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Help- ndn and dv what should I do ??

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Shamoogren · 02/04/2019 12:10

Help. New ndn moved in one month ago. My friend on the other side heard him being verbally abusive a couple of weeks ago. Yest I heard what can only be described as taunting, then him shouting very very loudly, then thumps and smashing noises then crying. It was in the afternoon I was home unwell. It was literally so loud through the wall it was as though he was in the room with me. God forbid. I immediately phoned my friend who owns the house to tell her as I did not know what else to do - she phoned the letting agent who phoned them to say that if it happens again notice will be served.

I feel terrible for her and how to get her the help she needs. His daughter visits every other weekend so it is no doubt a cp concern to me. I'm terrified of him as a result and certainly don't want him to target me, unlikely as that most probably is.

What is the best thing to do? Obviously my first concern is for the woman's welfare not for them to be evicted.

OP posts:
Shamoogren · 04/04/2019 14:18

Thanks berrow.
She spoke to the police and told them she heard shouting and taunting as well.

OP posts:
Thegoodthere · 04/04/2019 15:57

You've escaped dv and your first thought was still to call your friend and not the police? Still, glad you've taken this stuff on board. I'm sure the woman next door is more terrified than you, though.

Cheby · 04/04/2019 16:35

I find your fixation with making sure the landlord is informed really odd. You experienced DV yourself? Would you have been ok with a witness’ first thought being to make sure your landlord was aware of the potential risk to their property? Fuck the risk to their property. It’s a chance they take being a BTL landlord. I’m gobsmacked.

No one called the police for me either. I don’t know whether the neighbours heard but I suspect they did. We lived in a terrace with paper thin walls.

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