To wonder if tiny weddings are rubbish?

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DP and I want to get married and inc us 2 and DSD, there'd be 12 guests. We'd have the ceremony, a few photos and then off to a local restaurant for food. If you were involved in a wedding like this, would you think it was a bit shit?

My best friend got married and there was the bride and groom, best man and bridesmaid (me), the minister, my DM and DD1. The photographer took a few shots and buggered off and we went off to a restaurant. It was the loveliest day and such a moving ceremony. Small weddings can be wonderful.

I think provided the couple getting married love each other dearly, all weddings are fabulous. Do what makes you happy.

We got married whilst on holiday in Devon. We had one witness I found on Gumtree, as only one of my 3 DSC was old enough to sign. Then took our witness and her Mum to lunch at a fabulous bistro. They had visited the previous day and asked the staff to decorate our table with some bits & pieces and they gave us some lovely home-made presents. Fabulous day with only 7 of us, very chilled even though we got stuck on a country lane behind a tractor. Day included popping into the supermarket for jam, going for a swim and sipping wine on the apartment balcony. Bonus points for our parents being supportive and not making things awkward about them not being there. And we had a couple of small family gatherings when we got back home. Best choice we could have made! :-)

We had a small register office wedding, 12 of us in total. Had a lovely lunch in a bistro pub and then off to Paris the day after. Perfect day, perfect weather.

A bit shit OP? Are you joking. It sounds amazing. No fussing, no spending money on stuff you don’t want and people you don’t really care about. Just your closest people and the things that are important. A wedding is one day. A marriage is a whole life. Good luck and have a fabulous day.

Big weddings can be so impersonal. Loads of people no-one knows.... Family conflicts. You name it.

I think a small intimate wedding like you have described sounds perfect.

My perfect wedding would have max 30 guests. I'm pretty sure that's similar numbers to my cousin's wedding a few years back and it was so much fun. It was $600 for flights + accommodation and quite a few guests were from my side of the country. But they had a cocktail night / mixer the night before the wedding. Then the wedding in their beautifully prepared back yard, no bridesmaids etc, then a mini bus shuttling guests to the reception venue - a boutique restaurant they booked out. So, so much fun.

I've been to big weddings and hate them. My sister had a big wedding. Invited acquaintances and people who weren't what I call close friends.

For me, a wedding should be shared with people who are special and important to you. Not people you have very little to do with, just to look popular.

There were a total of 11 at our wedding, not dissimilar to yours. Everybody loved it. FiL still says it was the best wedding he has been to, even over those of his daughters.

There are so many people who prefer small/tiny weddings on here. The vast majority actually.

Makes you wonder why so many people have huge, expensive weddings!

Not rubbish at all, my sister had a lovely small wedding it was so intimate and actually really nice to spend some time with my sister on her special day

Absolutely not shit at all! Complete opposite.

Would be very flattered to be asked to be a guest at a small wedding. It would be more meaningful for me to be at a guest at a small wedding as opposed to being one guest of a hundred plus.

It's your wedding, do as you please. Wish you all the best!

We eloped to Vegas with my best friend and her hubby. I couldn't have been happier!