know that pulling his lazy arse out of bed and driving you is the bloody least he can do.

The baby does not just pop out of thin air on its due date and start impacting the family that day and not a minute earlier. You are already affected by this baby, how nice for your 'D'H that he can decide not to be six days a week.

Caring for the pregnant woman is step fucking one of being a decent dad.

Furious on your behalf OP. Hormones have nothing to do with it.

What A Wanker

Fucking hell

Tell him for YOU the baby has already arrived or did he not notice the sodding great bump. Tell him in NO uncertain terms that YOU are carting HIS baby around, feeding his baby & making more and more room inside you 24-fucking-7, is the very least he can do is get arse out of bed and drop you off & pick you up at the door of the hospital EVERY DAY. Plus, obviously, dontge housework & dinner/dishes.

Fuck my days.

My partner is very much the same, but he eventually does hings, and then moans about them.
I usually drive myself and baby to nursery/work, he was off last week and planned to spend the whole day playing videogames. I asked if he could give us a lift instead of me driving, or take the baby to nursery and back and I was happy to take a bus, as I wasn;t feeling well and he moaned so much that his 'perfect' day was ruined, and then he had to do his laundry and cook his lunch and only played for a couple of hours instead of whatever he planned.

Your partner needs to stop being so selfish, kick his butt and tell him to have naps in the afternoons.

Please ask for what you need now, and make sure you keep doing it from now on otherwise he will let you do more than your ‘share’ and you’ll start to feel resentful

He’s BU. Start as you mean to go on and let him know if something bothers you

I hope he was joking?! I would be informing him he’s taking me to and from work. Your not getting 2 weeks off from pregnancy and resting. Why should he? He needs to step up

Your = you’re

Oh dear, this is not a good sign OP.

I hope he is very apologetic when he realises how utterly horrible and ridiculous he is being.

Maybe show him this thread to help wake him up!

Show him this thread then he might realise what a dick he’s being.

What a fucking prick!

And we keep being told teachers don’t really get time off, work all through the “holidays” etc and he cba to get up to take his heavily pregnant wife to work who doesn’t get the luxury of 13 weeks off every year. How early would he have to get up? It’s not going to be 3 am surely?

Speaking as a dad, may I suggest that you:

[a] Spell out exactly how painful your current situation is (if you haven't already done so), and

[b] explain, entirely truthfully, that however much you may love him you are going to find it hard not to resent him and his lie-in while you carry yourself and his baby to work on your aching ankles

If he ignores that wake-up call, buy a shot gun.