AIBU that if I die tragically I don't want people...

[BridlingtonSand]

to leave flowers and soft toys in public that will look terrible after 24 hours.

to leave flowers anywhere that is only connected to me by my death, but an otherwise meaningless place.

to start "a fund" with no purpose and with no consultation with my family and friends.

to post mawkish, self-indulgent sentimental comments about me on Facebook, or make out that they knew me personally, or that they love me and I'm forever in their hearts, or that I'm now flying high with the angels, or that they hope I'm haunting my murderer in prison, or post crappy gifs of pixelated candles.

to talk to the press.

No. IANBU.

I think that crowdfunding should be verified by the person it is aimed at before any money can be collected, and that the money should go directly to the person it was aimed at. It is so open to scamming and can really mess up vulnerable people's lives. 100% agree with you on that point.

But I see no real harm in flowers being left as people want to show that they care. A local 16 year old was killed in an accident and seeing her little flower shrine every year in February is a reminder of how fragile life is. It has been over 10 years now and actually seeing the renewed flowers is lovely. She hasn't been forgotten.

Libby Squires' family is quoted as saying they're touched by the tributes to her and appreciate the kindness of people in Hull. I guess we're all different.

I don't really care how my genuine loved ones find comfort (they can be as tacky as they like) but I wouldn't want them upset by random acquaintances using my death as an opportunity to draw attention to themselves.

Totally agree OP.
For those saying 'you won't know' I think the same applies if something happened to someone in my family, then I would know.

Only people that benefit , are the florists.

Or the undertakers lol.

You can't stop them - you'll be long gone.

For the Facebook thing, in your settings there is an option for you to choose if your account is deactivated if it's reported to them that you've died instead of one of those 'remembering' pages. I have gone for that option.

Grief vultures are horrible. Ynbu

You wont care, you wont know anything about it. If it brings some kind of comfort/closure to grieving loved ones leave them to it.

But does it in fact? If someone I love died tragically, I can't see myself being in any way comforted by a load of strangers leaving soft toys and candles where they died or near our house.