To not understand why people want a nice house?

[tittletattlelolo]

My two friends are into buying plants/cushions/ornaments/flowers etc etc for their house but i don't get it.
What's the point? Only the people living in it see it.
As long as you have the basics fridge /bed etc
Why do you need all the rest?
A bloody tray with scented candles /those smelly things with the sticks etc
I've tried to get into homey things but I just can't
Am I the only woman who doesn't get it?

I think there was an issue with DDIJ's home

Please correct me if I'm wrong DDIJ, a flood or something, I do recall she wished to sell her home if she could, but it was in too bad of a state, and wishes to live in her car and spendS much of her time now sitting in her car and not going in, so I think different issues there.

Because who wants to spend half your life in a shitbox! How depressing.

When I was young my parents were the same,maybe it's just as it's what I'm used too.
I'm not sure.

I can understand if you want a bare minimilist home, hate clutter, not into interiors etc... I just don't understand a thread about it. Unless you want to change of course.

It's like someone mentioned upthread about clothes. Why add a scarf or jewellery, when all the PP does is wear trousers and a top. It's because it adds to the whole look and having pride in yourself. That sounds rude, I don't mean to be. With me, I'm trying to draw attention from a spare tyre so add a long necklace!

That obviously doesn't apply with homes. I don't do it for other people, I do it for me, but it is quite nice if someone comes in (we entertain lots) and says 'I love how this room looks'.

What I hate is seeing on rightmove those houses literally covered with clutter and stuff and jarring patterns and colours, ornaments, hanging things, feathers, bows, twigs, whatever... where you can barely see the walls. Not for me, but we're all different.

Weird thread. Why wouldn’t you want to live in nice surroundings? It has a huge impact on your mental well being.

You don't need it. You need the essentials. But it's nice. I like a nice home because I like to feel comfortable and surrounded by the things that make me happy. I'm a homebody - I work from home, love to be at home, and when I'm out for work occasionally or off on my travels, I like coming home.

You don't need a home filled with 'things' - but even minimilist houses usually have nice design and the few things in them are well chosen, beautiful items

Like, in my study I have to keep some papers. I could just have them in an untidy ugly pile on the floor. But the room makes me feel calmer and happier and more conducive to working, when the papers are in nice looking storage boxes, on a nice book case.

You don't need a home filled with 'things' - but even minimilist houses usually have nice design and the few things in them are well chosen, beautiful items

Agree, minimalist is not nothing past th basics. Minimalist is a very specific design and the pieces used are normally used for maximum impact. It's not simply an empty shell.

And beautiful things in your home, or a home you love, is clearly not "twiggy shit" it's art, rugs, throws, cushions, furniture, many things, but it's certainly not just "twiggy shit". However if someone likes "twiggy shit" or even those "live laugh love" signs, then that's fine too. It's their home. People can do as they please.

Op, does you home make you happy when you come back and shut the door? Or when you get up in the morning and look around?

Yet you wear make-up. An unneccesssary embellishment, expense and frippery. Why do you do that?

I don't, I think it's a waste of time and money and usually results in people who look like they're wearing make-up, nothing more, nothing less.

OP, if you want to wear only grey boiler suits, shave off your hair, live in a pseudo-prison cell and live a life of the mind, do it. Does it make you happy? Enable you to live the life you want to live? Great.

Or, if you just don't really know what you like, what works for you, what would actually make your life better and are feeling uncomfortable about this - which is how your posts read - then try out different things by visiting different people's homes, holiday accommodation, shops, public buildings etc and thinking about what you enjoy about them and what you don't. Then try things yourself. Get rid of the stuff you don't use or like and only keep the things that work for you. Or try living with someone else and being relaxed about accepting their taste. Or just live in a tent in a grden. Whatever works for you and the people you want to live with.

Feel like this is a dig at Mrs Hinch hahaha

I’m in the middle of doing up my kitchen/living room atm. It’s a pain in the arse, as we’re doing a little bit whenever we have time off work. It’s been going on for 3 weeks now. I’m painting the skirting today and thinking to myself “why the fuck do I need to do this?” I’ve also realised the bright white colour I insisted on buying looks shit. Dh wanted a different cream colour but I chose this. I can’t back out of it now either. Making a house look “nice” is fricking hard work. But it’s worth it in the end. I like my diffusers in the hallway to come home to a nice welcoming smell.

I think the key question is does your home make you happy op?

Making a house a home is not something that needs to be done overnight, or all in one hit. It's about starting slowly, buying something you love, painted a room, whatever, and working your way Through it, step by step.when yiu have time or money, or both.

Your home should make you feel happy. When you come into it, or when you wake up in the morning.

And that's why people do it. It's not material things making someone happy, it's living in surroundings you like, which appeal to you, which you created, which is unique to you, which is comfortable, and reflects your personality.

Mrs Hinch is just coming up on This Morning.

Have never heard of her I'm prepared to be educated...

Ahhh it's not about styling a home or interiors, it's about cleaning??

Mrs hinch is about cleaning yes, I don't use any of her tips, and I don't watch for that, but she creases me up with her stories on Instagram, She gets really excited about the smallest stuff and seems lovely,

I don't understand the attraction of flowers on the hob, but each to their own. Her watchability for me is how she behaves, for example the last few days she's been shitting it about going on this morning. She's really quite endearing, I think that's why she's so popular. 🤣

Bluntness100
Your home should make you feel happy. When you come into it, or when you wake up in the morning.

This exactly. Plants make me happy. I love seeing my houseplants everyday. We have little bowls of shells and stones that caught our eye while walking on the beach. Pieces of unusual or aesthetically pleasing pieces of bark or wood found on our nature walks. None of these cost us any money but add character and joy. I love visiting people and seeing what they like to surround themselves with, the character of their home. It is their self expression. It can be a conversation starter eg. I like this ornament it is interesting/unique/artistic. Where did you find it? What is it? Sometimes I get some good ideas for my home too.

Well why does it matter to you whether they like to or not?
It doesn't affect you surely.

I wear make up and nice clothes because 1.it makes me feel good about myself and 2.i wouldn't want to look a mess outside when I'm meeting with people for work etc
In my home ..where rarely anyone comes it just seems pointless as nobody sees it but me.

I love everything in my house. If I don't love it I give it away. I won't have staged stuff for the sake of it but neither am I like a neighbour who says 'right we need something to eat off' and then buys the most basic kitchen table ever, with no thought as to its aesthetics. She needs a table and that's what she gets. When I need a table I hunt for the loveliest I can afford ( usually second hand)
On the other hand I have a friend who has all these silly sparkly cushions everywhere, they prick you when you sit near them and she then removes them as they're just for show, it's totally bizarre imo but her choice.

Depends what you want to look at and be surrounded by then, doesn't it!

If you were happy with your choices, you wouldn't have started this thread. You're clearly wondering if you're missing something.

It's possible that your domestic environment might make you feel good about yourself - to the extent that wearing nice clothes does this
for you, independently of other people looking at you.

Even if someone never has a visitor, so their home is never seen by anyone else, that doesn't mean they don't deserve a nice environment to live in, though, does it, @tittletattlelolo?

If your home wasn't a comfortable and pleasant place for you to be, wouldn't you do something to change that?

Of course, what makes your home comfortable and pleasant for you doesn't have to be the same as what makes my home comfortable and pleasant for me - but in my opinion, your home should be somewhere where you feel most secure and relaxed, and it makes sense to have things around you that contribute to that feeling.

If you did live a life of the mind, interested only in ideas, with no interest in how things look, or visual awareness of your surroundings, I don't believe dressing well would make you feel good.

Sorry - I posted too soon.

I meant to say this - you say you wear make up because it makes you feel good about yourself. I almost never wear make up - I am crap at doing it, and don't find it makes me feel better about myself.

But I can understand why other people do find it boosts their confidence/self esteem/self image - and I understand that we are all different and like different things - so I don't question why SOME people need to wear make up, simply because I don't feel that need.

Even if a person never has visitors and they really are the only people who see the interior of their homes () why wouldn't people buy things that they consider to be "homely". Surely everyone wants their home to have a pleasant atmosphere and for a lot of people, these items help to contribute to that. There's nothing better than feeling relaxed and content in your home.

Of course there will be people who don't feel the need for such items to create the desired atmosphere in their home but surely you can still "get" why many people take pleasure in having such items in their homes?