Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding

[HappyHattie]

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

Oh come on. If Facebook and Instagram were around 25 years ago things would have been no different.
Look at the every bride in 2000 in a strapless dresses or puffy sleeves in the 80’s. Weddings are whatever seems to be the thing at the time.

Right that’s enough from me on this thread.

I think you lot are being incredibly judgemental though. Obviously unless a wedding was done your way it’s just not right.

She providing a service and no doubt at a ridiculous “wedding hair” mark up.

Yes, and if her services aren’t good enough then the OP is more than within reason to turn her down. However, to use the fact her personal appearance might not fit with her ‘theme’ is ridiculous, a work-person’s appearance should be taken into consideration when doing a job.

Hairdresser are not there to look neutral and fit in with anyone’s ‘theme’, they’re there to do a job. I wonder if the op would have considered turning her down if she had done the most amazing up-do ever, and made her look like a movie-star/princess.....

I think you lot are being incredibly judgemental though.

To be incredibly childish, the op started it....

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics.

If the OP had just left out these two sentences this thread would have gone so differently (and wouldn't have been nearly as entertaining!)

Oh god I'm so glad I'm not a bride these days.
What a load of complete old shite
News flash OP... no one, outside of your immediate family and your friends give a flying fuck about your 'getting ready' photos.
No one cares!
If you aren't happy with the hairstyle then that's a different matter. The appearance of the stylist should have no impact on your choice!

Cancel the 'not right' for stately home setting hairdresser

Cancel the pre nup

Oh and....

Cancel the cheque

I'm desperate to know what sort of tats the hair stylist had.

If the style/updo is coming down very soon after she's done in then that suggests she's not going to be able to do what you want.

At a recent wedding I attended the bride had chosen her dress to show off her own tattooes, and coordinated her jewellery to match her piercings, so I can't get worked up about this sort of thing. Substandard work from a professional however...

I went for a wedding hair trial and didn't book them on the day as they took over an hour to do my hair and 5 minutes after I stepped outside the door it looked dreadful, if I'd gone through a hedge backwards wiyh my regular hair it would have looked less of a mess so I rang and cancelled. I ended up putting my bridesmaids hair up myself and getting my matron of honour to watch how I did it to do the same to mine. It was like a French plait that went all around the head. I thought it had a better chance of staying up. It worked, didn't cost us extra, I spent he money I saved on getting my nails done instead.
You could try asking if any mobile hairdressers or trainees would do you a trial and get them to come to you on the day instead.

'- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. '-sic

What the actual fuck????

I didn't think people like you were actually real. Wait ARE you real or just a bot programmed to wind us up??

Ha ah ha

this is why I got married abroad and did my own hair, clearly don't have the bridezilla gene...

Ok, ok I hold my hands up...I AM THE HAIR ARTISTE. The 'offensive' tattoos were the words ' I ❤ jeremy corbyn' the inappropriate conversation that made mum walk out clutching her pearls was about adding lentils to cottage pie! So there ya go 🤣😂

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. well done, you’re officially a bridezilla!

Yes rightly so. She has a mental picture of how she wants her wedding pictures to look like.

• Fuck me that comments off its bonce. Start again, baby spider. *

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Gosh I really hope none of your guests have tattoos or wear black nail polish! Honestly though, if she did a good job then her appearance shouldn't matter and if she didn't, talk to the salon

They should have told you they changed your stylist if you booked with a particular person.
Did you discuss that you wanted the stylist to specifically pose for your photos as part of the deal? If so then it would be similar to a photographer booking a model for a particular 'look' and being sent a different one. If not, then you booked a hairstylist not someone to pose for you and expecting them to do so and being annoyed they don't look the way you wanted is very rude.

Oh god. I'm reminded of a thread I read on here a while ago where the bride was having hysterics about the fact that one of her bridesmaids had dyed her hair a month before the wedding and she wanted her to dye it back or wear a wig.

What is it about weddings that makes some people go so absolutely batshit crazy as to start claiming ownership over other people's bodies to fit their 'theme' or 'aesthetic' or whatever other wankery they've come up with.

This happened to me the day before my wedding my hair and make up stylist had accepted a photoshoot and hadn’t bothered to tell me. Very unprofessional. So I called a few people from the counter I’d done trials with at Selfridges and they found a lovely friend to come home on the day. She was lovely and arrived when she said she would. She did her best without us having time to do a trial or discuss what I wanted. At least it looked like I had made an effort. It was a massive relief as I was clueless back then about hair styling. She saved the day.

Your hairstylist doesn’t have to be in all the photos. Don’t stress, she can step back out of shoot and the photographer can do photos of you in front of the mirror and maybe of the bridesmaids/mum pretending to put a clip, tiara whatever in your hair. Photos are usually staged anyway. Nobody will care afterwards and you can edit out the ones with her tattoos if you don’t like them or ask them to turn those photos into black and white and the tats will look less intrusive. Trust me I’m a photographer!

Why does hair have to be up?

In the wedding photos from my family in the 60s everyone had up hair. The bride, my mum, was not allowed to wear white but the up do was upper than all the other up doers did.
It defies the laws of nature.

Why is up a thing about weddings? Well I actually know the answer to this one. It's about the photography and the exposure and stillness of the face. People on stage or telly and in passport photos are not allowed to hide behind their hair.

The best photographer I know (the best) who does weddings would make a feature of the differences.

How amazing would it be if this guy turned out to be the vicar?

Did anyone read the part about young, shy girls who are in the wedding?

The tattoo sleeves and black nails seem less important than swearing and rude comments. OPs mother didn't walk out bc of tattoos.

Thr hairdresser was also incompetent.

OP, I would try to track down the original hairdresser. Or simplify your hairstyle. I always wonder why brides wear such different hairstyles that they don't look like themselves.

I don't like vulgarity around my dc. I don't think you're out of line. I don't like full sleeves of tattoos but even so, i think that incompetence is not acceptable, especially on your wedding day. Best wishes and i hope things work out.

I had a hair nightmare too -- booked a hairdresser who was leaving the salon, terrible trial where the new stylist insisted what I wanted couldn't be done, with the stylist I had booked standing at the next chair looking miserable because she and I both knew she had succeeded in doing my hair the way I wanted the first time I came in. Went to the loo and stylist 1 sneaked out into the hallway and gave me her number. Booked her to do my hair at my parents' flat on the morning of the wedding. She got in a hideous NY traffic jam and turned up almost three hours late, and had to rush through my do.

I'm saying all this because throughout the morning (which started with me hopping in the tub with my toddler to save time only to have him massively diarrhea-poop in our shared bath) I was totally calm and happy, and completely unstressed because I was marrying the man I love and everyone I cared about was there to share it with me. I didn't care that my hairdresser might not turn up -- one of my bridesmaids would have helped. I didn't care that my bouquet was so heavy I couldn't carrying it without leaning to counterbalance it (I carried the toss bouquet instead.) All I cared about was standing at the altar with my lovely fellow and pledging our love to each other. If you are marrying the right person you will find on the day that you don't care about the details so much and the love keeps you serene through whatever snags arise.

I was enough of a bridezilla beforehand to insist on having velvet chaircovers made to match my colour scheme. And I made the calligrapher redo the table cards because she put "Mr and Mrs John Smith" instead of "Mr and Mrs John and Mary Smith", and it offended my feminist sensibilities. But on the day none of it seemed to matter. So try to remember what you are doing it all for. It's not for the pictures.

Ignoring all the (hilarious) stuff about her appearance...

We booked my mum’s hairdresser (who is a very senior stylist and has been doing my mum’s hair for 30+ years) with about a month’s notice. Just ask around!