To not understand why people want a nice house?

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My two friends are into buying plants/cushions/ornaments/flowers etc etc for their house but i don't get it.
What's the point? Only the people living in it see it.
As long as you have the basics fridge /bed etc
Why do you need all the rest?
A bloody tray with scented candles /those smelly things with the sticks etc
I've tried to get into homey things but I just can't
Am I the only woman who doesn't get it?

AlsoHuman. Could you quit with the insults?

As Speakout explained, it’s not that I don’t see pieces of art I like, just nothing that I’d like to have day in, day out, for any length of time.

If I saw a piece of original
Art I really loved and could see myself enjoying for many years, I’d buy it, if I saw a print I really liked from a chain store, market place or anywhere else I’d buy it. For me, I t’s about what I LIKE not about trying to impress anyone 🤷🏻‍♀️

However, anything going up on my walls will be things that mean something to me. Mostly my own photography.

I’ve insulted nobody. Believe me, if I wanted to insult anyone, I could do a lot better than that!😊

Well, who the fuck indeed would want such a silly thing as a nice house? More importantly, why be healthy and wealthy when being poor and ill is so much fun?

No, seriously, if you love your job and live at your workplace and go home only to sleep, you wouldn't understand people who are twatted by their jobs and want to crawl back into their cosy hole at the end of the day, and slam the door on reality. You'd find freaks who say they love their jobs AND have nice houses (but those just wind everyone up, no doubt)...

For me a nice house is important and means a clean, tidy house, with high ceilings, lots of sunshine, and without food smells. It's not so much cushions and candles, and definitely not those godawful Wick room fresheners you plug into the sockets. The Wick people are usually the type who can chop down a beautiful tree in full bloom, cements all over their garden and drives Audi.

Alsohuman
I wouldn’t put crap from chain stores on my wall

I wouldn't either. But a lot of people "read the magazines" and "get ideas", also safe in the knowledge that their friends also read the same stuff and won't laugh at their tastes. Conformism, basically. Following trends. It's that idea to "liven up your room with a blob of colour". ffs.

Your home is your haven! The place where you retreat to, recharge, the more comfortable it is the nicer it is for us. Why shouldn't home be a positive happy relaxing experience. Your home should be filled with whatever creature comforts suit you and your family. Individual choice of course. Personally I like to feel as comfortable as possible at home. I don't just want the bare essentials as it's where I spend the lions share of my time.

But if it's your choice to only have what is absolutely needed and necessary to live then that's your choice.

All depends what makes you happy and what is important to you I guess.

Perhaps that's why you don't like being at home so much OP because it's soul less?

The Wick people are usually the type who can chop down a beautiful tree in full bloom, cements all over their garden and drives Audi

Actually I’m the kind of person who finds the Ambipure pet plug in actually does stop the house smelling of cat.

I don't understand why someone wouldn't want a nice house. I like to feel comfortable at home and be surrounded by items that please me. DP and I sometimes argue about paintings and prints for the wall, but he usually gives in to my better judgement as I'm more arty than him. I like a clean house but one that looks lived in, so some people would think that its untidy.

We are all different.I have a house I like. It would not be to everyone's tastes. It's quite large and objectively pretty nice but like the original posters here I don't have things like scented candles, plug in smell things or anything like that etc - my house is probably a bit too minimalist for some people - I like clean surfaces - eg there are only 2 photographs up around the house.

We are all different. Some love their clutter and others are quite spartan. It was very apparent when our parents died (in the same house). My mother's areas had all kinds of things sometimes in a jumble and in piles. My father's tended to be in order, in filing cabinets - surfaces relatively clear. It can be because of different personality types.

I don't understand why someone wouldn't want a nice house.
me neither.

It doesn't matter that we all have different taste and personality, but not being in a home that YOU like and feel comfortable in, it's weird. It's the only place in the world where you can be yourself and relax, I don't understand why you wouldn't want to make it nice for you.

It's the only place in the world where you can be yourself and relax

Speak for yourself.

BlueSkiesLies
Actually I’m the kind of person who finds the Ambipure pet plug in actually does stop the house smelling of cat - well, power to your pussy then! Good to know it helps. I'm more in need of something which might smell like ChanelN5 and sprayed on the sofa to repel one of the shits from scratching it. he thinks it's funny, you see.

Babuchak That's pretty extreme and not in any way a universal truth.

I'm currently being myself and relaxing in a quiet, airy library...

Some people are shy and can relax only at home. I don't think it's extreme, it's just how they are. At least this is my own perspective as a former shy person, but there could be other reasons for someone else to feel this way.

BloodyDisgrace I'm sure that's true for some people. It wasn't written as a personal experience though "it's the only place in the world where you can be yourself and relax, I don't understand why you wouldn't make it nice for you" ("you" could be general or presuming that the OP feels that way, it certainly isn't written in the first person.

Most things are true for some people, but I'd hazard a guess that most people are able to be themselves and relax in places other than their own four walls, even if the other places are limited - good friends' houses, parents house, local pub or cafe, knitting circle meet, rambling club, horse riding, walking the dog in the countryside, or whatever one individual prefers.

Most people can be themselves and relax somewhere other than there house, and many people can do so in a multitude of places, and that includes some introverted people who can make their private, relaxing, time and space to themselves in a favourite bookshop or library or people watching cafe or wherever as well as at home.

*their house not there

I like my home and need it because I have a family including school aged children, but a nomadic existence (if I had enough money and no responsibility) has held an allure for me for as long as I can remember. I'd love not to have the responsibility of a home if I could afford to live nomadically in comfortable hotels, holiday lets and so on... I feel no need to nest and curate a space with soft furnishings and art if it were just for me. I do have cushions and paintings and photos... But I can imagine not having them happily.

My mother refers to her house as one of her children...