To be fuming at this cheeky fucker?!

[MyBreadIsEggy]

So I let an acquaintance borrow one of the slings from my embarrassingly large collection a while ago. Made it clear that I’d be wanting it back.
Fast forward a few months and I’m expecting another baby, so will be needing it. It one of the few on the market with a lower weight limit for tiny babies (suitable from 5lbs) and I make small babies, which is why it’s this specific sling I’ll be wanting for my new baby.
Asked the other day about getting it back, and she said “oh it’s I’ve packed it away somewhere but will look.”
Mentioned it to another friend who also knows her and said she’s pretty sure that it was being advertised on a Facebook selling site a while back
AIBU to call her out on it, and expect either my sling back or the money to replace it?!
Who does that? Borrows something from a friend and then flogs it on the sly?!!

Surely she has to pay to replace the sling and if that is £60 rather than £40, because there aren’t any available second hand at the moment, then that is what needs paying.

Out of interest, what sling is it? I’m due now and predicted a small baby due to IUGR.

So even if she gives you £40 you are going to have to pay extra to buy a new sling? Just get DH to send a link for her to buy a replacement.

Wow so she's a CF and a coward. I'd make sure how much they intend on sending first, someone like that is likely to send you £10 because that's what they got for it.

It's needs to be sling for sling to put you back in the position you were ie actually owning a sling to use. You should not be out of pocket so what you actually paid it's irrelevant.

Get them to buy you the replacement. They have to go to some effort that way. CF bastards. Even the DH is taking the easy route.

Don't be surprised if you are only transferred a tenner.

I agree, send the link.

She's a CF, for sure, but am I the only one who's perturbed that now all the money business has gone over to the men? Presumably they don't know how you operate your finances as a couple - the whole sling lending business was conducted between the women. I can understand that the 'friend' is, rightfully, too embarrassed to reimburse you herself, but her DH should be asking for your bank details, not your DH's, for the reimbursement.

Just an aside really. Glad you are getting your money back (or your DH is...). And too right it should be £60, not £40.

Definitely send the details of the cost of replacing the sling and not just what you paid for it in the first place, you shouldn't be out of pocket for the sling when you did have one that you should have been able to use except for her selling it.

@supermoon, I would assume that a married couple had a joint account and wouldn't think twice about asking one of them for banking details regardless of who was owed the money, it's probably what CF's DH did too.

Agree with others, either get them to buy you a new one or ask for the full amount it will cost you to get a new one, including any postage if you have to pay that too.

Supermoon DH and I share a joint account which all our money goes into, so that side of things isn’t really a problem.
I think she’s just mega embarrassed that she’s been caught out, so has got her DH to deal with it

How much got sent? £10, £40 or £60?

Itshard We are still waiting.
DH has sent his details, but her DH hasn’t seen the message yet.

(Sorry updates are taking me ages to type because every couple of clicks, I keep getting redirected to dodgy pop-up sites!! Was happening all day yesterday too, only on mumsnet though )

Yup it needs to be the full cost of replacing the sling, so £60.
(unless you can find another cheeky fucker seedling one for £10)

Would you buy a replacement small baby sling before the baby's born? If your baby doesn't need the small size that would be a waste of money, better to keep the money and wait and see if it's needed imo.

The CF's DH replying isn't because he holds the purse strings it's because the CF is too embarrassed to.

@MyBreadIsEggy: without missing the entire point of the thread and your very CF friend... Could you message me or name the sling you used for your smaller baby? Ours went "for a walk" too and I'm trying to find one that will be suitable for a smaller baby

caught it has the smallest lower weight limit on the the market (5lbs) but still has a decent upper weight limit (40lbs I think!), so it can be used for any size baby, but is especially good for small ones. My first two babies practically lived in it for much of their first year.

OP - clear cookies 🍪 on phone/laptop. That will get get rid of pop-ups.

Thanks WhiteDust!

What a CF!!

Massive cf! If was lucky enough to get passed loads of clothes etc for free but when the friend didn't want them back (I did ask and check!) I donated them to the charity shop as I wouldn't feel right benefitting from something I'd received for free!

ZigZag I should have known better than to lend it really.
I’ve given baby clothes to a friend for free before and she’s then sold them for profit
Maybe I need to stop being nice to people!

@MyBreadIsEggy, thanks for posting about the dodgy website links popping up. I had that on my phone yesterday and was getting really frustrated by it.

Also can’t believe what a CF this woman is - when you’re clear something is on loan, and you’ve asked for it back, to then find it up for sale at a fraction of the price really is not on!! She knows she’s been caught on the hop and has got her DH to be the fall guy!!

Maybe I need to stop being nice to people! No you need to get nicer friends.