To be fuming at this cheeky fucker?!

[MyBreadIsEggy]

So I let an acquaintance borrow one of the slings from my embarrassingly large collection a while ago. Made it clear that I’d be wanting it back.
Fast forward a few months and I’m expecting another baby, so will be needing it. It one of the few on the market with a lower weight limit for tiny babies (suitable from 5lbs) and I make small babies, which is why it’s this specific sling I’ll be wanting for my new baby.
Asked the other day about getting it back, and she said “oh it’s I’ve packed it away somewhere but will look.”
Mentioned it to another friend who also knows her and said she’s pretty sure that it was being advertised on a Facebook selling site a while back
AIBU to call her out on it, and expect either my sling back or the money to replace it?!
Who does that? Borrows something from a friend and then flogs it on the sly?!!

I feel sorry for him. He sounds like a good sort (married to a bit of a div...).

So pleased you’ve got money back. Close caboos are brilliant (I sold mine for £30 for a quick sale, would never have let it go for a tenner!), you could get one of the limited edition prints :o I loved mine so much and was gutted when DD2 outgrew it

Is it a caboo OP? I have one that's going spare...

I’ll definitely be buying a new Caboo
I’ve got a ton of stretchy, and woven wraps, and a few different buckle carriers, but the Caboo is my favourite for the first few weeks when baby is teeny weeny

Do you not get hot with a sling like the caboo? It looks like another top almost? it makes me feel a bit claustrophobic just to look at lol

Great outcome! I definitely wouldn't grumble over the £10 difference as he has been kind enough to quickly rectify the CFs mistake and to apologise.

To be honest she was a CF but did pay it back. Many of these CF stories never get the money back, esp this promptly.
I would let the dust settle and reach out to her and forgive. Laugh about it and move on. Tis but your choice though and only you know whether it is a friendship worth keeping.

I think it was probably a mistake and she panicked and fibbed rather than say “Oh shit, I sold it with the rest of the baby gubbins”.

I’m far more fascinated by OPs seemingly HUGE baby carrier collection. Why???!!!

Not the point of the thread, but tkmaxx sometimes has the caboo online, much cheaper, if you’re planning to buy a new one maybe worth a look there.

Itwouldtakemuchmorethanthis
Both my babies were total pram refusers, so I borrowed some from a sling library to find ones I liked, then the sling library closed down and sold off all their stock very cheap. I bought a few different ones that I’d borrowed and liked. Then I became a bit of a sling junky, and kept buying wraps that had a fancy print that I liked etc. Resulting in quite a big collection
I will sell them all on once DC3 grows too big to carry. He/she is definitely going to be our last baby!

I would let the dust settle and reach out to her and forgive

OP is not a memebr of the Four Tops.

LannieDuck

Good point, Lannie - there are indeed a few perfectly good ways of managing your personal MN experience which don't require you to gatecrash everybody else's.

Is it one of these? If so I’m selling mine.

I agree it really is the best sling for newborns (although mine weren’t small). I bought my one when I had my third and our toddler was still in the buggy.

@MrsKoala: what sort of price do they go for, second hand? I've never heard of Caboo before (I've been looking at Tula or ergobaby)

I would let the dust settle and reach out to her and forgive

OP is not a memebr of the Four Tops.

Jokie I’ve got both of those too I personally prefer the Tula.
DC2 fit in it nicely from about 7 months, and DC1 only just outgrew it at 3 and a half!

Keep asking!!!

Keep asking what @Rtruth?

@Klopptmist 😂 Perfect comment

(Sorry updates are taking me ages to type because every couple of clicks, I keep getting redirected to dodgy pop-up sites!! Was happening all day yesterday too, only on mumsnet though confused)

Just to say I’ve had the exact same thing and only on Mumsnet. It seemed to stop yesterday (was doing it all day the day before) but has just this minute done it again despite me clearing my cookies/website data about 10 times already!!

I would jokingly say I hope you haven’t sold it or given it away by mistake and watch for her reaction. If she admits to selling it you should tell her that you are going to need one the same so you’re going to have to get you one from somewhere. Disgraceful behaviour if she has sold it. But make sure she has before getting into it.

Options:

1. Call her out on it and then ditch her. ( very stressful)

Especially as -

1. You don't for sure, the other friend could be wrong.
2. Don't sweat it, there are more important and fun things in life to do - 4. See it as a positive, it has gone, so treat yourself to a brand new one.

I notice you start off by calling her an aquaintance then at the end call her a friend.

1. Perhaps she never saw you as a friend, perhaps she does this kind of thing and to her it's normal. people have different standards and like you said she was acquaintance so how well did you know her anyway.

This is a lesson

1. Learn the lesson don't lend to acquaintances things you may one day need back or if you do lend expect not to get them back.

Omg! Are you Bella as like being unreasonable! when we moved into our first new house a year ago (I was pregnant with my second) we bought a changing table from my younger sister's friend and also got offered the wardrobe to match it while we were there so I said yes ok I will pay you the money for both however we don't get the keys for a month or two so are we able to collect it when we have the keys she said yeah sure that's not a problem I haven't got a new wardrobe to replace it yet anyway. I was talking to a friend at work well I was still at work and she said oh yeah I know her, I'm sure that wardrobe was on Facebook selling page and there was a woman going to collect it. So when it came to getting the keys and moving everything in I asked her a suitable day we we could come and collect it, she ignored it obviously, I messaged her again, and she replied saying sorry I didn't think you still wanted it someone else has got it now!!! I paid for it! So I messaged her and said I want my money back then as I paid you for it, she ignored the message for nearly 3 weeks!!

RTFT PEOPLE 🤬🤬

@MyBreadIsEggy: which Tula did you get? I'm currently on the hunt and there's a few that I've send that I like but not sure if they're suitable. Our sling library has shut down so I'm on my own, this time!