To be mega pissed of by this request

[bagpuss90]

I have invited my DP female relatives over for a girlie nite at mine next week - just a buffet and drinks. I've asked them to arrive at mine at around 7 pm - which I think is reasonable for a week day nite. I get home from work at 5. So that give me two hours to walk the dogs, prepare the food ( I will be doing some of it in advance) get showered and changed.
Anyway DP,s sister has texted me to ask if I can bring it forward to 6 pm as she likes to go to bed early.
AIBU to think you don't get an invitation to someones house and call the bloody shots?

I’d say she’s welcome at 6 to help you prepare.

There's always at least one isn't there aka @BossAssBitch!! :-0

She sounds a bit of an attention seeker. Tell her the truth, that you don’t have much time to get everything ready as you don’t get in from work til 5pm, so no, she can’t come earlier. It’s at best impolite of her, at worst arrogant. If she then declines it’s her loss.

I know it sounded like I over reacted. But she unfailingly pisses me off. I just find her manners appalling- we were on holiday last last year and she remarked to me "what a huge varicose vein you have on that leg"-Jesus. Anyway back to topic- I've stuck to my guns for 7 pm. I'd say it will probably go on til around 9 30 pm. There will be 8 of us. No one else has complained about the time.
She is in bed by 7 pm most nites. Her kids are teenagers - so no school run. She says she just isn't a nite owl-but I'd hardly call my timings late

She sounds awful. If she does come, watch out for her trying to pull some attention-seeking stunt or requesting you order takeaway because the food doesn't suit her or something like that. She will be looking for a way to Make It All About Her.

She’s probably looking for an out anyway. She’s probably aware how you feel about her and doesn’t really want to come anyway. So stick to your guns. Gives her an excuse to bail

Although you say you are laid back, she is annoying you. She may like to take control by making sure she always manages to change something or put people on the back foot.

You have dealt with this perfectly. You can also just say no if she does this sort of thing in future. No reasons should be given. When she realises that you are laid back but also firm, she will stop trying.

Say no and tell her she needs to live a little. Goodness, I imagine she never goes anywhere incase she misses her bed curfew!

She sounds annoying but manageable. Don't get worked up about it.

She can leave early if she wants to go to bed 🤷🏻‍♀️

She won't help? How rude, though do you really want her help?

A 7pm bedtime for an adult seem ridiculous unless she starts work at 3am or something?

This. It's own is no big deal she doesn't know your schedule and she only asked. It seems like she's an annoying, bossy person in general so I can understand that in that context this seems like just another irritating demand.

It's not a big deal for her to ask, you can just say no. Sounds like you two have history though and this is just another irritating thing to add to the list.

Just say no and if she turns up early let her come in but just ignore her and carry on what you were doing. Make her feel awkward.

Tell her 6 is fine if she wants to help you get ready