To be fuming about this comment

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DH has a few days off work. I am on maternity leave with 10 months old DS. Today we went to a playgroup. There were other babies there of a similar age. Many of them competently crawling. DS has tummy crawled for a while and very recently starting crawling on his knees, not so much today as it's slower than commando style. He is very bright generally and climbs, stands, claps, blows raspberries, waves and says some words.

After the group DH asked if I was worried about how 'behind' DS is. I explained that I didn't think he was behind at all. He then asked if the other babies (who can crawl well) were breastfed. I said yes 2 of them were EBF to 6 months. By this point I was on edge as I could see where he was going with it. He then said maybe DS was slower as not breastfed. And then said that breastfed babies are obviously more advanced.

For medical reasons we had to combination feed. I managed to BF to 12 weeks, i was extremely upset about the whole situation as DH knows.

AIBU to want to punch him?? Don't want to go into details of our relationship and how good or terrible he has been generally. Just want some perspective on this comment as I know I am sensitive about the topic!

Oh, I'm so sorry, that's awful. I suggest couple's counselling - he needs to have a good re-think.

Total BS - I'd give a punch in the nuts! BF makes zero difference to when you can crawl. TBH I'm a bit sceptical of some of these miraculous benefits of breastfeeding - my fat is definitely not melting away despite BF nothing to do with my chocolate consumption

Tell DH to stand in the local primary school playground and tell how each kid was fed at birth. DICK.

I never crawled - was a bottom shuffler. walked at 15-16 months. was ff and have 2 degrees and multiple diplomas. Oh and my Mum smoked through her pregnancy.
silly man

Your dh is a complete tit. If you'll excuse the pun. He ought to fuck off, really.

I only managed 3 weeks bfing. My DS crawled late, around 11 months. He didnt walk until 14 months. Now at 20 months his talking is amazing, often stringing together 3/4 words. Not bragging but just saying their ability to crawl/walk has nothing to do with how they're fed. I'd love to punch your 'D' H! YANBU.

What a dick.

DD was formula fed, walking at 9.5 months and progressed to a full on run at 10.5 months', it was a fucking heart attack inducing curse, trust me. Breast milk is wonderful in many ways, but does not give babies crawling abilities.

DD was formula fed. She has an IQ of 166, a maths degree, speaks three languages, plays piano and is lethal at krav maga. Obviously the lack of breast feeding has really held her back.... oh, wait.

That's ridiculous! My siblings were bf and I was ff. They both have slight special needs and I don't. The breast feeding brigade can't pin all the blame on formula!!!

Just another insight... both my girls were ebf. My first didn't walk until 15 months, but was talking in sentences before a year. Second was walking at 9 months, but only started talking properly around 18 months. They both had the same milk from the same boobs, they're just different children who do things at different times. In my first antenatal group some sat before others, some crawled early, others talked early, some didn't eat any solids until 13 months, and now at almost 5, they all have a very similar range of skills, some obviously more advanced in different areas depending on their individual interests. Because that's what they are... individuals. It's so silly to compare babies as they're all growing and changing every single day. Tell your dh to do one and he can have a go at lactating for the next baby if he's so great.

How fucking dare he! My DC are all geniuses and they were FF after the first couple of weeks! He's a tosser.

OP I currently look after a child who was breastfed and is considerably older than you DS and they still can't crawl. Your DH is talking bollocks.

I was EBF and didn't walk til 18 months..! Far happier bossing my elder brother around and making him bring me things ;-)

My BF DD was crawling at 7 months but didn't walk until 14 months. Your DS is absolutely normal, as you know. Method of feeding has absolutely nothing to do with it!
I think a PP has put it well though, your DH probably sees your DS around his peers so infrequently that he has no idea what is or isn't normal. But he still should have been a bit more tactful!

My two were both EBF until around the age of two

Erm, wasn’t exactly what I meant but you get my drift

I was BF but am apparently not the brightest!

What a prick!
Don’t just punch him in the face, kick him in the nuts too

He is talking crap but you obviously know that... I would suggest he spends more time with his DS -and other babies to improve his knowledge.... If he wants to do something why doesnt he take him swimming or baby gym ! especially if you get to stay in bed

Total bulshit... both mine weren’t breastfed and they early learners, DS learned to crawl aged 6/7 months and dd walked aged 10 months. Kids go on thier own rate, clearly your DS has a problem with it, but that his problem not yours and DS... just tell him to get over it...

Well... I could only breastfeed for a short amount of time (won't go into why it didn't work out) by 8 weeks she was exclusively formula fed...

She was crawling at 4 months and walking at 8 months. She's not even 1 yet and is constantly hitting "milestones" early. I bet she'd be like that no matter what, breast or formula fed. She was just put here to keep me on my toes lol

Thoughtless. But, was he just musing and if felt like an attack? Mr P is known for thinking out loud and being tactless because of it.

No correlation.
My son crawled at 6 months and walked at 10 months and formula fed.
They all walk eventually anyway so what does it matter.

I don't know about crawling but my brother walked ran at 11 months and I did at 12 months. We never had even one drop of breastmilk.

In my opinion babies do one thing at a time, either they concentrate on walking, or they concentrate on communication or whatever. I haven't been wrong yet.

In my opinion your partner is a dick.

Md ds was exclusively breastfed (weaned at 4.5 months because that's what most people did back then and I didn't know better but breast fed until he was 13 months ).

He slept through from 2 weeks - I had to wake him to feed him

He only started commando crawling at 11 months, crawling on all fours at just over 12 months - although he was "cruising" at 12 months. He didn't walk until he was 17 months old.

Oh - and he didn't "talk" (as in, intelligible sentences as opposed to some form of Serbo-Croation ) until he was 3.

He is now 18, we can't shut him up , he is studying Politics and International Relations at a good Uni, he cycled competitively for 3 years and he is a talented rugby player. So nothing to do with the "age" that they first do things.

They are ready when they are ready Sweet FA to do with breast feeding or not.

Your dh is talking bollocks.

I think your DH does sound a bit behind.

Was he really going around surveying the other mothers on how long they breast fed? I'm just trying to picture it all.

I hope he’s got some good points.