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To not want this person to come to my home and to cancel?

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Shocksandboooos · 21/03/2019 10:01

I am selling an item on shpock. I’ve had an offer on it for £40 which I have accepted and the buyer has accepted.
However they keep asking for my mobile number and won’t give me a straight answer about when they want to collect.
Am I being ridiculous?

I don’t know but something is just making me uncomfortable. I have sold a few times in this way and have never had any worries.

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Shocksandboooos · 21/03/2019 10:31

As I said above. They can contact me through shpock. They have a rough address but I want to know when they are coming before they just turn up.
It is a big item so I can’t post. I’m not even sure that it will go in my car.

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BarbarianMum · 21/03/2019 10:32

If I was driving possibly miles to collect something Id want a contact number in case I got lost/there was no-one there when I arrived. And of course they need your house number if you want them to collect from your house.

If you dont want someone coming to your house you arrange to meet in a public place like a supermarket car park.

Don't meet them at a if you feel unsafe but be under no illusion that you are pissing about with them.

crochetmonkey74 · 21/03/2019 10:33

I had this with a guy on FB marketplace (have sold LOADS on there) but this one just would not be straight unless having full address- when i said i would meet him in local supermarket for collection he ignored me and said not interested any more- trust your instinct!

cuppycakey · 21/03/2019 10:33

I don't understand how they will collect it without your full address?

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Shocksandboooos · 21/03/2019 10:35

Maybe I am being unreasonable. They have just been so odd in avoiding giving a time and repeatedly asking for my mobile. I have never had anyone ask for it before and I have sold through shpock a few times.

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HarrySnotter · 21/03/2019 10:35

There's no reason at all for them to have your mobile number. I wouldn't arrange collection until your DH or someone else is there. If the buyer doesn't want to wait they can withdraw.

SleepingStandingUp · 21/03/2019 10:36

I brought something on Facebook market and it took 5 attempts to get a proper address from the guy. I needed to know his address so I could work out the route to work out what time I could go.

Tell him you won't be in til X time and then get someone to come with you. Have the item at the door so you can pass it out the door.

Margot33 · 21/03/2019 10:36

If I said I was going to buy something from you. I would ask for your number and address too. I dont have a contract mobile so wouldnt have the internet to contact you. I would need your number Just in case I couldn't find your address. So I don't think they are being unreasonable.

twattymctwatterson · 21/03/2019 10:36

I'm not sure online selling is for you op. Yes you have to give someone your full address if you want them to collect something large. Yes it's normal for them to want your phone number especially if they're borrowing a van as they might get lost etc

IveGotAlpen · 21/03/2019 10:36

Agree with a pp. Arrange a collection for when your DH is there or a friend can come to your house at the time of collection. If not good enough for buyer let them cancel it .

howabout · 21/03/2019 10:38

Trust your instincts - too many weirdos about. I don't use shpock etc for this reason though so I may be at the extreme end of cautious.

JuniperGinYay · 21/03/2019 10:38

Message something like, hi ‘I’ll be at my dads house at 12 as I’m helping him and my brother with my nephew while they paint upstairs’ then give your address if you want it collected but don’t want to appear alone. Then keep at door.

CabbageHippy · 21/03/2019 10:41

buyer can't collect without the address but I would trust your instincts. Maybe you could helpfully offer to deliver it?

Tighnabruaich · 21/03/2019 10:42

JuniperGinYay has a good suggestion.

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Shocksandboooos · 21/03/2019 10:43

I have meaaages and offered to meet in a public place.

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IM0GEN · 21/03/2019 10:45

Good plan

InkyToesies · 21/03/2019 10:47

Another one saying DON'T DO IT! Your antenna are twitching for a reason. Cancel NOW! Sorry for shouting but this is important. You won't have been the first to have cancelled.

LISTEN to your instincts. There's something very wrong that you're not logically able to articulate, but your subconscious mind is picking up on clearly and is screaming at you that there's something WRONG. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

Please look after yourself and your child, and let us know what happens.

thenightsky · 21/03/2019 10:49

If they want to collect at 12 then perhaps they need to be setting off now if they are some distance away, hence the panicking a bit about where they are actually meant to be going.

Theunreasonableone · 21/03/2019 10:52

They don't really need your mobile number but if you want them to collect from your house then they will obviously need your house number and I'm not sure how you could get around that. But if in doubt cancel the sale.

IHateUncleJamie · 21/03/2019 10:56

If you can meet in a public place, do that. Just keep repeating “I don’t give out my mobile number”. Good luck!

gamerchick · 21/03/2019 10:56

How are you going to get to this public place if the item won't fit in your car?

Bluntness100 · 21/03/2019 10:57

I think they are going to be thinking you're a bit suspect, your mobile will be if they get lost and they need your address to collect. I think I'd probably think you were a bit dodgy in refusing.

gamerchick · 21/03/2019 10:58

If someone's was evasive like you're being and I had to travel with a vehicle big enough to transport whatever it is I'd think you were going wasting my time offering to meet somewhere.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 21/03/2019 11:02

My grandmother sells loads of stuff and she had the same worry about giving her details out especially as she's getting on a bit so in the end she got a very cheap basic mobile and a pay as you go sim and uses it just for selling.

It's made her feel safer.

IceRebel · 21/03/2019 11:02

If someone's was evasive like you're being and I had to travel with a vehicle big enough to transport whatever it is I'd think you were going wasting my time offering to meet somewhere.

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Look at this from the buyers perspective.

They want to buy an item, and have given a time they want to collect.

You have told them a street name and a town, the street could have 100s of houses, and you won't give a mobile number for them to check which house / confirm when they are on the street.

As far as the buyer is concerned you don't really have the item for sale and are just messing them around.

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