Should I give mil flowers just to piss her off?

[Caliplums]

Hear me out before you flame me.
Every year on mother's day I always give Exmil flowers and a card from dcs, I also do the same for my own dm, however this year mil has been a bitch has barely spoken to dcs or myself and went off her rocker last week because I refused to allow her son to verbally abuse me anymore.

So as tomorrow is mothers day I plan on giving her some flowers.

1. because she won't be expecting them as I know she'll be going around slagging me off to everyone who has ears.
2. because I feel like being a petty bitch myself.

So aibu?

I've had so many years of ups and downs and ignoring crap from them that I just thought fuck it, yes they're still going to talk about me but I got the satisfaction I needed from it, so all's fair in love and war!

Honestly, OP? You have small kids stuck in the trenches with you. I'm sure your ex-MIL is an arse, your ex may be as well. But they're part of your children's family - why want to add to tension and crap that will rain down on your own children's heads?

I do not understand this mindset. I just don't. Waste of money, waste of energy, and all so your children have a worse childhood. Why engage with it? It's just adding to problems for your own children.

I know it's a bit late now, but my MIL finds flowers pretty useless. She much prefers gifts she can use. This year I bought her 1kg of mackerel. She loves it and was delighted, since she can freeze it and it will feed her for ages. Perhaps your MIL would appreciate a similar 'useful' gift. Stock fish is also a winner with my MIL.

sometimes you just have to do these things.
So they do something shit, then you do something shit, then they do something else shit, and you reply with more shit.... Are you not seeing a pattern here. Just grow up. Behave like a decent human being and maybe they'll do the same. Because right now you're just as bad as them.

Actually, what the OP did may have reduced not increased the drama. If her normal routine is to get exmil flowers, then nothing has changed therefore no drama.

I really do get where your heads at at the moment but the best revenge you can do is to spend that money on a treat for yourself and your kids.

Then you are buying something you will enjoy without the headspace burden you need to give to your ex & Exmil.

Forget the revenge socks with your picture on, what would you like to get for yourself?

For those of you saying I should focus on my dc, I do! We had a lovely day yesterday as we always do, they made me cards at school and I gave them £2 each to buy me some daffodils.
I'm not sat here crying that my ex doesn't do anything for me, he never has and never will it's not a new situation.

I have always given exmil flowers from our dc as I do the same with my dm, that is not the issue. I had a very good relationship with her even when I split from her son, that's why I continued to gift her something from them on special occasions, yes she's his mum and it's down to him to buy stuff but I do what i've always done.

The last year with both exdp and mil have been very strained, with constant verbal abuse from him and her clearly believing her son's lies, so I thought fuck you both because they would have been expecting me not to bother getting her anything.
There is no drama involving my dc, they are quite fine and will continue to have a relationship with their family whether I speak to them or not.

@lunicorn, the OP said earlier:

She will definetly not accept them as a peace offering, I know her too well. She'll be on the phone to the ex telling him all about the flowers I gave her and saying I'm only doing it to be a bitch.

So, no.

Yes perfect storm, but still less drama than not giving them.
This way, she may be gossiped about behind her back, but no drama will come her way.

Well, that's not what the OP's actual words say, but perhaps you're more closely acquainted with the situation.

I'm afraid my own patience with manufactured, entirely avoidable drama that impacts on people's kids is currently at an all time low for my own reasons, so I should probably leave it there.