To think it is weird if DS signs this MDay card?

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DH has just asked me to get DS (6) to sign Dh' mums MDay card. I asked why when it is for his mum (MIL) and he said she likes DS better than him . IS this not weird?
If DS did not have a mum then it would be like saying you she is a mtoher figure for him, but as I am well and alive, and very much his main carer, is it not a bit direspectful to me that Dh is getting him to write a card to her? Especially as DH rarely bothers to get me anything from the kids other than whatever crap he sees in the supermarket. Last year he bought me a mug - Id on't drink hot drinks so couldn't have put much less thought into it.

why should they get cards FROM THEIR GRANDCHILDREN, rather than their own children well for most of us who do go cards, it isn't rather than its as well as. Both Nans will have cards from their child and a card from their grandchild because they are a GRAND-MOTHER. They'll also get a little present off them as well as the present off us but it's never anything major. I got 2 for £5 flowers a day early off DP

Why are grandmothers getting mothers day cards?

I always buy a card and a present for my Mum from my DS as well as my own gift. I'm a single parent and with no input from DS father, my Mum is just as much a parent to my DS as I am.

It may not be normal for everyone but that's how it is for us

I don't think it's that deep tbh, why does everyone on MN seem obsessed with MILs trying to replace them?

I just had my daughter write the cards for both grans. They’ll appreciate that more than her dad and me writing them. She signed from all of us though. Perfectly normal around here!

Have you asked him about it?

If it upsets you, tell him. Are there other aspects to this?

Dh and I both put DC names in cards on MD. So to us it's normal. But if you don't like it, fair enough. But might be a good idea to discuss it.

"Dramatical Sat 30-Mar-19 15:45:29
It is COMPLETELY weird for a grandson to sign a mother's day card for his grandmother when his father won't sign it as well.

But he DID sign it"

Yeah? where does it say that then?

I've now seen your breakdown of how you've read it, Dramatical, and I'm inclined to think that you've read it wrong from the start.

The OP said her DH wanted her to get a card for his mother, for their son to write and sign. No indication at all that he was signing it himself, because his mother "likes DS better than him".

Yeah? where does it say that then?

I have already acknowledged I may have read this incorrectly.

I've now seen your breakdown of how you've read it, Dramatical, and I'm inclined to think that you've read it wrong from the start.

Me too, I already said that.

My husband was writing one to his mum and my 5 year old wanted to sign it, didn't occur to me to be upset by it. Not really weird at all! (We normally sign them just from us as individuals though)

OP, you've been very clear that it's a 'to Mum on mother's day' card for your MIL that your DH bought but doesn't want to sign (due to his issues with his DM) and instead wants your DS to sign.

Not sure why some pp are finding this so hard to grasp

YADNBU. I hope your DH also found time to help your DS arrange a nice mother day card and for you today.

Not sure why some pp are finding this so hard to grasp 

Well I broke it down and showed where and why I interpreted the posts to mean they were both signing.

I have also since acknowledged that I probably read it incorrectly from the start.

I found it 'hard to grasp' because when things are not 100% clear and are just implied, I struggle to work it out.

Probably my autism; possibly I'm just thick.

Either way, the snide emoji isn't really necessary.

Not really weird no, What is weird is a father buying a card for a child to give to their step-parent.