To think it's a bit shit I got nothing for mothers day

[grainyperson]

I know I know, I don't mean to add to the collection of hundreds of threads. My children are still young but even so.. nothing made at nursery? DP hasn't made anything with them.. I didn't even get a lie in ! Feeling meh about the whole thing.
Especially as I have no relationship with my Mum, can the day be over already?

[TomorrowsDiet]

There are so many sad stories of mums not being acknowledged by their children and partners yesterday. If a mum thinks that it’s just a commercial event, fair enough, but lots of people on here rightly expected some appreciation!!

In those cases, ladies, I really hope that you treat yourself to some time off from being the household stalwart and (in many cases) skivvy. Seriously, shut up shop for a few days of no cooking, ironing etc. And the clear message needs to be you’re appreciating yourself.

Also, M&S and Tesco both had 50% off beautiful flowers today. I’d be buying my own massive bunch in those circumstances 🌷

[Nearly47]

I don't care much about mother's day. I really don't. Prefer everyday demonstrations of love. Sunday, my 13 yes old stopped playing a video game and got up without being promptd and helped me find something I needed for my trip. IMO better than any box of chocs .

[Jacflett]

Eosmum
My son changed the cider keg and somehow must have got the release valve stuck or something so the rest of the keg emptied if my stock is short it's my responsibility to replace it x

[eosmum]

Jacflett that is soo unfair. Gutted for you.😩

[Jacflett]

Thanks eosmum x

[Catsinthecupboard]

DH didn't realize that it was important to acknowledge mother's day. Once.
TBF, ds was about 6 weeks old.

[TriciaH87]

I feel your pain. My partner remembered a card from our 2 boys. He left the wrapper about it was £1.49. I was fuming given that i paid £4 for his mothers and never got the money back. Just for once some recognition would have been nice. He wondered why i was in a mood today as he was supposed to cook yesterday which i ended up having to do. All in all it was like any other day.

[scubadive]

Nurseries/schools should definitely make cards etc. If a child has sadly lost their mum they make a card for a grandparent/Aunty etc @jemsynergy You forgot to send in the form and so your daughter wasn't allowed to make a card WTAF !! that is appalling, what a heartless school, your poor daughter and poor you. I am a single mum and have 4 boys who all now buy me presents/write lovely messages in cards etc but I have trained them over the years. I used to drive them to Tesco's and give them money to choose something, the youngest now ask me to take them to the shops and the older ones sort it themselves. To all those mums who have had nothing, make it very clear how hurtful and thoughtless this is, would they like no present on their birthday? The shops are so full of cards and flowers it's hard to miss. Treat yourself mums and take a day off from cooking. OP start training yours young, as soon as they can make crispie cakes, then onto beans on toast/tea etc. I would also make cards with them myself as well, get the colours and paints out. Sometimes DH's don't set a good enough example.

[Lovely13]

This idea of Mother’s Day has become a weird American equivalent of Halloween. It was once a Christian, maybe other religions, too, once a year celebration in a church or other place of worship. It’s not meant to be a guilt fest of whose not bought etc.

[needmorespace]

I got nothing either, not a hug, cuppa or card from my son. From my dtr, a card was given to me last week (at uni) knowing that I wouldn't see her yesterday. But on the day itself, not even a text.
I have cried a few times at how unimportant they made me feel.
I don't expect presents or lunch etc. Just a hug really (and a text). And they couldn't even do that. 19 and 21. I feel like a shit mother.

[manicmij]

Some nurseries have stopped the Mother's Day cards etc not to confuse children who don't have a Mum. Heard one had singled out a couple of kids in that situation and got them to make a Grandma card. Did not go down well with their carers.

[sleepylittlebunnies]

I worked Saturday night so missed my usual lie in and breakfast in bed. DH made me a cuppa as soon as I got in. The kids all proudly presented me with the cards and poems they’d made at school and sang Happy Mother’s Day to me. They had got me a box of my fave chocs.

We went to watch DS12 play footie and shared the chocolates. Then I went to bed for the afternoon. I’d already told them that the best presents they could give me were clean and tidy bedrooms and no fighting or arguing for the whole day which they just about managed.

I agree that it’s pretty poor for DH to not have managed to give OP a lie in and he could have helped DC make a special breakfast or lunch. Made cards are the best and really don’t take much effort. The things that matter most can easily be free.

[sleepylittlebunnies]

Regarding whether schools and nursery’s should be making cards for Mother’s and Father’s Day. DS’s best friend’s mum died when he was small and he chose to make her a card ‘for my mum in Heaven’. My neighbour’s DD makes her mum a Card and takes it to her mum’s grave. My friend’s kids for Father’s Day make cards to their mum because she is Mum and Dad. They are aware enough to realise that their dad is crap. He doesn’t pay maintenance and can’t be arsed to even see them or even acknowledge their birthdays.

[JaneEB]

grainyperson, I know where you are coming from re the miscarriage, I know how hollow that makes you feel. Are you sure this is all it is about, has anyone offered you counselling, especially as everything has been spread across so much time. It takes time to recover mentally, and you haven't even had chance to start.

You and your partner have been through a lot, indeed you are still going through a lot, it could be that he simply didn't know how to deal with mother's day this year. You seriously need to talk to someone on the outside or it is all going to build up.

You have my best wishes, things do get better in the end xx

[Whysoannoying]

Agree with @Lovely13, Mothering Sunday is a Christian event (4th week of lent) and was originally about the church not mothers anyway. Been hijacked by everyone, a bit like Christmas. But I do understand people feeling sad if their closest family can't make a simple gesture - and for little children the partner or GPs may need to prompt them.

I was lucky - DH reminded my DCs (10 and 8) to make me a card each the night before, and took them out to pick me daffodils in the garden while I had a lie in on Sunday morning. We then went to church and MIL and I were given a posy each there. It was a lovely family service.

We did then go out for lunch, but I had badgered DH to book somewhere for weeks as I know he likes a Sunday Roast, and I told him that while I was not fussed about going out, I wasn't intending to cook! So he sorted it for that reason mainly...

Sorry you had such a miserable day OP - I think you need to 'remind' your DP a lot before the day - some men just don't think!! I've learned that nothing will happen if I don't drop a few hints! But your DCs are young - when they're older I'm sure they will love taking some responsibility and doing lovely things for you! Sending belated .