Expensive holiday club vs child maintenance

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Parent A has residence of 2 DC. Parent B has visitation for a couple of hours fortnightly, and pays quite good maintenance (around £1K/ month).
Parent A wants one of the children to attend a specialised Easter holiday club (STEM focused, with robotics and other fancy topics). The issue is that the club is quite posh (around £400 for a week, and not even for a full day). The child is of primary school age and there is no pressing educational need for them to attend.
Parent A asked for an additional contribution of £200 from Parent B towards the cost of the club. What is your opinion - should this be already covered by the regular maintenance payments or is Parent A reasonable in this request?

The request is reasonable but I guess parent B isn't obliged.

However, if they can afford £1k a month and is barely bothering to even see their children, they could at least cough off some cash imo.

The bigger issue is why is parent B only seeing their children so little?

These person a and b threads are getting on my tits tonight. They're an eyesore to read.

maintenance is for everyday costs. resident parent is having to find extra costs for extras, so why shouldn't she ask for extra from non resident p? he could say no though if he is a tight git.

are you the not resident parent's partner?

Money doesn't see to be an issue with patent B. It doesn't seem an unreasonable request. Why such minimal contact?

Parent A can ask, it’s quite reasonable for Parent B to say no, that’s a ludicrous amount of money to spend on a small child and if you want them to do it then fund it yourself.

Perhaps the child wants to go to the club and A doesn't wasn't them to miss out so is asking B for financial support since they're happy handing cash over instead of offering their time?

A isn't BU to ask, it's an additional cost not factored into maintenance.
B wouldn't BU to say no because they do not need to fund non-essentials but if they can I would.

It sounds like both parent A and B are bitter people and the club issue is neither here nor there. They need to work out their issues if they're going to co-parent successfully. If it's not an Easter club it's going to be a Summer club. It all sounds tedious.

1k a month is not 'quite good', it's more than some people earn.
If it is parent A's choice to suggest a non usual childcare which carries a large cost, then parent A would be responsible for that. If B helps out, fine, but A should be prepared to foot the bill.

Similar situation here with high earning ex (giving >£2k a month for two children) but more context (fortnightly for 2 nights)

The question is... is the maintenance written in to consent order? If so and he doesn’t want to - then done to say no.

However in my case, we have a good relationship and if my ex thought it was a good course and I was asking for a contribution given it’s expensive - he would agree certainly

So all depends on relationship really

Totally missing to point of the post but.........£400 a week?!?!?! Not even full days?!? Jesus christ

It’s fine for parent A to ask but it’s also fine for parent B to say no.

Why does parent B rarely see their child?

My DH and I often choose holiday activities that are more than the cheapest available child care. If we split, budgets would be less flexible, but I would hope we would both do our best to prioritize dd and let her choose as many interesting holiday activities as feasible.

Contact is without overnights due to work commitments / schedule of Parent B. This is also the reason why maintenance payments are so high - apparently only overnights count in the eyes of the government as contact.

Both parent A and B need to stop being dickheads.

But no i wouldn't stump up £200 pound for a club that exh decided ds was going to.

The what parent b paying the CMS minimum?

I assume parent A works.

Piss off with cant have over nights because of schedule.

Cant schedule one night per week? Ever?

I am not the new partner, more an independent observer, but Parent B asked for my opinion (also in respect of whether the cost of this club is reasonable, which I agree is obscene).

You are the poster that's constantly posting about your brother and silly and your niece/nephew, arent you?

sil not silly

If the maintenance isn't court ordered and Parent A suspects they'd get less from going the CMS route, I wouldn't be pushing it.

I don't know though - I'd want my child to attend things that encouraged their interested, together with the other parent or separated. If they were together presumably Parent B would have other expenses for the children than just maintenance costs. If the child really wants to go to this I'd offer the £200 or even £100.

Parent A's choice to send a primary aged child to a non-essential activity. Parent A should not expect parent B to contribute.

If its in richmond/Kensington my DD went to that club and loved it - she is fairly geeky and not into sport so it was a rare treat to do something like this. It was also really well staffed - people who know their stuff not gap year students. I think it's a fair suggestion obviously it's up to parent b whether or not to offer the suggestion and will depend on if they can afford it and how much the kid wants to go.

Some of the reactions here are utterly absurd. Whilst an expensive club, if parents can afford this why wouldn’t they? Don’t parents want the best for their children?

Calling parents who are willing to support the interests of their children “dickheads” says more about your parenting than the OP’s.

What I actually think parent B should do: decline to pay the extra for the club, take a week off work and look after his children himself for once.

Don’t parents want the best for their children?

And who gets to make that call?

While the best interests of the child are the most important. Where does that stop? It one parent gets to decide?