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To wonder if tiny weddings are rubbish?

112 replies

MafaldaGregorovitch · 30/03/2019 18:43

DP and I want to get married and inc us 2 and DSD, there'd be 12 guests. We'd have the ceremony, a few photos and then off to a local restaurant for food. If you were involved in a wedding like this, would you think it was a bit shit?

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 30/03/2019 19:05

Receiving lines make me cringe at weddings. Just why? Lol at announcing people. Grin

Middlrm · 30/03/2019 19:06

My brother had a similar wedding and it was lush! He was living in Scotland and all the family are south of England so only a few could go...

I had a bigger wedding of 60 people but my family was about 35 of the guests as mine was on the doorstep ... my bro wanted low key I was happy with all family and a handful Of Close friends .. both wedding were perfect but in their own right x

Middlrm · 30/03/2019 19:06

Big congratulations x x

Octopus37 · 30/03/2019 19:09

My friend got married and had a small wedding last year, there were 13 of us including the bride and groom. They had a Registry Office wedding followed by a meal at a local pub, it was lovely, really personal and special. After the ceremony we all clapped and started taking photos. They had perfect wedding and the whole day was just fun without any of the stress of formalities.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 30/03/2019 19:10

Yeah, Sparkling, and the bloke (dressed like a town crier) misheard my name so announced “totally wrong oldfashioned name and correct name of DP!” with a big flourish.

I nearly wet myself trying to stop laughing.

sleepwhenidie · 30/03/2019 19:11

We had one and it was lovely, so very relaxed and intimate. Walked to church around the corner from home (I love passing it regularly). No receiving line, no cake, no first dance. Just a few words from my Dad at dinner. We had beautiful flowers and a photographer and (crucially!) a small choir in church. Picnic with champagne in the church garden, drinks in local pub then in the evening a meal at the fabulous restaurant where we actually met each other.

We had a big party the weekend after too though.

dinkydolphin · 30/03/2019 19:13

I think they are 100 times better than big or medium sized weddings!!

PotatoesPastaAndBread · 30/03/2019 19:14

I had exactly the day you described. It was ace, perfect for us. Do what you want to do.

justforareply · 30/03/2019 19:14

Sounds great to me too!

MeredithGrey1 · 30/03/2019 19:16

I hope not! I’m getting married just like this next Saturday.

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 30/03/2019 19:18

Sounds wonderful. I’d be honoured to be invited to a small wedding. Wouldn’t you?

My friends were married one morning and about 15 of us went for brunch afterwards. I was home by midday. It was as special as any wedding I’ve attended.

DownStreet · 30/03/2019 19:18

I was the only guest at my friend’s wedding. They spur of the moment eloped to the city I lived in at the time. We went out for something to eat afterwards. It was absolutely the most fun wedding I’ve ever been to.

Sparklingbrook · 30/03/2019 19:19

Went to loads of big weddings the year we got married so it was a nice change.
It did seem that the people having the big weddings were being made to invite loads of extended family they hadn't seen for years because of pressure from their parents.

Numptywallice · 30/03/2019 19:24

Not at all, I got married abroad with my parents and our two children. Neither of us are religious and neither of us wanted to spend a fortune on distant family members that we never see or hear from and are not part of our lives. We invited other parents and close family friends but they made the choice not to attend and we were absolutely fine with that and we just enjoyed saying our vows to each other and at end of the day those are really the important part of a wedding.

Nathansmommy1 · 30/03/2019 19:26

My sister had a tiny wedding like this and it was the best wedding I've ever been too. Very relaxed, very fun, knew everybody there.
I always remember when I used to work in a hotel waitressing at weddings, some weddings you'd hear the bride asking some of the guests who they were - it would be like a husbands friend or cousin she'd never met before. I always thought I don't want my wedding to be like that.

Hazlenutpie · 30/03/2019 19:28

I had a small wedding and it was lovely. Go for what you want.

Originofstars · 30/03/2019 19:30

It's the perfect wedding in my view. Enjoy!

FairyDogMother11 · 30/03/2019 19:30

We had 15 guests and I enjoyed it far more than any other wedding I've ever been to. All of our guests said they wish they'd done similar when they got married. It was exactly what we wanted and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Loved every minute!

LittleAndOften · 30/03/2019 19:34

We had 20 people including us, at a quirky boutique venue in Cornwall. We had the whole place for 2 nights and it was wonderful to spend so much time with everyone. The guest list wrote itself as 20 was the venue limit, but I wouldn't have had it any other way. Best day of my life!

Zebedee88 · 30/03/2019 19:37

My cousin did that a few years ago, upto 10 people I think. They got married in Thailand and the wedding itself was beautiful, very emotional. It was a lovely day Smile

Mrslouislou · 30/03/2019 19:38

Sounds lovely OP- hope you enjoy your day whenever that is and congratulations!

feelingverylazytoday · 30/03/2019 19:46

I've been to two small weddings , both were lovely.

Claply · 30/03/2019 19:49

On the contrary - intimate and romantic.

Mokepon · 30/03/2019 19:53

Another vote for not shit.
We had 16 to the wedding and meal, then afterwards we had a very informal piss-up party.
Much hungoverness, but it was super fun!!

Bluerussian · 30/03/2019 20:01

Sounds lovely!

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