RTFT!!!!

[Mookie81]

I've recent noticed an upsurge in the number of people commenting on threads with remarks or questions that have been answered by the OP further up.
So frustrating!
Why the hell can't people at least read the OP's comments even if they don't want to read the whole thing?
I'm aware it's not a new thing but I'm noticing it more and more lately. AIBU to yell at people to RTFT?!

I agree. I think a lot of niggles are down to the poor design of the site.

Haven't RTFT but YANBU.

Isn't it more 'self important' to tell other people how they should use mumsnet?

When I first joined, most posters followed the etiquette of the site, which included not commenting if you hadn't RTFT. As it's got bigger, fewer people know the etiquette so imo it's worth pointing it out to them. If they don't want to follow it, that's up to them, but I, and obviously others, am then entitled to feel frustrated, annoyed, whatever.

I hate it too, didn't realise that some haven't got the option to colour code the OP's posts though? That's annoying!

It does drive me nuts. I read a very long thread recently, started off with one story and a lot of replies then the OP realised she'd got the wrong end of the stick and posted saying as such. Posters then came on ranting about what she'd originally posted and she kept having to say she'd updated and the original post was irrelevant now. It is annoying when people don't see if there's any update

And then some posters pick up what these ones have written and suddenly there's a whole story developed that has nothing to do with the OP at all!

The number of times I've read threads where OP’s husband is maybe being a bit thoughtless about something minor but irritating and there’s a simple solution to get the message across i.e. ‘stop washing any of his dirty clothes unless they’re actually put into the laundry basket rather than dropped on the bedroom floor – he’ll soon get the message when he runs out of clean pants.’

However, people pile in and start making wild assumptions about other appalling things that said husband might also be doing. These are then assumed to be proven fact and subsequently built on and it all ends up with war cries of LTB and calling him an evil, abusive, controlling monster, who’s almost certainly having an affair with OP’s best friend and planning on putting OP under the patio – “This is how it starts, OP, the signs are all there – kicking a pair of dirty pants under the bed is a massive red flag”.

sometimes people do not have hours and hours to read the entire thread.

Yeah it's annoying when people don't RTFT, but most people can't be bothered with reading through 200 posts or more.

So I can't be bothered/don't have time to read 200 posts; however, other people will be expected to want to/have time to read 201 posts after I've made the thread, which I consider already too long, even longer.

This is exactly like complaining about congestion on the roads. "Do all of these selfish drivers really have to be out on the road today?" When you're every bit as much part of the whole problem.

Maybe it's time for MN to sanction martial law and to adopt ruthless 'Just A Minute' regulations.

As well as being able to report people for abusive, hateful, offensive comments etc, you should also be able to click on 'Report' and then state 'Hesitation, 'Deviation' or 'Repetition' - which will result in two warnings followed by an automatic lifetime ban

By the way, does anybody remember that time when the OP didn't RTFT properly, even though there was only her own first post on the thread - asking for experiences with a product that she was considering buying - and she then came back many months later to add her own experiences/advice to help the OP, having since bought and used the product - even though SHE was the OP? I think it was about a Hauck pushchair or similar

That pushchair thread is always referred to when people defend the bumping of Zombie threads, saying you never know the OP might want to update.

I've literally just started a thread in travel and the first responder had clearly only read the title. It is frustrating and I have called them out on it (I hope politely ) but think I will start doing it more often.

I get that people are trying to be helpful but in fact it hinders the thread Perhaps if they realized that it would happen less

Sometimes on really long threads I read the green bits and then start reading backwards from the most recent posts. That usually tells me what direction the thread has gone.

Meh once it’s over 5 pages your answer to the OP isn’t even relevant any more

This is just how it goes on message boards with such a large user base. You can't do much about it so just ignore it if it bothers you so much.

FyiYolo

I don't think Mumsnet should only be used by people who have an hour to read through a thread with 900 comments on it.

I think you all secretly enjoy it because it gives you the chance to feel superior. Bet you like a spot of grammar policing too

YANBU, If you can’t be arsed to read the fucking thread then why on earth bother posting on it?

The spelling and grammar policing also does my head in.

Not everyone has the time to sit and read a long thread

So let's get this straight- before I pipe up I'm supposed to read the whole fucking thread,looking up every bastard acronym along the way, and trying to decipher if DD2 means dear daughter who's 2 or dear dog number 2 or DGF means darling girlfriend or darling sodding grandfather just incase it irritates the original poster to read the same kind of reply more than once. This thread is quite hostile to newbies/people who don't spend their whole lives on here. And seeing as the op ignores most of the replies anyway s/he should consider themselves lucky they get as many as they do!

My green bits are grey.

I think there's an ointment for that.

As a PP has said, I usually don't read threads with a lot of posts as I don't have the patience. If a long thread catches my interest, I do read all the OP's posts.

I think threads like this need to pop up every once in a while to remind posters of good etiquette.

Not everyone has the time to sit and read a long thread
Of course not, so don’t post on it then.

Where might I find the section for 'the etiquette of the site'? I've seen far worse transgressions on mumsnet than a few late posters who haven't rtft!

@NutElla5x

At least read the OP's posts. Otherwise their relevant updates are ignored which then renders the whole thread pointless.

'Haven’t RTFT but did you know it stands for Read the Fucking Thread and not Read the Full Thread?'

Ha! I came on here to say this.

@zen1 My green bits are grey.
You should probably see a doctor about that.
Didn't want to read and fly - will go back and read the rest of the thread now to see if my post is relevant to the discussion