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To think it is weird if DS signs this MDay card?

113 replies

hidinginthenightgarden · 30/03/2019 11:43

DH has just asked me to get DS (6) to sign Dh' mums MDay card. I asked why when it is for his mum (MIL) and he said she likes DS better than him Hmm. IS this not weird?
If DS did not have a mum then it would be like saying you she is a mtoher figure for him, but as I am well and alive, and very much his main carer, is it not a bit direspectful to me that Dh is getting him to write a card to her? Especially as DH rarely bothers to get me anything from the kids other than whatever crap he sees in the supermarket. Last year he bought me a mug - Id on't drink hot drinks so couldn't have put much less thought into it.

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OKBobble · 30/03/2019 14:35

In answer to your other question - yes I would prefer a bar of Dairy Milk to a boxnof chocolates

SlinkyDinkyDoo · 30/03/2019 14:36

It's mother's day not granny's day.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/03/2019 15:33

Hang on, so it is a card to you MIL signed JUST by your son?

Dramatical · 30/03/2019 15:45

It is COMPLETELY weird for a grandson to sign a mother's day card for his grandmother when his father won't sign it as well.

But he DID sign it

Purpleartichoke · 30/03/2019 15:50

Grandkids always sign the mother’s day card for grandma.

MRex · 30/03/2019 15:51

Some people's relationships on mumsnet seem desperately awful. It's a card, get over yourself. We get separate cards from DS to his grandmothers and both sign the cards for each of our mums. You're massively overthinking matters if you begrudge someone a card with a bit of scribble included in it from their grandson.

clairemcnam · 30/03/2019 15:52

I really don't like the way of thinking that kids have to be involved in everything.

AuntieCJ · 30/03/2019 16:00

Really not seeing the problem, OP.

Purplejay · 30/03/2019 16:11

We always sent mother’s day cards individually - me to my mum, h to his mum and DS to me. Seems odd to me to do anything else.

ScarletBitch · 30/03/2019 16:15

Oh get a grip OP, all 3 of my kids have signed a card to my mam as well as me. The issue clearly is with you, you sound jealous.

Cinnamon12345 · 30/03/2019 16:21

My cat signed the Mother's Day cards

lms2017 · 30/03/2019 16:37

People are missing the point entirely !

The husband who's mum it is ISN'T signing any card to his mum for mothers day.

Am I right? He just wants your son to sign it?

THAT'S ODD to me ! It's his mum he should write it's from him somewhere in the card Wether DS signs it or not.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 30/03/2019 16:39

I'm surprised how many people by a card for their mum and sign it from their whole family? Never realised anyone did it.

Me and my sisters have always bought separate cards and signed individually. Not really sure why my DH and DDs would sign also.

Dramatical · 30/03/2019 16:44

The husband who's mum it is ISN'T signing any card to his mum for mothers day.

Yes he is. RTFT, OP has said he is.

Sirzy · 30/03/2019 16:48

I sometimes think people go out of their way to look for problems where they shouldn’t exist!

lms2017 · 30/03/2019 16:52

@dramatical where ? I can't find it Confused

This is the last part I took that he isn't. ..

"
I don't care about not being on the card. I just think it is strange for MIL to recieve a card off my son instead of her own. As well as - fine. But instead of, just seems a bit weird. "

Dramatical · 30/03/2019 17:03

DH has just asked me to get DS (6) to sign Dh' mums MDay card.

The very first sentence implies DH is signing as its 'dh's mums MDat card'

If it was from it all of us then maybe. But DH doesn't usually put my name at all.

Strongly suggests it is just OP not on the card

Dramatical, I wouldn't have an issue if the card was just DH. Seems a bit weird if it is just DH and DS or just DS.

This refers to it being DH and DS, the last bit is referring to previous comments about DS giving a card just from him (a grandma card)

I don't care about not being on the card. I just think it is strange for MIL to recieve a card off my son instead of her own. As well as - fine. But instead of, just seems a bit weird.

I missed this, but it goes against what OP has previously said Confused

I agree I shouldn't be included but I don't think it should be DS on the card either.

This kind of implies the DH is signing otherwise OP wouldn't be talking of inclusion .

But maybe I read it all wrong? Picking it apart there it actually looks like initially the OP was saying the card was from the DH and he was getting the DS to sign as well. Since being told how ridiculous her annoyance is, OP seems to be suggesting that the card is only from her DS Confused

Pancakeflipper · 30/03/2019 17:05

Selmababes - that is just so lovely. Good to be appreciated!

Everyone signs the cards that are for my mother and MIL. I've never considered it odd.

e1y1 · 30/03/2019 17:09

No, as children we always got both our grandparents Mother's Day/Father's Day cards as in GrandMother and GrandFather

In fact, it was my DM who insisted on it and we're always closer to DFs DM so her MIL

Don't think it's weird.

Waveysnail · 30/03/2019 17:18

I'm tight. We buy one mothers day card for each grandma and everyone signs it.

Dillydallyingthrough · 30/03/2019 17:36

OP sorry I think you are over thinking and analysing it. It's just a card. No-one is going to think you don't exist.

I get everyone does things differently but before joining MN I never realised how many people took MD as only the biological child should give a card/present.

I was raised to celebrate all mothers including grandmothers (clues in the name). My DD gives a card to my mom and her 2 sisters as she is close to them all and wants to show appreciation for the love and care they give her. It doesn't make me any less of her mother - she's never been confused about who's her actual DM.

Kennehora · 30/03/2019 17:40

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Alsohuman · 30/03/2019 17:43

Because they’re also mothers?

Kennehora · 30/03/2019 17:46

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spanieleyes · 30/03/2019 17:54

Because it's Mothers' Day, not just My Mother's Day!