To think at 25 I shouldn’t be called a young person

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I’ve been out of university for four years now. I work in a professional career and have a one year old daughter. Today at work I was referred to as a young person by colleague. When I think of young people I think of people who are just getting started in life.

I volunteer and recently a female client referred to me as 'that nice young man'.

I'm 67, turns out she was only 3 years older than me but looked and acted old enough to be my mother.

Off on a tangent I went for an ultrasound scan of my aorta and the short stout nurse said 'it's nice to have some-one slim, it makes my job so much easier'

I'm barely 6 foot tall and now weigh 90kg, over 14 stone! I'm 20kg over my fighting weight!

It's all relative bonny lass, it's all relative.

Sorry OP but whether you like it or not (and why wouldn’t you like it?) you ARE young. Can’t see why you’d be upse

When I think of young people I think of people who are just getting started in life.

Hang on a minute - isn't that a bit patronising towards young people?! You are young in years lived, and your life experience is just different to others. You may or may not be more mature than someone your age who has worked a "non-professional" job for nine years since leaving school, cared for a relative or had any other kind of life experience. If people are disrespectful to you because of your age, that's very much their problem and you should ignore it. (And enjoy being young.)

Sorry, I’m an old person and post my messages too soon 😂.

....can’t see why you’d be upset about being thought of as young.

I think you are young, but if you don't like being called that it's fair enough. I wouldn't like to b3 called old!

Oh get a grip. I’m the same age as you, we are young, it’s not an insult.

At 25 I was married, with a child, owned a house and worked in a professional job and I definitely wouldn’t have considered myself as a ‘young’ person. I probably would have said the same as OP.

I’m now in my 40’s, and I was absolutely a young person at 25. I wish I’d been a bit less focused on all the grown up stuff and had enjoyed being young a lot more. As the saying goes - youth is wasted on the young!

Haven’t RTFT but am 65 and don’t think I should be called an old person...though I am...

But everyone's opinion should be considered. Just because you disagree with your younger self with the benefit of hindsight doesnt mean you get to trump your past self

Gosh. I will be 49 this year and feel every year of it.. starting to look it too. I promise you that the day will come when you will be deleriously grateful that someone refers to you as young. It's one of the strange ironies of life that when it's most likely to happen to us we are the least able to appreciate it.

I'm 32 and still think of myself as young. I've been in my career for 10 years and am a senior manager but there are conversations where I wouldn't weigh in with my "extensive life experience" because I am aware I still have lots to experience and learn!

I'm married, have children, have travelled and consider myself to have experienced a lot in my life but compared to a 50 / 60 / 70 year old, no. I'm still young.

Life expectancy is 80. You're young.

You seem a bit touchy. I can see why you’d be upset but it’s more a statement of fact than a remark designed to belittle you.

Of course you are a young person and having a little strop because someone called you that is rather childish. Give it 10 years and you’ll look back and know you were being silly.

Now go and make the most of it.

At your age OP I felt the same, 20 years later I realize I was actually a young person!

It's a shame you didn't develop a sense of humour during your loooong 25 years OP. I suggest you find one because, fuck me, you'll need it as you get older! 😀😀

Ffs. You can hardly be called middle age can you? You’re not even out of the alcohol age check range. Having a kid doesn’t suddenly make you old (although granted they make you feel old....).

Haha, I was called a young person on Friday at work. I'm 37 tomorrow. I still feel young tbh.

I know what you mean. I'm 24. People expect you to have little experience of life or comparative understanding. In a professional environment you aren't taken as seriously.

You should be taken seriously professionally and not talked down to. I had a colleague who was a patronising git to me. Turns out she thought I was 10 years younger than I am. But then she was still a patronising git to me after she found out my age, just because that's what she was like.

At 25, 4 years is 16% of your total life and a large % of your adult life so it feels like a substantial time period and you think "but university was an entire 4 years ago". But 4 years is 9% of my life and I'm aware of just how quickly it passes and how little it really is. You measure time differently as you age because you tend to see it as relative to the length of your life. It's why when you were at school 6 weeks holiday seemed like forever whereas in your 40s it seems like an eye blink.

If colleagues are dismissive of your work and discriminatory that's wrong. If they are just aware that you're young and haven't been around the block as many times, they've got a point.

You are young, I had three kids by then and I was still young!

Doesn’t mean you should be treat differently but in my head up to 30 is a young adult, that includes myself btw

I’m in my 40s and have been referred to as a young person or lumped in with others “you young people” a few times in this past year. At 44 it annoys me, at 35 I felt it was apt, at 25 I still thought I was a child 😂

Say you're likely to live to 90ish, I'd rank 25 as still young. You'll no longer be a young person maybe when you stop finding the phrase infuriating!

OP a child's brain fully matures by the age of 28....

I am 38 and wish someone called me young! 🤷🏼‍♀️

That's very specific mother. I assumed it was mid twenties but some of us don't fully mature until much later in life!