To find this uncomfortable?

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I am a nanny (as in childcarer) and I have an acquaintance who I met 10 years ago when we nannied abroad together.
We were friendly-ish as we’re working in the same house etc.
She was sacked after 6 weeks though, as she was lazy and unprofessional. We’ve stayed acquaintances ever since, and she messages me every few weeks, just asking how work is etc.
I just reply fairly boring things, such as “it’s busy with it being the school holidays” etc. So no personal info about my charges. She doesn’t know their names or ages despite me working with them for a few years.
She goes through nannying jobs like hot meals. She’ll find jobs on gumtree, work for a few weeks, get sacked or told they no longer need help, then she’ll be unemployed for a month or so before finding somewhere for another 2 weeks.
I just feel really bad the way she speaks about the kids she cares for. She’ll message and say “they’re thick” or “they dress like homeless children” or “they do my head in”.
So her latest family has a 4 year old boy.
All I’ve heard for the last 2 weeks is how weird he is, he won’t eat proper food, he talks like a baby etc etc.
Yesterday I received a message from her saying “even his belly button is weird”
I went to open the message and there’s a photo of this 4 year old boy standing totally naked and it’s a full frontal image.
I’m so cross with her that I’ve been made to view this naked photo of a child I don’t know.
I’m furious that she thinks it’s acceptable to take naked photos of children.
And I feel gutted for the parents that they are allowing their son to be cared for by somebody who would do this.
Now I’m really worried for my own career as what if I’m tracked down to having received this image.
I’ve been in childcare for 20 years and always respected in long term positions.
Realistically I don’t know the family, or the child, so I can’t do anything about it.
I’m so cross with her though.

Yes. Filled in an online form.
Although her name is very common eg Sarah Smith and I didn’t have many details to report.
Also concerned her phone may be a pay as you go so they may not trace her from that, as she changes numbers often and doesn’t have a contract phone due to going abroad for jobs and then coming home.
She was in New Zealand for 6 weeks not that long ago.
I’ve done my best though.

From what your describing, it sounds very likely that this isnt the first time she's done this... New phones every so often just sounds dodgy- no one in real life is that clumsy to warrant new sims/numbers so frequently. New phones, sure... But new SIMS?!? Sorry, but I think given that you do seem to know a bit more about the behaviours of this woman than your original post implied, albeit vague things that joined together in person would paint a better picture of her character. I think in your position I'd have been down to the police station instead..they are open
24/7 and I don't think in this instance they'd turn you away....if not to just make it abundantly clear that she sent you indecent images of a child without your consent, but also to present the character traits you are aware of which may not have been outlined in your online submission?? This woman isn't your friend. She's not a friend to the mums who have placed the safety and security of their children in her hands. She's broken at least one mums trust. At best, she's naive; at worst.... Sorry, but, for me... Police station. Stop whatever this is immediately. I know you are busy and have reported online OP, but I don't think I could sit still till I knew it was actively being investigated.

Sorry, just re-read above about phone changes.... Still doesn't cut it for me. Working abroad you'd still get a 'home' mobile phone/Sim deal cheaper than constantly changing for pay as you go...

Report to police for them to follow up re the child- have no further contact so as not to implicate yourself .

Just saw you filled in an online form? I would go into a police station.

This is a safeguarding issue which I would report to the Police.

You owe it to the little boy to have her reported.

Well done op, hopefully she'll get dealt with. I wouldn't block her just yet in case you can get more info from her.

Block her! She's not really a friend is she?

...But report her first.

You need to report her to ofsted and the family. I doubt she's ofsted registered by the sounds of her.

Definitely report this!

I'd be absolutely livid if someone was taking pics of my ds naked and forwarding it and also her calling him weird etc etc etc!

She shouldn't be looking after children at all, phone the social services ASAP and see what they suggest.

I'd be reporting her, don't reply until you've been to the police station. They might want you to arrange meeting her so they can get hold of her and her phone. I would be quite concerned in all fairness. How can anyone think it's ok to take pictures of a child like that, let alone send them on!

This little boy is only 4, if she's commenting on his speech being like a baby, this means chances are he is speech delayed so the poor thing probably can't tell anyone what's going on.

God only knows what else is happening behind closed doors,

Safeguard him & report it as soon as possible, just give every detail you have and let the professionals do the rest.

Please report that’s horrible.

Shameful that so many patents keep choosing to leave their children with someone with some a scrappy employment history and presumably not a set of glowing references

Op has reported.

I'd report her to Ofsted too, she may not be registered but no harm in trying.. they will also have her work details if she is known to them.

I'm actually a bit concerned at your professionalism as I don't think for one minute you have dealt with this appropriately. If you were my nanny and I found this out I would be reconsidering your role.

Im amazed you needed to ask. And it would be very easy to find out where she is working but you cant be bothered.

Yeah it's completely inappropriate. What a difficult situation to be in OP.

I'm actually a bit concerned at your professionalism as I don't think for one minute you have dealt with this appropriately. If you were my nanny and I found this out I would be reconsidering your role.
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I am disappointed in your response to this op, you must have done safeguarding training and you have no idea how to report this? Even common sense should tell you the police need to know!