To be ridiculously hurt

[gingerbeerbeast]

Hello. I’m married , mostly happy and contented . I have a close friend who i talk to every single day either by message on WhatsApp or in person . Now he has a girlfriend with whom he is getting close . It was a relaxed affair until now . The relationship has developed . He has suddenly stopped the regular contact and chatting . I feel hurt. Not jealous but hurt .i feel like I was a fill in friend until now where he has found someone to fill his days and nights and chat with and I feel very rejected . He is not ignoring me or that but certainly doesn’t bother too much with me as my role is now defunct , almost . AIBU to feel like this... hurt and and dumped as a friend ?

Sounds like you are on the right track. It will get easier but I know it's painful now xx

nananightfever, WTF?

I'm not interested in your critique of my post on this thread or anywhere else, it wasn't to you. You may not agree with it but that doesn't make it 'rubbish'.

I've never noticed you before, probably never will again...

Sorry, OP, hope you're having a better day today. It will get better. I think that now you've realised that you were feeding his ego rather than investing in a genuine friendship (which you fully deserved), you'll be able to put this behind you once the 'habit' has diminished and you find other distractions and things to do. Best wishes to you.

I can see how you would be hurt
He's a user and I think you have done the right thing backing away and acting aloof at work.