To wonder how you manage to have sex on a family holiday?

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I know this sounds a bit weird, but I am looking at booking a holiday, which will involve 7yo DS sleeping on the sofa bed in our room. When we've gone away previously we've done Eurocamp, so he's been in his own room in a chalet.

I was looking at holidays and suddenly thought "oh crap, where do we have sex?". I couldn't have sex while he was sleeping in the room, doing it in the bathroom while he is asleep sounds uncomfortable.

I looked at apartments and then realised that I would end up doing all the cooking and it wouldn't be a holiday for me. I am done with self catering.

Am I being weird thinking about it?

A separate bedroom and lounge area is a deal breaker for me on holiday. I don't want to have to be quiet once the kids are in bed, I want to stay up, relax, chat with DH and drink wine.

Firstly because we aren’t animals and can certainly cope for a week without it

First, humans are animals and second, whilst I can go for prolonged periods without sex, I don't see why I should when I'm on holiday.

Sex doesn't work properly standing up

Yes it does. No I'm not drawing you a diagram.

1. Wait till your DS is deep asleep

Please not this. The sofa bed will probably be feet away from your bed. My DP's put me through this trauma as a kid. They don't know mind you, they assumed I was in a deep sleep...

It's impossible to book interconnecting rooms on most websites which is the obvious solution ! Feel your pain

We would have sex in the bathroom or book a separate room. But we both have high sex drives and wouldn’t want to wait a week. I can also confirm sex standing up works fine but it does depend on height difference

It's not about "not being able to go a few days" it's that we all work hard and a holiday is a chance to do all the things you don't often have time for or can't. Sangria in the afternoon, lazying around with a book, having lovely sex...

Well yeah, but if you are going on holiday with young kids, it's not really like this anyway is it?

You can't do it on the balcony

Well, I'd rather read my Sophie Kinsella out on my balcony without accompanying shagging noises coming from next door thanks!

@BarbieJellyBabyBrain I can assure you can

People aren't reading Sophie Kinsella at 2am in the morning, they're drinking red wine and doing naughty things to each other in hushed tones From someone who is normally "vanilla" in the bedroom, balcony sex is pretty hot

The alternative answer to this is that you go on holiday with friends who also have DC.

You then offer to look after their DC so they can have a night out or afternoon 'DC free' and they return the favour.

We usually go self catering but eat lunch and dinner out. My husband goes to buy the breakfast stuff, I make it, then he cleans up.

We only do Eurocamp style things now for this very reason.

Easy, we just don’t have sex whilst we are on holiday with our children. Firstly because we aren’t animals and can certainly cope for a week without it

I’d probably just do it in the bathroom and book him in the kids club tbh

Lol to sex not working standing up.

You do hear some funny things on Mumsnet.

Maybe you could come to a babysitting arrangement with another couple in the same predicament.

Now I feel embarrassed that I'm not particularly arsed about going without sex for a week with DP when we're on holiday with the DC. Or when we're at home either. Not embarrassed enough to pay for a suite though.

We tried it in the bathroom once. It was crap because I couldn't cum and he could. Would rather have nothing.

Family vacations are for the kids. We expend so much energy doing things they love that we wouldn’t have any left for sex anyway.

1. Kids club
2. Batch cook

Clearly you need to change the sleeping arrangements? 😐

LOOOOOL to not working standing up....

I suppose if you and your DH are lean, lithe things then a quick standing up shag in the bathroom would work. I'm quite a bit shorter than my DH and he's a bit rounder than me so we've never quite 'matched up' for that kind of quickie! 😆

Although my DS is only a toddler I wouldn't book a holiday where he had to stay in our room anymore, least of all when he would be seven! Just pick somewhere else! Or some hotels do family rooms where you can have separate areas with closing doors in between!

BTW OP, it is allowed to book an apartment or villa and eat out on holiday. Just because there is a kitchen doesn't mean you have to use it. I just usually use the fridge for beer and wine

I’m amazed posters saying sex can wait till you get home!

Wait until you’ve been married 20-ish years
You must be doing it wrong.

Family vacations are for the kids.
Exactly, I need sex to make it bearable!

Self catering, eat an evening meal out, seems the best option.

Unless you are related to Mary Whitehouse.

Family vacations are for the kids

I'm really not getting this. Vacations are for all of you, not just for kids. Surely if one or both of you work, save up for a holiday, the actual holiday needs to satisfy all of you, not just the little people you take with you?

I'm actually quite surprised at the number of people who wouldn't be bothered by no sex for a week (or 2).

I don't have a high sex drive but for us, sex is important in our relationship and that includes being on holiday. If anything we're both more relaxed and have time for each other on holiday in comparison to when we're at work / raising a family and if I'm wearing a bikini then DH is like a horny teenager

Don’t have 4 DC then, last year I was in one hotel room with the two teen girls, DH next door with one pre teen girl and DS. No chance if anything happening. Even when we have a 3 bed villa teens go to bed after us I’m always too knackered