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To feel desperately sorry for Theresa May

398 replies

ferns99 · 28/03/2019 11:58

On a human level I just feel so sorry for her - she looks like she's aged so much and is apparently becoming quite unwell because of the immense stress she's under. To be continually ripped to shreds by the despicable ERG and so many others in the House of Commons is just awful - I don't know how she does it. A few times I've seen her looking like she's on the verge of tears. I wonder if she goes home every night and just sobs - I know I would.

It's sad as I think she would have made a decent PM if Brexit didn't exist.

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Abra1de · 28/03/2019 12:56

She got the modern slavery bill through and got rid of Abu Hamza, a particularly unpleasant extremist who was trying to encourage people to commit terrorist acts.

She wasn’t Home Secretary during Windrush so don’t know what that’s being raised.

Abra1de · 28/03/2019 12:57

And I doubt that she is personally personally responsible for millions of people wanting to kill themselves.
I don’t agree with her on Brexit btw.

TheWernethWife · 28/03/2019 12:57

Ewits agree with everything you have said

Ewitsahooman · 28/03/2019 12:58

Her hostile environment policies while she was at the Home Office involved several members of the Windrush generation so she was involved with it.

Alsohuman · 28/03/2019 12:59

Zero sympathy. She’s put party before country and created the biggest mess in political living memory. If she’d taken a cross party approach two years ago we wouldn’t be where we are now. She’ll step down, take her luxurious retirement and leave us with the disaster she’s created. I hope there’s a specially nasty corner of hell with her name on it. Next to Rees Moggs’ nameplate.

Theworldisfullofgs · 28/03/2019 13:00

She was PM during windrush and set up the system for windrush. They were her chickens coming home to roost.

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 28/03/2019 13:00

I have no sympathy whatsoever.
Her government has decimated public services, leaving the most vulnerable in society worse off, telling us there is no more money for schools and hospitals whilst continuing to give tax breaks to the super-rich and large corporations. I'll reserve my sympathy for the vulnerable people affected by her Government cuts and who will be no doubt be impacted further by her piss poor handling of the giant clusterfuck that is Brexit.

CoffeeRunner · 28/03/2019 13:02

I’m not sure it’s actually sympathy I feel for her, but I do have a kind of weird admiration for her carrying on to turn up every day & keep her temper in the face of everything.

Whoever had been PM through this shitstorm would have struggled massively. MPs are largely an uncontrollable bunch of self serving overgrown toddlers. Or at least that’s how they’re behaving at the moment.

I would have reached the “well fuck you” stage & walked on long long ago......

FriarTuck · 28/03/2019 13:03

Her husband has reportedly made money out of this crisis of her making
That's actually bollocks. If you did your research you'd find that his job involves client management (i.e. being nice to them) and NOT investment decisions. He doesn't make any money out of Brexit or her job.

Redcrayons · 28/03/2019 13:04

Don’t feel sorry for her at all, she chose this. She’s been around in politics long enough to know it was going to be a poisoned chalice. In a few years she’ll be making ££££ On the after dinner circuit, whilst the rest of us are living with consequences.

Agree that PMs look aged after a while in the job. I remember the photo of Gordon Brown after he left office, in Downing Street with his children smiling. He looked like a different person.

I wouldn’t want the job if they were delivering lorry loads of cash to my house.

CruCru · 28/03/2019 13:04

She does look as though she is falling apart. I am surprised that she is able to do the job - the moment things get rough, her blood sugars must go haywire.

Being PM does seem to age people quite badly - apart from David Cameron who still looked okay when he went.

I think she was probably the best of a bad lot at the time. Both Johnson and Gove ended up not running and there weren’t many alternatives. She should have gone much earlier than she did.

orangesquashh · 28/03/2019 13:05

That dancing video:

I liked that she was able to laugh at herself here.

Merryoldgoat · 28/03/2019 13:05

Nope. Literally zero sympathy.

Hazeintheclouds · 28/03/2019 13:07

Nope. You reap what you sow.

Hazeintheclouds · 28/03/2019 13:07

David Cameron has a painting in the attic.

IHateUncleJamie · 28/03/2019 13:08

It's sad as I think she would have made a decent PM if Brexit didn't exist.

She was one of the worst Home Secretaries in history so I highly doubt she would ever have been a decent PM, Brexit or not. She wrecked the Police, mocked them and accused them of “crying wolf”. She claims to be a practising Christian but has zero empathy for poor and disabled people.

She was visibly on the Remain side pre-referendum - power seems to have given her tunnel-vision and a catastrophic stubbornness which will take the UK to hell on a handcart.

I have zero sympathy for her.

orangesquashh · 28/03/2019 13:09

Total speculation of course, but David Cameron always came across as more of a "water off a duck's back" kind of guy to me.

pepperpot99 · 28/03/2019 13:09

A couple of weeks ago, after yet another spate of terrible senseless stabbings of young people, she was asked about the links between rising crime and the huge cuts - under her watch - in police numbers. Quick as a flash she came back with "the figures show no causal link". That says it all, frankly. I absolutely despise her ideology of cutting public services, that really nobody should ever get anything for free, or subsidised. That is the Tory ideology of austerity which has fucked this country over and continues to fuck it over as we speak. Police? youth services? CAMHS? school funding? NHS? they can all just fuck off can't they?

The architect of the 'hostile' environment. The woman who appointed Boris Johnson as foreign Sec, who then pretty much guaranteed Nazani Zaghari-Ratcliff would serve more years in prison in Iran. The woman who won't sack Chris Grayling despite the fact that his incompetence and utter shiteness is unprecedented. I could go on but it's too depressing.

When Grenfell happened, she visited the area but wouldn't talk to the people. I vividly recall that Corbyn and Sadiq did - they were heckled and jostled and things got very edgy, but they stood there and bloody well took it.

She is a Vicar's daughter but I see her policies as profoundly anti-Christian.

Parliament is, frankly, a vile pit of braying, grasping narcissists. I watched some of the voting and results last night and felt utterly ashamed to be British. The prolonged shouting and sneering of the over entitled, spoiled and out of touch wankers. I feel like this ought to be a bit of a French Revolution moment, tbh.

So no, OP - no sympathy here.

neveradullmoment99 · 28/03/2019 13:10

NO quite frankly.
She chose to do it. She has made an arse of it.

MamaBear8686 · 28/03/2019 13:11

On a human level I do feel a bit sorry for her. I work in local government and isles a thankless job even at my low level so can't imagine what being PM would be like. She'll never be able to please everyone, it's an impossible job.

Having said that I absolutely can't get behind her views and ideas and feel very sorry for the people who have struggled thanks to her and her parties decisions.

PositiveDiscipline · 28/03/2019 13:11

I feel a bit sorry for her. On some level I think that the men in Westminster just don't want to be told what to do by a woman - end of.
She's not done a good job but she has more balls than Boris and Grove put together and any Conservative man we get next as PM will be even worse.

calpop · 28/03/2019 13:12

Nope. She's a career politician. She chose it. Nope.

And this:

She will make a fortune on the international Lecture Circuit in years to come.

She will continue to have an even more comfortable life off the back of it.

orangesquashh · 28/03/2019 13:12

I think I first felt sorry for her when Andrea Leadsom made those nasty comments about her not being a mother. Weren't she and Philip unable to have kids?

SunnyDaysShadyCorners · 28/03/2019 13:13

On a human level, yes I feel sorry for her. It must be relentless.

However, when she took the job she inherited an situation where the country was divided down the middle. Immediately she sided with one half of the voters with her 'No deal is better than a bad deal' and 'Citizens of the world are citizens of nowhere' rhetoric.

Instead of looking for a middle ground to build a consensus from she created her own 'red lines' and refused to even contemplate a negotiating position that didn't appease the hard right of her party. Along the way her Government even found itself in contempt of parliament which is pretty shocking management of the process.

I think that the situation she finds herself in now is entirely of her own making and that she has made it far worse that it needed to be. A more skilled diplomat would have tried to appeal to both sides of the argument and propose a pragmatic solution using a cross Parliamentary committee in my opinion.

havingtochangeusernameagain · 28/03/2019 13:13

I don't understand the sympathy around her being this poor, beleaguered woman doing her best against the Westminster bullies. Do we have the same hand-wringing sympathy for the male politicians who monumentally fuck everything up and then blunder around fucking it up even further in a vain attempt to prolong their career

I don't know. I think you can see the bullying and lack of compromise going on. But she's a Tory and my sympathy is always going to be limited for any member of the Tory party.

Chris Grayling is completely incompetent and everyone says so. But you don't get the impression he's being bullied, he's just useless.