To let Dd walk at 6.00am?

[Tartanwarrior]

My daughter is 17, and works as a dot.com shopper on Saturday and Sunday mornings. She's been doing this job since Nov, and I have driven her every time so far. It's light now at 6, it's about a 10- 15 minute walk, and can be done on a well lit road beside a fairly busy road. I so want a lie in, but I feel guilty/ worried etc. I'm a single parent, and she isn't close to driving yet. Am I unreasonable to make her walk?

Not at all unreasonable.

Christ, no.

• well lit PATH.

Have you asked her and is she happy to walk? I’d find no issue with doing this and letting her walk. I’d take her if the weather was bad but otherwise it’s safe enough for her to do it herself.

Yanbu. A 10-15 min walk is fine. A lift if weather is extreme and walking otherwise is perfectly reasonable/generous.

She will be absolutely fine. At 17 I was cycling to college and work at this time. Could she cycle if she had a bike? I always feel a bit safer on a bike to on foot

She would have to walk or find some other way of getting work if you didn't drive?

It’s fine. I don’t get the issue. Why would you even think about driving her? How does she go to school or college normally on weekday mornings?

That's crazy. Of course it's fine. I left the house at 7 to go to school from age 11. That was all year round so it was often dark.

What is a dot.com shopper?

MN continues to astonish me with its tales of absurdly, crazy, over-protective parenting, that bear no resemblance to any of the many parenting I know, even my over-protective mother!

She’s 17, not 7! Of course it’s ok. The only thing that isn’t ok is that you’re even considering that you need to drive her on a 15 min walk when it’s light.

17? Of course it's fine!

Well said Oakenbeach.

Of course it's fine. i have 2 teen DDs of 18 and 15 and that would be fine.

Have you asked her and is she happy to walk?

Unless there is trauma or disabilities that we’ve not been told about, whether she is happy to do it is immaterial and shouldn’t influence the OP. Of course she’d probably prefer a lift, but that would just be laziness.

I don’t think you should have started driving her at all. Children do paper rounds younger than that. My dd had a similar job and she had to get there and back by herself by bike or bus. About a 30 min bus journey. I don’t have a car so no option of driving her.

What?? Why would it not be ok? In the winter DD has to walk to school two hours before sunrise and she's 8. Your DD is almost an adult, you need to treat her like one.

Of course it's ok, fifteen minutes is nothing, it would be even quicker if she cycles

Absolutely fine. A well lit bike might be an idea if she is likely to be going to work in darkness, but really she should be able to walk on her own in what sound like reasonably safe conditions. Don't make her anxious about it - walking with an air of confidence is a valuable tool in staying safe.

dotcom shopper picks the online orders in store appaently according to google

I'm thinking DD did paper-round in the dark, winter she was 16yo; her 14yo brother took over & has been doing the same round (mostly in the dark from November-February). Arrive to newsagent by 6:30am. All by selves, get there & cycle around. Ur soft, OP.

*ps: I think DS is the only paper boy that actually has bike lights, mind.

God, I thought you were going to say she was 10 or something. Of course YANBU.

I would be fine with her walking.

As you say OP it is light at that time, and a fairly short walk.

I am an early riser though so would be happy to pick her up, especially if it is raining or harsh weather.
But I would do that for any other family member too to avoid a soaking- not from a safety pointof view.

I think you are being reasonable, I woul;dn't see it as dangerous.

Natsku

I misread that and thought you meant your dd has a two hour walk to school every day 😂. Was thinking, “wow, that’s tough parenting” !

why on earth wouldn't it be ok?