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Friends wants me to pay towards her hotel room,aibu not too?

314 replies

lisaandpop · 05/04/2019 12:35

Me and two friends and her 14 year old daughter are going to London on Sunday night to see a show.
My friend booked two twin rooms at £80 per room.
I thought great that's £40 each for me and my friend.
My other friend has turned around and said that's around £53.50 each.
I said it's only £40 each for me and my friend as the room is £80
She has said two rooms is £160 so that's £160 shared 3 ways.
Aibu to think this is a bit cheeky?

OP posts:
cabcab · 05/04/2019 12:46

She needs to give her head a wobble!!

DantesInferno · 05/04/2019 12:46

say "are you expecting me to pay some of the daughters ticket for the show as well???"

FoxSquadKitten · 05/04/2019 12:47

We don't know whether to just pay to save the hassle.

Err no, cheeky moo.

ChandelierSail · 05/04/2019 12:48

we would of got the triple room if my friends daughter wasn't coming..or the family room.

In that case SHE owes YOU money! One third of a triple or family room would be less than half a twin room. So by bringing her daughter you're already paying more than if the DD hadn't come.

And then she's asking you for even more!

She's a proper CF! Tell her where to go!

MadameAnchou · 05/04/2019 12:48

Haahaa! Not a chance in hell unless her 14-year-old is invisible. Very simple. 'Per bed. 4 ways. £40. Sorted.' and then she gets FA else. Hate bullying twats like this.

Hollowvictory · 05/04/2019 12:48

Just reply, I think you've made an error with the calculations. It's 80 per room so friend and I owe you 40 each

managedmis · 05/04/2019 12:50

Your kid, your cost.

Simple.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 05/04/2019 12:50

Your friend is 'coming it' ... nah - she pays for one room (her and DD) and you and the other friend pay 50% (£40) each of the second room

DarlingNikita · 05/04/2019 12:50

Spell it out. ' The cost is £160. There's four people in two rooms. £160 split four ways is £40 per person. I pay £40, friend pays £40, you pay £40 for you and £40 for your DD. now fuck off'

managedmis · 05/04/2019 12:51

This sounds a bit crap actually, will she expect you to pay for her daughters food etc?

notharryssally · 05/04/2019 12:51

Are you going to refuse?

managedmis · 05/04/2019 12:51

Splitting bills 3 ways instead of four etc.

Twotome · 05/04/2019 12:53

Please don’t just pay it to save hassle - the only person that would be causing any hassle is the CF, not you and your friend.

Smartieshavetheanswer · 05/04/2019 12:54

How close a friend is she?
You have two options:

  1. Pay up and seethe
  2. Tell her now.

She may sulk and be silly about it but stick to your guns.

VanGoghsDog · 05/04/2019 12:55

Oh, I had this with a meal out and drinks once - "we split the bill between the adults" 15 people there, only 8 to split the bill between. Er, no. I don't have any kids. I'll just pay my own, thanks!

Treaclepie19 · 05/04/2019 12:56

I agree with pp. I think you need to challenge it now before she decides meals need to be split 3 ways too.

Farmerswifey12 · 05/04/2019 12:56

Haha nice try!

Definately just £40, by that logic does she want to split the price of tickets 3 ways also?

somuchinfo · 05/04/2019 12:57

What a cheek. The parent pays for the child. 100per cent. I would never have expected anyone else to pay for my child. How dare she even suggest it.

IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 05/04/2019 12:57

Hell no, it's her child, so she gets to cover the cost of accommodation for her child. She is being an entitled cheeky fucker, do not indulge.

LazyLizzy · 05/04/2019 12:58

No way should you pay. You take responsibility for your own kids and their expenses.

Cheeky fucker at the highest.

JaneEyre07 · 05/04/2019 13:03

More fool you if you pay it.

Readytogogogo · 05/04/2019 13:06

I agree with pp that if you allow this she may assume restaurant bills etc are also split three ways not four...

Drum2018 · 05/04/2019 13:06

No way should you pay anything towards the daughters trip - not room, food or tickets. This mother has some cheek thinking you both would pay the hotel costs. You better put her straight asap and let her known that you are paying for you alone.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 05/04/2019 13:07

The mother should pay for her daughter, no question about it. Why would she think should others should subsidise it? Crazy!

Weebitawks · 05/04/2019 13:08

She's taking the piss. How can anyone expect their friends to subsidise their child?

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