To be worried for my daughter- re boobs!

[Silverschool321]

My dd is 12 and is very tall and naturally slim. She has a great figure and is lovely. However she is getting upset as she says she is the only girl in her class without boobs. She goes to a mixed school and some of the bastard boys have teased her about it. She started her periods last month but still only has very slight breast buds that she's had for over a year. Does anyone think she will develop now her periods have started? Did anyone else develop late even though they'd started periods? Worried for her she has such a beautiful little figure but all she cares about is fitting in

I had almost no breasts until I was about 16/17. Then age 25 I had a breast reduction....

They will probably pop up eventually! No idea about padded bras as frankly, i didn't care as a teenager and by the time I might have the bloody things were huge but might be an option for her?

Mine really developed between 16 and 21 - I started periods at 15, so rather later than your DD. They're a right pain now...

I started my periods at 9, but was very late to get boobs. I was very jealous of all my friends who had developed and called ironing board by boys. Then it felt like over night at 14ish boys started commenting about my boobs being big and I was self conscious for the opposite reason!

At that age children are hyper aware of their looks, and worries are almost interchangeable. Just give her plenty of body positive reassurance from you. Help her be happy with who she is.

I really don't think a padded bra is a good idea. I wouldn't want to teach my daughter that she had to buy into all that crap, she (unfortunately) has her whole adult life to be encouraged to fit into some stupid idea of beauty. I'd just try to focus on building her self esteem and self worth which is sure you do anyway.

I'd work on some good come backs to the lads, maybe not the most mature either; lads are easy to embarrass!

Have you let school know that boys are body shaming your DD?

She's their to learn ffs - they need to learn to keep their gobs shut.

I didn't get any boobs until I was in my 20's, despite periods starting at 12. I was really skinny until then, I only got boobs when I went from super scrawny to a size 8-10.

If it isn't boobs it'll be something else - kids are generally pretty vile to each other at that age and throughout teens. The big boobed girls got teased, the short boys got teased, the boys with no facial hair got teased, the girls with no boobs got teased. Anyone with red hair etc etc.

I started my periods at 9, and I had small boobs at 12. I went up to a C cup at 16. Now in my 20s, I am an E.

Your boobs don't stop growing until your early 20s and she is still so young. Report her bullies to the school.

Thanks so much for all the feedback it's good to know people still kept on developing after they started their periods. Always tell her she is lovely etc but it falls on deaf ears, she's at the age when my opinions dont really count!! Have not told school as she insists it's just "banter" hate that word and thinks it will just make it worse if I do

True that the big boobed girls are also teased sigh

I had next to no breasts until about 14. I was a 34G by 16. They honestly almost appeared overnight.

I had some boobage at that age but later on developed further into massive big bombellas so...

I was bullied for having “no boobs” at that age. They grew a bit but I’m still very flat chested and luckily I’ve dated many lovely mature men who have liked my body for what it is. Please don’t think that having small breasts is a disability.

The boys bullying her need reporting

Can't remember when I got them but I know at 12 I couldn't have given 2 hoots what boys thought about me!
I'd be more inclined to try find ways to get her to love herself the way she is though rather than faking it to please some little boys who's balls probably still haven't dropped yet.

I would mention this to either her form tutor, head of year or head of pastoral support.

The boys need to be called out on this. It's them that should be feeling self-conscious and embarrassed due to their behaviour, not the girls.

I was tall and skinny, early period but no chest. Hated it and was very self conscious. I know everyone is saying the best lesson is teach your daughter to love her body and this is true to an extent but honestly, I only felt comfortable at school once I was wearing padded bras. Was able to stop at 16 when everything caught up. Just my experience though.

Encourage her to tell her peers very firmly NOT to discuss her body.

I got boobs earlier than my peers, and was teased, had my bra straps endlessly pinged etc - you can't win. Hopefully she learns to appreciate how beautiful she is, boobs or no boobs.

She's only 12!
My boobs arrived early much to my embarrassment. A friend was as flat as a pancake and poked fun. Now? I'm a C cup and she's enormously busty.
Are you flat chested? If not, it is unlikely your daughter will be. If she takes after her father's side, are the female relatives small of bosom>
Personally, I think it is too early (and pointless) for any concern.
Padded bra? Only if she asks for one.

I'm sure the charming lads at her school find something hurtful to tease every girl about.

My DD has recently turned 20. She's a size 4-6 and still struggling to fill a A cup. This is made worse by the fact her 18 yr old sister is quite voluptuous!

Make sure your DD understands that the boys are only making comments to drive a negative reaction. Her best response is to either ignore them, or just calmly say "yes you're right". Take away their power.

Alternatively, she could have a witty response to hand:

• Yes, I guess your moobs are bigger. What are you now? A 'B' cup?

Your DD is only 12 and has just started her periods so her body could develop a lot in the coming year or two. If she's very tall and slender, sounds like she'll have the last laugh as she's on course to have a model like figure. Then the boys will regret taking the mickey out of her!

Poor girl, definitely speak to her form teacher. Do you have his/her email address? If so drop them a quick line explaining how upset she is.

OP, I started my periods at 12 but was only a AA cup on my boobs. I was very thin and small framed so anything else would have looked a bit odd really. They've never been big and I'm still only a B cup at 50 (most of which is my back!). To be honest I've never had a problem, nor worn a padded bra and no man I've ever undressed in front of has said anything derogatory or nasty. They also still look pert and I'm happy to go braless.

As others have said, if she had bib boobs they'd tease her. One girl at my school used to wrap her cardigan around her all year because she hated the attention they got. You can't bloody win.

You could be talking about me at that age. I had a nickname (something like "big buttons"), but it was actually a piss take over the small size of my assets. I am now positively average in my assets and very happy with it.
Kids will always find a way to take the piss out of each other. So even if she had ample, there would be another insult.

Having small boobs is a massive win in life. I am small chested and love it. Comfortable to play sport, sleep on my front, don't need industrial bras and am nice and pert.

Any guy that gets far enough to see me undressed obv doesn't have an issue with small boobs. Men who like big boobs would be self-filtered out on first impressions.