Am I annoyed at nothing?

[coolas90]

A work colleague said she forgot to bring her bank card in and she needed to get her mum a bottle of wine for her birthday. She asked if I could buy it and she would transfer the money by online banking.

I bought it and sent her my bank details as requested. She said she would do it later. This was yesterday.

I asked this morning about it and she said she'd do it at lunch time. Lunch has past and she hasn't transferred.

Do I look desperate if I ask again? It's only £7 but it's not the point! It's money I could do without losing!

"I'll get you a bottle of wine"
"Wine won't buy my child dinner."

"I'll get you a bottle of wine"
"Wine won't buy my child dinner."

This. Don't let it go.

OP,

I’d be tempted to send her an email with a link to this thread! All of mumsnet is in agreement - she is a CF!

I am horrified at the CFuckery of this person. Please do not feel embarrassed about the amount - it is your money! This person doesn't get to decide how you spend your money!
Ask her in front of people - she is banking on your embarrassment.

I wouldn't let it go. I'd make sure I mentioned it to them in front of colleagues too. I'd say, "Hey cf, forget about the wine. I really need that money you owe me transferring now as I've a direct debit due and without the transfer I won't have enough in the account. Or I need the cash so I can pay it in".

Ask around. I bet she’s had people buy her alcohol before.

Forget about the wine you said you'd buy me I meant!!

She wants to make money by getting you a cheaper bottle. Or hoping you will forget.

I would now be asking loudly everyday Infront of colleges.She has no excuse this early in the month for not repaying,this was a temporary loan.
Stop being embarrassed and be angry.

Solid gold CF right there!

Get her told that you don’t want wine, you want YOUR money back, NOW! Do it loudly, show her up for the cheeky, brassnecked twat she is!

Omg! What a cf!!

She said she’d buy you wine?! 😳 WTAF!!!

What an absolute cheek! Tell her you need the money to feed your child - you weren’t going to buy wine with it.

I’d be fucking fuming OP. In fact, I’m fuming for you!

Just keep emailing until she transfers it. Unbelievable.

Don't let it go! Do the opposite, be unrelenting, make her life a bloody misery. Every morning greet her with "Have you got my £7?" Every email you need to send her, add an additional bullet point reminding her of the £7. Check in with her at the end of each day: "Still haven't been sent my money." Grind her down. Slap an invoice on her desk after every lunch break.

Majorly CFery, if you can face it the suggestion about telling her you needing the money for food is a good one.

@coolas90
I honestly feel embarrassed fussing over £7 but the reality is, I DO need it. I have a small child who takes every bloody penny I have
OP £7 is a lot of money out a working person's weekly budget, especially with a baby's needs to take into account. Remember this is money you've already paid tax on!

What does the money represent that you could get for your child? And why can she afford to get you a bottle of wine but not give you your cash back - I'm assuming she was aiming to buy you the cheapest wine - but still not the point.

Don't let this drop - she is banking on you being too embarrassed and her bring £7 up.

Needless to say - don't lend her or any other colleague in future.

The amount of money doesn’t matter, it’s the principle. Keep asking until you get it back, she’s hoping you’ll just let it slide.

I’d honestly be fuming but probably too shy to ask again which is ridiculous. I wouldn’t be able to do it face to face. I’d email and say “I’m going shopping now can you please transfer the wine money, or come over and give me cash??”

OK yeah that's MEGA cheeky. You don't want wine, you want your money! No Need to be embarrassed about the amount either - £7 makes a big difference to my weekly shopping bill, especially when you have kids! As others have said - stand firm, ask her outright, in front of others if necessary.

I have been in a similar situation and I understand why you are willing to let it go. Like your CF of a colleague, mine insinuated that I was cheap and not that he was being dishonorable. I do not like confrontation, especially not with unscrupulous people as I had no idea to what depths they are willing to sink. For my own sense of peace, I considered my unrepaid expenditure a £20 lesson. He was demoted and quit year later. I was not sorry to see him go. May your colleague suffer a similar fate.

I'd be inclined to walk over to her desk and say "Here are my bank details, please transfer the money you owe me now." Any nonsense about doing it in a minute/ not having time etc and I'd grab a chair,make myself comfy and say with a smile "It's ok, I can wait."

Any fuss and I'd tell EVERYONE, very loudly!

Yes ask loudly in front of people. Once people hear you asking there may be a few others that come out of the woodwork where she has, conveniently, forgotten to repay what is owed. In which case I’d get them all together to complain to HR about her stealing from her colleagues.

I would be very surprised if she hasn't done this before.

Ask around as to whether she has borrowed money for booze before. You might get some backup then to confront her. If not, write her a company email about the matter so there is a record.

I DID IT! I asked again and i got it!

Maybe she was being genuine and kept forgetting. My bad!

Thanks everyone