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children that are firghtened of dogs and how i find some parents are encouraging their fear

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haychee · 11/07/2007 10:46

I have 2 medium to large dogs and i get so cross when i come accross children that just lose the plot if the dogs go near them. I can understand that they are frightened and i call the dogs away from the child instantly. But what makes me cross is the parents responses, "that dog should be on a lead" or i just get looks that could kill you dead. My arguement is, that if the child is that frightened then why would you take him or her to a place where dogs are everywhere in a dog walking area. Why do parents encourage their childrens fear by making these comments? what good does it do for the child? I actually saw one mother once who picked her child up every time the dog was anywhere close (like 4-5meters away). The child got increasingly anxious and the mother ended up having a go at me. I know and fully appreciate that some dogs are dangerous but mine arent and i think that when parents react like this infront of their children the message they are displaying is that its ok to be this frightened of dogs.

My daughter was once frightened of thunder so i purposely sat up with her watching a storm and saying things like "wow, that one was very loud" and " cor, look at that lightening isnt it beautiful". Because of this time i spent with her and the way we watched it together has dulled her fear - infact she gets quite excited if there is a storm brewing now.
Any one else feel the same or can understand where im coming from? or maybe your one of these types of parents that react like this? I would like to discuss the issue if anyone has any comments?

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NKF · 11/07/2007 21:59

If kids didn't do what? Run? Play a game? I don't get it. You can't mean that. Can you?

LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 21:59

oh haychee I would get that post deleted, it's never a great idea to post too much personal information on an open forum!

peanutbear · 11/07/2007 22:00

I had a young child open my gates today to let my dog out because she wanted to stroke her, luckily I am always out the front when she is because she would have happily gone to play with this little girl whos mother was frantically scouring the street for her she was only three and had wandered off !

peanutbear · 11/07/2007 22:01

Mrs fish - sorry your right that was my fault

MrsFish · 11/07/2007 22:01

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bothered

haychee · 11/07/2007 22:02

There isnt much damage that can be done with that info, its expired last month so i can now follow a more family friendly career of driving instruction (can be fitted in around all of my various commitments). Im glad you are concerned for me tho, thanks. (thought i was mostly hated with a passion on MN)

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winestein · 11/07/2007 22:02

Oh, and that's something else I am scared of Peanut - blimmin horses!

I have socialised my dog to be around them as we encounter them reasonably often on walks, and he developed his own affinity with Shetland Ponies (possibly because he looks like a bit like a Thelwell pony himself).

Can someone start a thread saying "My horse reared at someone then kicked them in the chest and they had the nerve to swear at me whilst waiting for the ambulance. Dimwits"

LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 22:03

I don't hate you, I don't know you!

Bink · 11/07/2007 22:04

No, misconstrued, or taken out of context, wasn't what happened to what you said.

What happened - technically speaking - was that the logical implications of what you'd said (and of which you did not seem aware), were pointed out to you. So, technically, your remark was put in logical context, not taken out of it.

But I'm not going to bother any more. Though I still have some sympathy for your being sworn at. As I would have for anyone.

haychee · 11/07/2007 22:05

No you dont know me but you attack me on every issue i bring up or have the dare to feel strongly about.

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MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 22:05

ok, I take it back about registration number. I havent checked it out the it is a similar layout to my PIN. Would get it removed.

Doesnt change the fact i still think you talk alot of rubbish.

MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 22:06

haychee - the reason people respond negatively to you is because of what you say.

haychee · 11/07/2007 22:07

Do you need my adi number too just so i can proove who i say i am?
Am i still a liar?

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haychee · 11/07/2007 22:07

adi - approved driving instructor

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haychee · 11/07/2007 22:08

am i still full of shit?

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winestein · 11/07/2007 22:10

On this subject, yes. 'Fraid so.

Hulababy · 11/07/2007 22:10

I am scared of dogs because I was bitten as a teenager by a so-called family friendly dog that I believed I could trust.

So yes I do prefer dogs to be on a lead, and I do not like to have dogs run up to me or my child. I think in an area where there is likwly to be young children that the animal doesn't know (and therefore can't predict the child's actions) the dog should be kept on a lead.

My DD isn't actually that nervous of dogs TBH. However she knows not to go up to them as any dog can bite if anxious or worried.

I cannot say if a dog is safe or not just by looking at it. You may say your dogs are safe but how do you expect a parent to know that?

I would actually prefer my child to be a little unsure of dogs and to keep her distance than to be over confident and to run up to them and try and pet them. Safer that way IMO.

haychee · 11/07/2007 22:10

hmm....very quiet now arent we all?!

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winestein · 11/07/2007 22:10

Start another thread about discrepancies in the Highway Code

MrsBadger · 11/07/2007 22:11

Knowing you are who you say you are still wouldn't make me agree with you.
On MN you are known only by what you post.

winestein · 11/07/2007 22:11

People are only quiet because they are bored Haychee.

Night night.

LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 22:12

haychee, you've only posted on 2 subjects! And I disagree with you on both. Try widening your participation, I'm sure I can't disagree with you on everything!

MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 22:13

haychee on Wed 11-Jul-07 22:08:56
am i still full of shit?

The answer would be yes. Your story has changed so much throught this thread. I disagree with what you have said on this thread and the shrek thread. What makes me laugh most is that we shouldnt be safety consious of our children around dogs and should discourage them being frightened of dogs but we must make sure they are terrified of being snatched from their beds.

So very strongly I do feel you are full of shit, if your registration has indeed lapsed, then you are not a staff nurse, therefore your profile is wrong. You cannot work as a nurse without registration.

LazyLine · 11/07/2007 22:13

Do your dogs wear their medals when out for a walk?

I do know one dog that has medals actually:

medal-toting dog

winestein · 11/07/2007 22:13

Oooh Mrs Badger, I was wondering about you and if you had solved your Lilylolo powder-puff problem? I have the same
[hijack smi-jack emoticon]

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