To not understand why people want a nice house?

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My two friends are into buying plants/cushions/ornaments/flowers etc etc for their house but i don't get it.
What's the point? Only the people living in it see it.
As long as you have the basics fridge /bed etc
Why do you need all the rest?
A bloody tray with scented candles /those smelly things with the sticks etc
I've tried to get into homey things but I just can't
Am I the only woman who doesn't get it?

You’re just not interested in interior design OP and there’s nothing wrong with that, we’re all different. I definitely think we inherit many of our interests so if your parents were the same, it follows. My mum wasn’t a keen cook and neither am I but we are keen gardeners and homemakers.

I have friends who think my lack of interest in cookery is weird. It’s just not something I can get excited about and I tend to have to fake an interest when people talk to me about food.

I'm not depressed ...that was probably a bad choice of wording.
I'm not keen on being in the house alone is it's quiet etc
I prefer to go out with friends and save money for weekends away etc
Rather than spend it on the house.

So… don't spend money on your house? Tbh I'm still struggling with the point of the thread! Different people prioritise their money differently. Your friends buy cushions, you buy day trips. No one is wrong here.

lol by yourself love

I love my home and keep it clean, decorated, ordered and (in my view) beautiful with lovely things. It is my oasis of calm and my refuge against the world. I find it the greatest pleasure to look after my house. I have just spent the afternoon painting a white downstairs cloakroom - white.

Perhaps you are a minimalist-to-the-max, OP

For me it's an expression of my personality, i like to surround myself with things that make me happy. If there's nothing it would just look a little empty or bare

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Because those things turn a house from a spartan soulless place into a cosy home.

Because my house is my sanctuary. It's my calm space. It's where I'm me. I do blankets and cushions and candles and a few ornaments and make sure my furniture works well with other pieces. I decant all dried foods into glass jars with labels.

Because that's just what makes me happy. I need an organised, calm but attractive home for my mental health.

I'm a SAHM got so fed up of just cooking and cleaning all day so reshuffled finances and now got to my local gym 5 mornings a week it's £15 per month that includes swimming and any classes you'd like to attend too. It really helps me break the day up a bit i just put my earphones in and off i go. Bonus side is I've lost over 2 stone but its worked wonders with my mood i now feel less down and depressed

Off to Google Mrs Hinch

What a bizarre post.
I think it’s abit sad to not want to live in a nice house .
I enjoy decorating my house and I love having people over to visit .

Well. That's 15 seconds of my life I'll never get back

".....I'm not keen on being in the house alone is it's quiet etc
I prefer to go out with friends ..........."

I love being on my own in the house as it's quiet, I rarely go out with friends - often asked but nearly always decline.....good to see we are all different but maybe that is why I like my house full of tat, its my personal sanctuary away from being sociable!

Because it’s my home, my sanctuary, I want to feel comfortable, relaxed and happy amongst other things.

That’s why us ‘normal’ people clean and change towels and bedding, light candles, hang pictures etc.

You live in a cave if you want, just don’t come over all pompous because you still want to live like a student with dirty pots under your bed.

Honestly, if you can’t understand that some people (most people in fact) want a nice, welcoming home, I think you’re a bit weird. What’s so difficult in understanding that not everyone thinks and acts like you?

Er...my home is my live work space so it’s not beautiful or zen by any stretch of the imagination and hardly ever tidy hence it’s not really giving me the vibe to entertain or feel supremely happy looking at it. Conversely I’m happy as no ex threatening to chuck out my work stuff in order to entertain. For me my priority is work, keeping my costs down and paying mortgages, bills and getting essentials are covered then I will worry about making it pretty, bigger and entertaining later. I think it’s a luxury and if you have the time, energy and money go ahead but for others it’s not the priority. I must say I do love an interior designed space though. It’s paradise, but put me in it for more than a holiday and I’d wonder where the hell to put my stuff and not ruin the beautiful lines, colours and empty spaces.

Does anyone remember the 'twigs and pebblley shit' thread? Basically some people love putting stuff in their homes, and others don't get it. Magazines telling me what's 'in' this season and what cushions I 'ought' to have drive me up the wall. I like my home, have some nice things (second hand bargains!) and draw the line at the rest. I think we in the West are too conditioned to spending money on stuff and things. I also think that people's personal choices may have to do with how they were brought up, along with e.g. religion- if you were brought up in quite a spartan home and taught that there is a higher power, and that beliefs and how you act are more important than stuff, you may be quite happy without a lot of stuff. Maybe age comes into it too? As I've got older I struggle to see the point of having loads of stuff, although my DD feels like that and she's 24. You feel more free if you're not surrounded by loads of stuff. Some older people though like to hang onto 'things', memories of their happy life when they were younger. We're all different, and I don't think the OP is weird to feel as she does - we are each made up of our experiences, perceptions and beliefs, which differ.

Op that changes it though doesn't it.

If it's a choice between spending on your home, or a social life, most young peoole would pick the social life,

So then the question is if you could easily afford both, a social life as you pleas, and a nice home, would you still live as you do?

There is a big difference between minimalist (often actually quite expensive, and carefully curated), and spartan. A home doesn’t need to have a lot off stuff in it to be warm and welcoming, but a hotch potch of random/mismatched/tired/broken furnishings makes it feel like a student house. And there is nothing wrong with a student house, we’ve all been there, but it’s nice to have a home that’s, well, homely.

I viewed a house recently. It was a large 1920s family home, potentially a very nice house, but the inhabitants had furnished it (and were living in) like a student let. It wasn’t the only thing that was wrong with it (overpriced for the amount of work needed), but it’s so much harder to see it as a family home when it’s not really dressed as one

Did someone state they wanted to live like this

No, but why should the facts get in the wayof a good rant?

Having beauty around makes me happy. It's strange you don't see the point. I put lot of effort on my bedroom and bathroom to make them nice. All for my own benefit

It's strange you don't see the point

But it seems it's not about the op not seeing rhe point in reality and more about she can only afford to spend on either her social life or her home, not both, so picks her social life.