Prime example of CFery from previous home owner... Aibu?

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Two years I've been on MN and this is both my first AIBU and my first CF post! So...

We bought our house 5 years ago. It was previously owned jointly by three male colleagues (let's call them Tom, Dick and Harry). To give a bit of background context there were lots of small niggles shortly after we exchanged- when we moved in it turned out the 3 guys had left a crap load of furniture/broken equipment in the house that they no longer wanted and the garden was littered with hundreds of cigarette ends (no exaggeration). The loft was even left full of their stuff. "Tom" hasn't been any bother to us to give him an iota of credit. For the first 2 years "Dick" caused us no end of trouble as we had weekly letters and calls from debt collection agencies threatening to send bailiffs as he owed a lot of people a lot of money and naturally hadn't left any forwarding addresses. Knew my rights re:bailiffs so wasn't worried but it was frankly a pain in the arse to deal with. Damn you Dick.

The AIBU relates to what I think is cheeky fuckery on Harry's part. Harry randomly turned up on our doorstep three months after we'd moved in to say he'd come to collect his stuff from the loft. My inclination was to tell him we'd got rid of it all to teach a valuable lesson but my DH instantly said "no worries" and went and got the stuff for him from the loft. (He's a good egg). In year two of living here we got a lot of clearly NHS mail for Harry from our local hospital marked Private and Urgent. I didn't open any of the mail but could see the department number from the envelope window so called the hospital just to let them know Harry doesn't live here anymore so they might need to call him instead. Problem solved.

Fast forward 3 years and tonight my DH and I got home from a long trip to find a note put through our door "Hi, it's Harry here. I used to own your house. I'm expecting an important appointment letter from my GP and they have my registered address as here so can you let me know when it arrives. My number is XXXX. Thanks, Harry". I sent a reply saying that I'd look out for it but it was probably wise to check as I'd told the hospital before he didn't live here so it might not be sent here. Also said it might be a good idea to update his GP surgery with his new address. Got a reply a few minutes later saying "no it'll definitely come to you. I haven't told them I've moved as I can get appointments really quickly in that surgery and you can let me know when letters arrive".

So- basically he's refusing to register with a surgery in his own area so he can keep using up appointments here... and also expects me to look out for his mail and act as his secretary. I'm sorry but what the actual fuck?! It's been 5 years, just change your sodding GP surgery!! I've a good mind to get the letter and then tell him it's here but also call the surgery that stamps the envelope to tell them he's not living here anymore. AIBU to do that? Or should I just message him to say I'll let him know this once but I'm not doing it again? Or is that fact I've just endured a 3 hour car trip with a screaming toddler meaning I'm being overly harsh?

I had this at the last house I rented. They had been moved out 6mths and I’d been there 6mths, still got loads of post for them, doctors letters for their children, bank statements etc I used to putnit all back in the post box, return to sender. They turned up on my door step one Sunday afternoon “we had a new credit card come here, has it arrived yet”. I’d put in the post box that morning 😂

Honestly? Return to sender. Stop enabling him, seriously!! Don't do it 'this one time!'

I bet it’s a test result from the GUM clinic and he doesn’t want his wife to know

We bought a house from CFs. They didn’t move out for 3 days! And refused to give a forwarding address as they didn’t want us to sue them for beach of contract. So we keep all the bits they had left behind and sent all correspondence RTS.

They even sent a courier a fortnight later to pick up the range cooker that was included in fixtures and fittings! He was sent away with a clear instruction to his customer

As said above, he can pay for redirection if he is that bothered. We paid for over a year because of GP letters and important stuff. There is an option out there for him to get his GP letters without involving you. He just doesn't care enough or doesn't want to pay. Not your issue.

My old GP unregistered me within 4 weeks from being told I didn't live at my old address and I had not had a chance at the time to register at my new surgery. I doubt his GP would appreciate having someone from outside the area taking resources, funding, prescriptions and appointments from someone paying local taxes (assuming he moved out of local authority).

Who cares if he has to change surgeries? He's taking the piss with this 'you can' like you're his fucking staff. He hasn't lived there in years! Can't believe all the hand-wringing and angst and tying oneself in knots trying to word a response to his CFery with apologies. You're not a post office or a secretary. Just block him and tell the surgery he hasn't lived there in 5 years or if you have to, message back, 'You cannot use this address. We will not be complicit in this and are not the post office or your secretary. Don't contact us anymore regarding this issue. Goodbye,' and block.

Exactly (well almost) same situation here
Woman lived here before we bought it off her, her two daughters had moved out I believe, several years before. We have been here 18 months and still getting mail about youngest daughter - including a disciplinary from her work and loads of doctors stuff.
I knew the doctors thing was because she didn’t want to change her doctors and she didn’t live particularly near so wouldn’t be in the catchment. I asked her to change it. Went to the doctors with dd a few weeks back only to see her waiting for her appt, she tried to hide from me but her name pinged up on the notice board 😂😂
If anything else comes for her I am goi g to tell the surgery.

Actually @SosigDog , when we moved and I updated our GP, they kicked the entire family off their list as we were now out of catchment so Harry not telling his surgery that he has moved is not such a daft idea.

I was part way through some treatment at the time too. Even ringing up to speak to the surgery manager and all but begging got me nowhere. New surgery is crap.

I'd tell the GP - but then I'm a bitch

The problem is if he ever needs an out of hours doctor they will not travel to his new address.

You have been kind and reasonable. Return to sender and ignore further messages.

I'd tell the GP - but then I'm a bitch

I see nothing bitchy about reporting a person who's being a fraud.

I can't say too much as I didn't change surgeries when I moved, however my old address was my Mum's address and she was still living there. I wouldn't dream of doing it to someone who is practically a stranger!

Reading again now I'm at home, I'd be fuming with that entitled language. I'd definitely ring his surgery and let them know.

ours wont keep u on if you move outside the catchment area whther youve been there for years ir not

you dont even know the man op just tell him to stop

I'd tell the gp that he moved and ask them to remove the address from their records, get them to contact him for new address, then his important nhs mail can go straight to him with no cheeky fuckery mediation
Sorted

I've moved a lot and always binned letters after a couple of months. We get Christmas cards every year for previous owners, I just put them out with ours and feel sorry for the senders.

They text you your GUM results in my county!

Block his number or tell him that all letters will be put back in thepost box with 'no longer lives at this address - return to sender' written on the envelopes. That can be the catalyst for him to put his big girl pants on sort this out himself.

As an aside, to the people who are complaining about medical letters arriving years after the old owners/tenants moved out - three years after DS was born, by which time we’d moved house twice, he got referred from our local hospital to the big city hospital where he’d been born, for a specialist consultant appointment. The big hospital sent the letter to the address we’d lived at when he was born, despite the local hospital and our GP having the correct address, and using the correct address on the referral letter. The big city hospital had just matched DS’s NHS number up to the last address they had on file (ie when he was born). I only found out about the appointment because I hadn’t changed mobile numbers and they texted me a reminder the week before the appointment. He was referred to another specialist at the same big hospital and it happened again, because their computer systems weren’t joined up. Ridiculous!

And I realised I was overdue for a smear a few months ago, so I called my GP and made an appointment, though I hadn’t had a letter about it - when I arrived, it turned out that, despite my GP having our correct new address, the smear reminder letter had gone to the old address. The NHS is terrible for not joining up these things, and even if you think you’ve told every department you’re under, you might easily miss one.

How about... "Harry we have discovered this is fraudulent and we will not be involved. If you persist we will be contacting the authorities."

Why bother starting a moaning thread if you are acting like a living door mat OP!

Definite CF. Return any letters.

Just tell him to forward his mail

I believe patient addresses these days are updated to the NHS Spine which feeds the NHS services, so if you change your address it should update other users that hold the same patients records - theoretically

I run a GP surgery.
We cannot keep pts that don't live locally as if they need an urgent home visit, we can't do it!! Pts like this have to de-register and ONLY with the permission of the practice re-reg without home visits.

Don't be a mug. This won't be the last time.

Simply text back. "No, I can't do this for you-speak to your GP and the hospital "

Then block.

It takes 2 mins to change his address on the NHS Spine and he can call the hospital. STOP being his mum.

He's a CF twat- don't enable him more.