RTFT!!!!

[Mookie81]

I've recent noticed an upsurge in the number of people commenting on threads with remarks or questions that have been answered by the OP further up.
So frustrating!
Why the hell can't people at least read the OP's comments even if they don't want to read the whole thing?
I'm aware it's not a new thing but I'm noticing it more and more lately. AIBU to yell at people to RTFT?!

Does it?

Reverses always highlight this issue. It can ramble on for pages and pages and people will still be popping in and telling OP that they're unreasonable.

Hi Mookie81, well, at least it doesn't make you frustrated like the rest of us. I would offer advice on how to manage frustration but... anyhow, at least its nothing big enough for you to notice it and so pleased your DH pointed it out to you before the brain ache set in - think about us poor buggas who have the patience to RTFT, well, at least the Ops posts!! Now THAT is frustration.

You really should at least read the green bits before flouncing merrily along scattering accusations of laziness and belligerence.

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P. S. I asked a question about how to work out the cost of different heaters as had no working boiler. I said I did NOT WANT or need info on how to stay warm. Guess which aspect everyone pounced on? How to dress, how to use a blanket to keep warm, and even HAVE A HOT BATH when OP said I had NO HOT WATER. I feel your pain Mookie81

I have gone into 'Talk' and 'Customise' but can't see any way to change colours.

Yeah it's annoying when people don't RTFT, but most people can't be bothered with reading through 200 posts or more.

Probably best not to bother posting on a thread that has that many posts on, as correct/good/decent/helpful advice would have almost certainly have been given by then. I don't post on any thread unless I read the full thread, and if I don't have time, I will usually leave it.

I think when people say 'didn't want to read and run' they mean that they didn't want the poster to think people were being ignored. So it's just a way to say 'you are being listened to, but I can't help you, maybe someone who knows more about it will pop along soon.' (Probably better if they said something like that actually.)

People enjoy MN in different ways. It's perhaps annoying to some but there's no rule against it

No, but it bloody well should be, as clearly some people need ‘a rule’ because they can’t work out for themselves that certain behaviour is just really annoying.

It really does take a certain kind of self important twat to think their ‘blindingly obvious’ comment/suggestion/advice hasn’t been posted by anyone else, in the 400 previous posts.

@feelingsinister, you can bookmark your last read post. Touch the post you've read up to and on the bottom right corner and little blue box saying 'Bookmark' should come up. Touch that and it will change to 'Saving....' and then 'Saved!'.

Apparently this works if you open the thread by clicking/touching the title, which I almost never do, so can't vouch for its efficacy.

My op posts are pink and my own posts are green.

Let's face it there's not rule against anything on here (except the Talk Guidelines). But if people want to look a bit silly on a thread then comment without reading it.

‘Don’t want to read and run’ has a place. A VERY LIMITED PLACE. If no one has replied at all and you can’t help, but just want the person to know you’re listening. There are better ways to phrase it though really.

However, 50 helpful posts in (that aren’t cross posts) just make the person writing it look like a self important twat.

Cancel the cheque

I agree with @oysterbabe, someone will post ‘have been married to DH for five years and have 2 children...’ a couple of bright sharks will say ‘are you married?’ ‘Do you have children?’ Etc...read and digest the OP.

Isn't it more 'self important' to tell other people how they should use mumsnet?

I don't mind 'don't want to read and run'.

Means someone has seen the OP and read it at least. Noticed no other replies and doesn't want the OP to think nobody is interested, but has no advice themselves.
Plus it bumps it for people who might.

You can't tell people how to use Mumsnet, that's ridiculous. But the way some posters use MN can annoy you-nothing wrong with stating that.

All the posters that don't read threads aren't going to suddenly start doing it because they are being annoying to someone.

@americandream, "ead abd running used to be really detrimental to a thread. A lot of people would devote some of their MN time to finding unanswered threads that were relevant to their own knowledge or expertise. "Read and running" meant that that thread no longer appeared in the unanswered threads list, but the poster still hadn't had helpful advice and was now unlikely to get any. Then the poster just had to keep bumping it in the pe tht eventually it would come to the attention of someone who could actually help. Many threads died a death that way.

Anyway, read and run doesn't have such a bad effect any more as there's no 'unanswered threads' option, but it still really, really annoys me.

I'll try to remember the 'not being ignored' interpretation!

I actually think many of the frustrations could be resolved if people stepped beyond AIBU. There are threads on there right now which are not AIBU but rather people who are looking for proper advice, sympathy or discussion. I have no idea why people post in there “for traffic”. If people step beyond there and post in the most appropriate place they may get fewer responses but they would be better ones.

I already said that about people posting that they 'didn't want to read and run.' (on my post at 10.17.) I said that people are saying it to let the OP know they are being listened to, but they cannot help them at this time... and maybe someone will come along soon who can help, coz it's horrible when you feel you're being ignored...^ 2 posters have said pretty much the same as me since I said it. Are people not reading the full thread?!!!

my green bits are purple

I did see your post americandream but was agreeing with you with my own explanation.

You also get told off for saying 'What americandream said.

I’ll never understand it either. I’ll often scroll through the 40 pages of a thread and mainly focus on the green bits to see what the OP has said. Half the time what I’m thinking has already been said numerous times or the situation has shifted, I’ll never understand people reading the first post and going straight to posting without anything further.

Not RTFT is not as bad as wishing you hadn't RTT at all

Very true Portia, very often you can read a mega long thread and have absolutely nothing to say at all as it's so .

I find this especially frustrating in the case of zombie threads! There was a 10-year-old thread on Baby Names the other week where people were STILL popping up and offering their opinions on the proposed name for a child who was probably about to start at secondary school and the OP was unlikely to be looking for feedback on the name at this stage.

@americandrem, yes i did read your post and the other about read and run. I was just giving you a bit of background as to why it used to be very annoying indeed. I also said that I would to try to put your positive interpretation upon it in place of my own negative one.

I'm sorry you thought I was just too lazy to bother reading, I can assure you I've RTFT! But do remember that while I'm typing a post others are posting so I'm also cross posting. We have to give each other lee-way for that, it's the nature of the beast and can't be helped.

It might be days though Pass, I have a child with disabilities ,there are special needs boards ,but they are often posted on infrequently,I would never post on here aibu about my child's disabilities apart from in a very general.way because of all the ignorant responses ,but I can imagine if your desperate for advice why you might post here ?