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Am I annoyed at nothing?

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coolas90 · 02/04/2019 15:44

A work colleague said she forgot to bring her bank card in and she needed to get her mum a bottle of wine for her birthday. She asked if I could buy it and she would transfer the money by online banking.

I bought it and sent her my bank details as requested. She said she would do it later. This was yesterday.

I asked this morning about it and she said she'd do it at lunch time. Lunch has past and she hasn't transferred.

Do I look desperate if I ask again? It's only £7 but it's not the point! It's money I could do without losing!

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canonlyhopexo · 02/04/2019 15:45

I would say just to let you know I've checked my bank account and I can't see that it's transferred in just wanted to let you know in case there's an error with your banking your end.

Bookworm4 · 02/04/2019 15:47

Your colleague is a CF, the amount is irrelevant; you helped her out you should've chasing her up. Tell her to transfer it by end of day or you'll be letting other colleagues know she's a CF.

CheekyChappy710 · 02/04/2019 15:49

No dont give up. Shes counting on you forgetting and shes £7 up! Tell her you'll take £10 cash if the online banking isn't working and you'll give her the change "later"

Tomtontom · 02/04/2019 15:49

What time does she finish? As she goes to leave stand by her desk and tell her you'll wait for her to do it. Keep it smiley and nice, but in an I'm not moving until it's done kind of way.

mbosnz · 02/04/2019 15:50

I'd be saying - money still not there, please transfer it immediately, and I don't want to be having to bring this up again.

If she still hadn't done it by the time you're all next in the cafetaria or wherever you congregate, after that, I'd be saying in front of everybody else, 'could you please transfer that money you owe me after I spotted you for your Mum's booze after you 'forgot' your bank card like you said you would - and haven't'. . .

Viobihi · 02/04/2019 15:57

I hate this sort of shit! It’s not the amount that matters, it’s the fact she’s totally taking the piss - that would annoy me no end!

It literally takes 2 minutes to transfer money from one account to another so she has no excuse. She was bold enough to ask you for it, so you be bold enough, to keep asking for it back.

It’s so embarrassing on her part, I’d never ask a work colleague for money never mind not give them it back.

Original poster
coolas90 · 02/04/2019 15:57

I think I just feel a little embarrassed asking AGAIN as I look like I need the money. But the other half of my brain is thinking that's MY money.

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Viobihi · 02/04/2019 15:59

Exactly, it’s your money. It’s her that should be embarrassed, not you.

wigglypiggly · 02/04/2019 16:00

CF. Ask her to get the money into your account this afternoon then delete your bank details, either that or tell her you want this money today so can she go to a cashpoints.

ShinyRuby · 02/04/2019 16:03

It's not just the amount it's the principle as well. Just keep asking. If she's cheeky enough to suggest you're desperate just agree. And she'll have to find somebody else with a handy bank card to help her next time won't she?

CookPassBabtridge · 02/04/2019 16:10

It's so annoying when people put you in these awkward situations, just fucking transfer it!

Original poster
coolas90 · 02/04/2019 16:57

Thanks everyone.

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M4J4 · 02/04/2019 17:05

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. She should be embarrassed. Always get your money back, it builds character and resilience!

doctorsbag · 02/04/2019 17:08

Did she really want it for her mother’s birthday?

Seeleyboo · 02/04/2019 17:14

OP if you earn minimum wage, it took you almost an hour to earn that 7 quid. If your boss said OP you can work tonight for 1 hour for free would you accept that. Hmm demand it back CF.

Original poster
coolas90 · 03/04/2019 09:45

I'm speechless. I asked again and she's said she'll buy me a bottle of wine.

I'm going to forget about it but I've learned a lesson here

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Original poster
coolas90 · 03/04/2019 09:47

I said I didn't want any wine and she changed the fucking topic of conversation. I'm so annoyed!

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Prinstress · 03/04/2019 09:48

Is SHE not embarrassed?!

I would very firmly tell her you want the money in your bank now, and physically wait until she does it.

drum12345 · 03/04/2019 09:48

Don't forget about it, hound her. Email her, text her, make her life so miserable that giving you the money back will be preferable!

Original poster
coolas90 · 03/04/2019 09:50

I honestly feel embarrassed fussing over £7 but the reality is, I DO need it. I have a small child who takes every bloody penny I have

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Onceuponacheesecake · 03/04/2019 09:52

Seriously. If she can't be that feckless to your face I'd stop worrying about sounding rude or desperate and tell her that's not okay and you need to money.

AtrociousCircumstance · 03/04/2019 09:54

Don’t forget about it - tell her firmly that if she doesn’t repay you then she’s effectively stealing.

CF Angry

AtrociousCircumstance · 03/04/2019 09:55

And you’re not fussing - it’s your money plus it’s the principle. Ugh what a nasty piece of work she is!

ShinyPinkLipgloss · 03/04/2019 09:55

I’d be telling all and sundry at work about this. She is banking on you backing off - I wouldn’t on principle.

BluishMoon · 03/04/2019 09:56

I'm speechless too, how the hell can someone be so cheeky?

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