To think it's a bit shit I got nothing for mothers day

[grainyperson]

I know I know, I don't mean to add to the collection of hundreds of threads. My children are still young but even so.. nothing made at nursery? DP hasn't made anything with them.. I didn't even get a lie in ! Feeling meh about the whole thing.
Especially as I have no relationship with my Mum, can the day be over already?

@AnotherNightCooking I want your Mother's Day! Mmm baked Camembert!

I took 14 yo DS to a gig last night and we stayed over in a hotel, added bonus of breakfast cooked for me! This morning I reminded him what day it was and he did say happy Mother's Day. Got home and DH hadn't organised anything at all. No cards bought or written. I kept quiet thinking maybe he was waiting for DD to get home from grandparents. Nothing when she got home either, he didn't even remind her to say happy Mother's Day.

So I went and got a bottle of Prosecco out of the garage that I had been saving and poured a nice glass. When he asked why I had opened it I said it was my Mother's Day present. At this point he finally realised that he had fucked up and did actually go out and buy cards and a bottle of gin (at 5pm on the day).

What pisses me off is that it's not even like he forgot Cos he was at his mothers yesterday with cards, flowers and wine!

I'm storing this up for Father's Day.

Ohh drinks is that a PointyHound with eyes that bore into your soul Yessss, I know you bought some chocolate for Mothers Day but none seems to have worked its way towards me

DD and I went shopping yesterday (she's nearly 17) Costco and Ikea.
I went to supermarket today , bought food and made my DS (19) cook . All pretty much put in the oven and work out the timings food.

He claims not to have known it was MD (the liar , I have reminded him for weeks) and seen nothing in the shops (on his way to University )

DH made me coffee and toast when I got up so that's ok.

(bought my own flowers , I don't see the point of £30 bouquets )

We had MIL to stay. I bought her a present which was presented to her at breakfast. My present (also bought by me) wasn't.

I burst into tears. How hard is it to put something in a gift bag! Turns out I'm just a big kid. It wasn't about the lack of effort, or lack of care, I just really wanted to have a present to open.

I feel more than a tad ridiculous! And have decided it's all a big bag of shit.

I made myself a pot of tea, put a film on and ate my way through an entire packet of biscuits.

Best Mother’s Day EVER

Maybe next year we can all buy each other presents? Secret Santa style!

My DS2 dug up a what turned out to be a herb from the grass . DS1 did good. DD did not. All made/ had made lovely cards but haven't done any jobs never mind extra nor saved pocket money to buy me anything. Same old shite. Dh is livid. Dd blamed exams. DS2 had nothing to say. I tried not to cry. Fucked off that I'm feeling mean about being upset with them. I do so much for them as my childhood was abusive and therefore no wonder they aren't thoughtful. I do it all.

I'm sorry your DP was so thoughtless; my exh was the same with my 3
However;they're now 25;21;17 I got kind expressive texts and a lovely sweet card from youngest, as none live with me and my own DM has long passed
They made me a very proud mum every day of their lives, so I'm happy with that

Accidentally you are not ONLY a stepmum...being a step mum is often harder than being a Mum!

I bought some perfume, chocs and a gorgeous purple flowering patio plant.
I've spent the day helping oh to replace the fabric on our awning. It looks really good.
Dd 12 got a card and made me peppermint lip scrub and lip tints in cute pots. Really kind and i appreciate the effort. Also brought me tea in bed. 🙂

I was going to say the same about being a Stepmum accidentally Don’t hide how upset you are - say so!
And jemsynergy, that seems rather mean spirited of the school. DD’s school can be a bit like that about stuff. I still feel guilty about the time I couldn’t make a Macmillan coffee morning & DD wasn’t allowed to come up into the hall with her friends for cake. She was only 5 or 6 & her little face when she told me.....😞They could at least have sat her with a teacher or one of the other parents.
So sorry to read about some folks having a rubbish Mother’s Day. OP, can you sit your DP down for a chat without him getting all defensive?

@drinkswineoutofamug 's dog has most unsettling eyes that stare into your soul and find it wanting.

I feel judged.

Mother's Day is a bit of a head fuck for single mums having to remind their own kids/sort it out for themselves, head fuck for those who have lost their mums and head fuck for all those women who have lost children or can't conceive.

Apart from that it's a wonderful day!

For all those who've had a crappy day, go treat yourself.

If they won’t treat you treat yourself. Or reschedule it to another day. We’ve had to do that because DH is working so it was the usual Groundhog Day with a demanding pre schooler today🙄however I did treat her and I to lunch in a greasy spoon which she absolutely loves which cheered me up.
It’s been rescheduled to tomor and I’m having a curry

@zoellafortitude Oh I'm not visiting her for Christmas! I was thinking of a quick 2 hour visit on the 27th of December or something. 😂

When I'm in town shopping on the day before Mothers' Day I love to see the gang of local toughies, usually male, try to look nonchalent with a box of Roses or a bunch of daffodils stuck in their jacket.

@Crustaceans

Glad to hear it! Don't want you having a rotten Christmas too

Not only was it mothers day it was my 48th birthday too. Theq only cards I recieved was two birthday cards, one from my sister in law and the other one from my mother in law. I have a husband and three boys 26, 23, and 20 all still living at home. They normally forget but I went and had a night in on the Saturday night at my sister in laws and female relatives to celebrate a joint birthday so dont know how they can say they forgot. I am normally ok ad am used to them forgetting but was quite upset as it was both mothers day a d my birthday, trying to tell myself that I was being silly.

To make matters worse I run a social club and was working from 10am til 3pm then back again from 7 PM til 11.30pm. My husband brought qa Gregg's latte and donut into work for me (birthday present) and while I was off from 3 til 7 my so was working behind bar. When I came back I couldn't understand how he had put qaq full 11g keg of cider on while I was away only served half a pint of it but when I came back the keg was empty, making my stock around £240 short, so i am going g to have to buy a keg to replace it which i can't afford. I had no sleep last night as i was so upset with everything as i am totally skint and I've had such a shitty last couple of days! Sorry for the long rant but i have tried to keep it short. X

OP, it sucks. I didn’t get anything either 🤨

Jacflett how did the rest go missing? Why do you have to replace.

That is rubbish- it’s a shame nursery didn’t do anything. I’ve loved all the little (awful!!) cards and crafty things that have come home - the little face bursting with pride and excitement. I was just reminiscing with another Mum about the year nursery sent home ‘breakfast in bed’. The kids decorated a paper bag and it was packed with a Capri sun, Kellogg’s bar and satsuma to be presented on the morning! Now dd is older she made me a homemade breakfast in bed, I got cold porridge (with nothing on it) cold toast - ditto and some lukewarm, weak tea. She put such a lot of effort in bless her, I ate it all!

This is really horrible your right to be upset x happy birthday to you

Just gonna say sometimes they don't do mothers day in nursery/school if one child doesn't have a mum. If your partner knows its important to you he should have done something. It's hard for me to understand as my partner and I only celebrate occasions for the kids.

Three DS, early teens, late teens and early twenties.....and a DH ....all living with me..... not one acknowledged it.......I secretly cried ....and am doing so again writing this.

Fingers crossed your DP will come up trumps for you XX

I didn't get nothing either but DH was a bit pages off because I left on Sunday and staying out for a week for work leaving alone with the kids for a week. He always gets stressed out when this happens. So I forgave him. -also was too busy getting ready to even notice much --