Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Really fucked off with DP -AIBU

103 replies

lastqueenofscotland · 31/03/2019 10:05

He thinks I’ve overreacted. I am seething.

He’d not met my mother before and because of where she lives you can’t sort of meet for lunch to introduce each other so ended up planning to go up this weekend.
I thought I’d show him the town nearest our house in the evening and have a drink or two.
By some coincidence he bumped into a group of friends who were up here on a walking holiday, and ended up staying out with them. Getting in (after moaning about a really expensive taxi) really very late (well gone midnight), he called me which woke me up to let him back in.
I’m staying for a few more days and he had an early train back, so he had to leave without actually saying goodbye or thanking my mother despite the fact she cooked us all a lovely lunch and he’s drunk plenty of naice wine and gin.

Im really really pissed off but I don’t know if I’m overreacting Blush

OP posts:
AuntieDolly · 31/03/2019 10:38

Really rude and bad mannered. I think it would be a deal breaker for me Angry

cuppycakey · 31/03/2019 10:41

Incredibly rude.

And you say he has form for this kind of selfish and dismissive behaviour?

I would bin him.

Nowordsleft · 31/03/2019 10:42

Very rude.

Nowordsleft · 31/03/2019 10:42

Was he pissed when he got back?

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 31/03/2019 10:43

Dealbreaker.

WWWWicked · 31/03/2019 10:45

Has your mum said anything about it? I can’t imagine she’s impressed, he won’t have made a great impression.

pictish · 31/03/2019 10:46

Oh no...that was very rude. He essentially ditched his host for a better offer. Oh dear. I can only assume that he doesn’t understand that this is a faux pas...although how he has got to his thirties and not worked it out, I don’t know.

Myoldtable · 31/03/2019 10:48

Very bad manners. Doesn’t bode well for the long term, if he doesn’t realise that getting on well with your Mum is important. You say you are not young but believe me late 20s is young so don’t rush into anything

Boysey45 · 31/03/2019 10:50

What a pig, he should have returned to the house with you. So basically he sorted himself out,left you, and then nashed off this morning.
I'd just block him OP, fuck that for a game of cards.

dragoning · 31/03/2019 10:51

YANBU. He should be sending her flowers with a telephone apology at the very very least.

Purplecatshopaholic · 31/03/2019 10:58

He sounds a joy. Bet your mum was impressed too!

DoctorDread · 31/03/2019 10:58

Yeah that's rude OP. I'd have been pissed off too

Waterfallgirl · 31/03/2019 11:01

This isn’t about your mum though is it? He arranged a weekend away with you, made plans, and then he went off at the first opportunity. H3 sounds just on this one example very immature and not quite ready for a grown up relationship!

MotherofTerriers · 31/03/2019 11:01

He was very rude. If I was your mum I’d be unimpressed and a bit hurt.

JamAndCroissants · 31/03/2019 11:03

Yanbu, that's fucking rude! He sounds like a selfish knob.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 31/03/2019 11:04

He's in his 30s?

Then well past old enough to know better: you don't ditch your girlfriend and meeting/spending time with her mother to piss off with friends.

He's rude and thoughtless. Not sure he's a keeper.

SwoopTheJackpot · 31/03/2019 11:10

YANBU. I suspect this will be the first of many bad experiences if you stay with him.

HollowTalk · 31/03/2019 11:11

He's rude, selfish and thoughtless. You need to seriously consider whether this is the best you can do. We all think you can do much better. Your mum thinks so, too. Think about it.

viques · 31/03/2019 11:15

Why didn't you take your mum out with you when you went to the town, or were you expecting her to have cooked another delicious meal for you when you rocked up at seven. Sounds to me as though your DP isn't the only one taking your mother for granted.

ChiaraRimini · 31/03/2019 11:20

If he's like this now OP, he is only going to get worse. His expectation will be that you stay at home like a good wifie while he goes out with the boys. Bin him off.

TFBundy · 31/03/2019 11:20

This reply has been withdrawn

Message from MNHQ: This post has been withdrawn

Calzone · 31/03/2019 11:22

Why didn't you take your mum out with you when you went to the town, or were you expecting her to have cooked another delicious meal for you when you rocked up at seven. Sounds to me as though your DP isn't the only one taking your mother for granted.

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 really viques????

XiCi · 31/03/2019 11:23

I can see both sides really. I think 7pm is very early to go home to bed especially when you are having a few drinks with friends. Why didn't you stay out with him and enjoy the evening?

stofi · 31/03/2019 11:25

I can imagine exactly what your mum's thinking, even if she's not saying it.

WWWWicked · 31/03/2019 11:28

XiCi isn’t it obvious that at 7pm they weren’t going home to bed, but going home to spend time with the OP’s mum - you know, the whole reason they were there in the first place? Hmm

Swipe left for the next trending thread