To not want this person to come to my home and to cancel?

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I am selling an item on shpock. I’ve had an offer on it for £40 which I have accepted and the buyer has accepted.
However they keep asking for my mobile number and won’t give me a straight answer about when they want to collect.
Am I being ridiculous?

I don’t know but something is just making me uncomfortable. I have sold a few times in this way and have never had any worries.

I always ask for a mobile number from the seller as often I don't have internet on my phone when I am out of the house. I never save the numbers or ring them ever again! I've even been given addresses by sellers and collected from their door, I never remember the address! I only write it into Google maps before I leave and take a picture so I know where to go.

Obviously if I have internet data, this is all unnecessary

I sell loads and just don't let them in the house unless Comfortable . Take cash, give item that's it

Take cash, give item that's it

Same here

I have had this fairly recently through ebay. The buyer could not commit to a time or day despite me offering alternatives. However they were pressurising me for my mobile number and address. I responded by saying that once we had confirmed an actual date and time I would give out the details required. They were not happy so I suggested they could cancel the sale, this made them even more antagonistic. They left me awful feedback on ebay for an item they did not purchase. I have bought and sold lots and never had a problem before, some buyers simply want to control the sale, as a seller I think I have the right to do that and not be dictated to.

Verynice, he knows the road so of course he knows where to go.

I always give a rough address but wont give an actual address until the day of sale and when I am in.

I have had some messages which felt off so have never sold to them.

But I am very clear. I ask when they will be collecting and the confirm on the day they are still coming then give full address. I cant see why anyone needs a mobile number unless you live in a rabbit Warren estate or middle of nowhere.

the lady selling had DH text her when he was leaving and she then text him her house number

That's a sensible idea, but the OP won't give the buyer their mobile number.

Cancel

Did they meet you in the end OP ?

I'm confused. I understand that they perhaps didn't agree a time straight away (which I think is fair enough, sometimes people have to plan their day, before they can make or agree to suggestions).

"They have now said that they would like to come today at 12 but I just don’t feel right."

^ But by around 10am they had suggested 12.

"They have a rough address but I want to know when they are coming before they just turn up."

^ Except it seemed that you were confused about whether they would come then, and still wouldn't give an address.

Yes, sorry, but I do kind of think you are being unreasonable. Hopefully they will agree to meet in a public place tomorrow (they'll probably be relieved not to have to come to your house) and it can get sorted out.

I don't think you should be selling things for collection only if you're going to dick purchasers around on not giving contact details/ address for collection

I always ask people from eBay/Freecycle to collect from my house and have never had any problems - and I’ve sold/given away a lot! Am I being naive?

I'm sorry OP but I'd be leaving bad review/rating for you as a time waster dicking people around. If you don't want to give people your details then sell items for delivery only, strictly no pickup; if the item is too big for that then find another way to sell it.

Public place only. Delay until your son is better. That would creep me out too.
Shpock is full of time wasters and nasty types so for your own safety public place only and with a friend too is possible. If they keep pressuring you just firmly tell them it's on your terms only.

If you’re not happy about the transaction, maybe put the sale off until your husband is back home.

I'm wondering if the poor buyer has finished jumping through hoops & got the item yet!

I don't think you're being unreasonable OP. Trust your gut. I think if someone was pushing for number and address to, it would put me on alert. Agreed about having pay and go SIM card and meeting in public places.

I think if someone was pushing for number and address to, it would put me on alert.

I can understand being on alert if someone asked for them out of the blue, but the person was trying to buy something so it was reasonable request.

They can have the street name during the initial conversation about the purchase, then the house number when they seller and buyer are happy and arrangements made.

Why are we encouraging a poster to ignore her instincts? I sell things online and one occasion I didn’t have a good feel about a person so I didn’t sell to them.

So did they buy it? Or are you still uhhming and ahhhing about giving them your number?

You said you didn’t know why you felt something was off.

Just wondering if, if you’re honest with yourself, it’s the poor spelling/grammar/command of English that gave you a bad impression?

If the texts had been articulate like - “would you be able to give me your full address?” I wonder if you might have taken them differently. Not judging just wondering!

I saw it as they were pushing for ops address before they'd give a time for collection. It can be a sign of a scam thing too. Phoning to make sure they're out etc etc etc

I hope everything went ok with the sale but I know exactly why you had misgivings with the messages you were being sent.

I don’t know why, but if I get messages back that are bad grammar/bad English, I am also a bit wary. I can’t explain why I feel that way but I do.

Because you're a little bit bigoted, pantry. That's why.