My ds was born by forceps after a failed ventouse. He was in distress (cord round his neck). I was exhausted after being in labour for days and finally given syntocin. I had an episiotomy which I didn't know about until the next day, when dh mentioned it.
Dd was a VB with no intervention, just a graze.
However I have a prolapse and significant injury, which means incontinence and issues with pooing. I have actually had surgery to fix this, but because dd has SN, which mean me having to continue carrying and manhandling her age 6, it hasn't been very successful. Ideally I would never lift anything heavy and the surgery would last 10 years.
I'd ban them. Ds' birth was terrifying. And I think unnecessary as his heart rate dropped earlier and they decided to "keep and eye" on him. A Csection then probably would have been fine and saved me from a lifetime of awful toileting.
I'm a runner who can't run without wetting myself or needing to poo at random points in a race, even slight jolts see me wet myself. I have to wee several times a night, meaning I'm knackered.
Me and dh may split up in the near future and while dh will be free to go and find a new partner, I will struggle I imagine to find someone who finds an incontinent woman attractive in any way.