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To think it's a bit shit I got nothing for mothers day

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grainyperson · 31/03/2019 11:50

I know I know, I don't mean to add to the collection of hundreds of threads. My children are still young but even so.. nothing made at nursery? DP hasn't made anything with them.. I didn't even get a lie in ! Feeling meh about the whole thing.
Especially as I have no relationship with my Mum, can the day be over already?

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MarchSurprise · 31/03/2019 12:32

I'm with you OP, I had my first baby on Tuesday so expected a nice Mother's Day. Instead my partner decided he was going back to work last night (he works 2am-12pm) and it ended up being the most hideous night with baby refusing to feed or settle. For his very few days off, I've seen him 2 days of it and being alone the rest of the time. He did get me flowers but I hardly feel like it's the Mother's Day I would have hoped for to mark the arrival of our boy, I'd have rather he made me feel special and supported than some flowers.

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grainyperson · 31/03/2019 12:32

They haven't stopped doing it though I dont think,5 nurseries close to me have all made something for mothers day

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WendyCope · 31/03/2019 12:33

Not in Spain they don't. No way.

No mother's day or father's day here any more, for good reason.

WendyCope · 31/03/2019 12:39

I'd really rather not make the poor little boy in DD's class who has just lost his mother and cries all the time, or the Romanian boy who has his father living in another country, any more upset than they are, than get a crappy generic card.

TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole · 31/03/2019 12:40

My kids school still do mothers day stuff? Didn't realise some didn't but I guess it makes sense about kids with no mother getting upset.

YABU, IMO. Mind, I might be a little bit upset if I didn't get my yearly handmade card from the young ones

stayathomer · 31/03/2019 12:42

Sorry but it seems to be the case everywhere, women make an effort not as many men do. This morning I announced it was mother's day and I've been milking the hell out of it, I'll need some help since it's mother's day etc. There's still time. I got nothing as we're living on fumes but hinted at youngest who got the others job i ng to make cards. Going to bake with them later too( if you have any ingredients about). You can still save the day OP. Plus when you do art or whatever with your child, make a big deal in front of your do, or just say it to him, what are you doing today for me for moth ere day? It doesn't have to cost anything! Flowers op( and by the way I've learned this through experience. Some day they'll make it special for you, until then make it special together)

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grainyperson · 31/03/2019 12:54

I do understand young children might have lost a parent and wouldn't want to take part in doing that, totally understandable. But for my DP not to get some craft bits together and get them to make something? Or but a cheapy card and do their hand prints?
Even a flaming cup of tea. Nout.
Don't have money in the bank for click and collect so not an option either! But thanks

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SunshineCake · 31/03/2019 12:57

I'm sorry OP.

I'm disappointed every Mothers day. Each child either made or ordered a personalised card. One bought me a gift but seems to want bells and whistles in appreciation. One dug up a flower that was in the grass and one didn't bother other than give me a hug. I'm feeling annoyed and ungrateful but I do so fucking much and struggle every Mother's Day as mine dumped me. Just put some effort in.

labazsisgoingmad · 31/03/2019 13:02

think its such a shame when schools/nurseries dont make anything for times like mums day easter etc i was at school with a lot of kids from a childrens home but they were just encouraged to do something different like make a picture for easter for their rooms sorry you have had a crap day Flowers Wine Cake

zoellafortitude · 31/03/2019 13:02

I don't have kids, but I did get a card from my dog.

Sorry to hear your day has been so disappointing.

I think if your DP isn't going to step-up for you on Mother's Day, you need to change the focus a bit. So from now on (or even with the rest of today!) it's Your Day To Do What you Want. Plan a few treats for yourself (shopping, salon, day of peace to read, whatever floats your boat) and let DP know in plenty of time he is in sole charge of the house and kids for the day. Tell him you won't be cooking, so it's a takeaway or meal out, etc.

Basically, take back control over this day in future.

I hope things get better for you. Here are a couple of gifts to be going on with Cake Flowers

FartersDay · 31/03/2019 13:09

I think it's sad state of affairs that zoellas dog is beating so many poster's husband's in the mother's day stakes Grin

zoellafortitude · 31/03/2019 13:10

I think it's sad state of affairs that zoellas dog is beating so many poster's husband's in the mother's day stakes

He is a wonderful son, I must say. He even stopped his walk and posed in the sunshine amongst some spring daffodils so I would get a lovely Mother's Day photo too. Wonderful boy! Grin

FartersDay · 31/03/2019 13:12

Pics or it didn't happen zoella! :)

starsparkle08 · 31/03/2019 13:14

I’m a single parent with a son with disabilities . Luckily he did a card at school which was lovely and these little gestures do mean the absolute world .

I don’t no what’s happened between you and your own mum but is it at all possible to build bridges xx

mummmy2017 · 31/03/2019 13:16

Why not give your child some crayons and let him make you a card.
My favourite one is a flower and a mummy I love you, my child made it about ten years ago, with much gratitude and shouts of don't look ...
It is sat on my boiler and still makes me smile.. as it is spelt wrong

GeorgiaGirl52 · 31/03/2019 13:22

My three children are all adopted. Mother's Day just serves as a reminder that their birth mothers couldn't or wouldn't keep them. So we came to a family agreement that we would ignore Mother's Day. They did not have to make or buy or cook anything for me. I am their mother 365 days a year and that is good enough for me.
As they got older they did start doing something for me for Mother's Day, but I never asked or expected.

zoellafortitude · 31/03/2019 13:23

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To think it's a bit shit I got nothing for mothers day
Pieceofpurplesky · 31/03/2019 13:23

In DS's primary there were three classes where mums had died. They did not do anything in class.

RaeCJ82 · 31/03/2019 13:27

No YANBU. I'm feeling crap about the day too. My mum died 4 years ago and I miss her so much, my OH couldn't even be bothered to get a card for me from our Dd and I, as always, made breakfast for everyone. To top it off I was told that OH's mum wants to go to a particular pub and that's what we're doing, no consideration for what I want to do/where I might want to go. I might be being over sensitive because I'm missing my mum, but I just want the day to be over.

feltcarrot · 31/03/2019 13:28

I told my student DC not to waste their money on cards and flowers, to get a message from them was enough.

notangelinajolie · 31/03/2019 13:30

Aw OP - don't be sad - think of the nice things about being a mum. A hug is worth more than a million cards. Here's some flowers from me Flowers

I'm having a nice mothering Sunday and spending it on my own having a lovely bath and then getting Sunday Dinner ready in peace. I actually prefer my own company to a house full of visitors and all the noise they bring.

No cards or flowers here either. But I did get a hug and a house hoover from DD3. A text from DD1 and DD2 is AWOL as per.

Poor DH has been out working overtime since 5.30 so even on my own I feel warm and loved.

Lweji · 31/03/2019 13:37

OP, it's shit that you your lack of lie in wasn't because your kids woke you up (with DP) to wish you a good mother's day.

Did he work late last night?
Otherwise, you need to have a proper conversation with him. It's not on.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 31/03/2019 13:38

I'm missing my mum too and two of my DC. But I got messages with love. Have something cheap and easy, go and have a play in the park, then hunker down and watch something together with a bag of malteasers.
Let me cheer you up with a funny Mother's Day story from when mine were young. Dh was working, so he gave the boys a fiver (untold riches) which I didn't know about. Comes in at tea and asks what I got. A crunchie. That it? He goes up stairs to find them divvying out a fivers worth of sweets from Woolworths. I laughed tbh and for years after got a crunchie for Mother's Day.

Nanny0gg · 31/03/2019 13:38

Nurseries and schools have stopped doing this as it is so traumatic for the children without a mother/father.

No they haven't. They know if any of their children don't have a parent and they get them to make a card for whoever is special to them.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 31/03/2019 13:43

My children are still young but even so.. nothing made at nursery?

Nursery has probably gone all PC or read this thread from earlier in the week where that OP was complaining about cards being divisive and not taking into account all the children without mothers in their lives.

Cant win 'em all.