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To think my friend is taking the ......she owes me money.

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rebeccapp · 06/03/2019 15:04

October last year I paid for a weekend away for June this year with my friend.
I put it on my cc as she said she didn't have enough money.
She paid £20 off in November and nothing since.
She owes £180.
Yesterday she was posting pics on Facebook of a shopping trip and getting her hair /tan done (hundreds of pounds of things ).
She rings me saying her dad paid for everything (she's 35 so doesn't ring true )
We have a mutual friend and she told me yesterday that she told her she had thousands in the bank.
Now she's just sent me a pic of her buying lots of cakes.
I said to her seen as you seem to be in the money,I don't suppose you have anything towards the holiday.
She said she didn't unfortunately
I feel like a twat.

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NCforthis2019 · 07/03/2019 12:57

just tell her you need the money NOW. If you enable her to take the piss out of you, people will start to lose patience. If you dont want to ask her for the money back, then let it go. If you can on here for advice - the advice given is to ask for your money back now.

EssentialHummus · 07/03/2019 12:59

“That doesn’t work for me unfortunately. I’ll need the money by end Friday or I’ll be cancelling our booking.”

ohdearmymistake · 07/03/2019 13:34

Right get your big girl pants on and stop allowing yourself to be treated like a doormat.

You either demand that she pays her share and go as planned.

You cancel / sell on not sure how Groupon works

You go without her and have a lovely time.

LunafortJest · 07/03/2019 13:55

You should text her back saying 'do you think your dad would give me the money you need to give me? Is it worth a shot?'

Whereareyouspot · 07/03/2019 15:41

Am losing sympathy OP- you know she is taking the piss.
Just tell her you want it now-end of.

She knows she can do what she likes and you won’t say boo

greenelephantscarf · 07/03/2019 15:45

anything in writing that the money owed is a loan?

if yes, consider small claims court.

btw. she isn't a friend.

JaneEyre07 · 07/03/2019 15:48

Oh dear OP.

You're going to pay and take her, aren't you.

10IAR · 07/03/2019 15:53

Tell her she pays by the end of the month/week or she's not going.

Or tell her to get her dad to pay for it since she's pretending he pays for everything else!

QueenofmyPrinces · 07/03/2019 16:04

Tell her she pays by the end of the month/week or she's not going.

That’s exactly what she wants the OP to say because the ‘friend’ doesn’t want to go anyway and it will also mean she no longer has to feel like she owes money.

Not that she cares about owing the money anyway.

CheshireChat · 07/03/2019 16:09

So tell her maybe 'Daddy' should pay her share rather than anything else...

icelollycraving · 07/03/2019 16:55

Say that you’re paying interest on your credit card and that she is taking the piss. whats the worst that happens? That she doesn’t pay you? You’re there already.

SandAndSea · 07/03/2019 18:40

"Do you think your dad could give you the holiday money you owe me too? I really can't wait till May. I need it now."

LoubyLou1234 · 07/03/2019 19:00

If you wait till May to pay me this money I'll have to add more on to cover the interest on my card.....

But to be honest I'd bin her off and if no one else could go on the trip I'd go on my own. Hardly sounds like a good friend tbh

StealthPolarBear · 08/03/2019 10:10

She's winding you up

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/03/2019 18:05

Her sending you pictures of her wearing the coat is her simply laughing at you

Sadly this is true, and the "dad buying her such-and-such" is probably nonsense too (but a handy cover for all she's spending if anyone's naive enough to believe it)

It's really up to you, OP, but don't forget that if you insist on lying down for such types you can't be surprised when they wipe their feet on you

Troels · 08/03/2019 18:19

Friday is nearly done with, what have you done OP?

CantStopMeNow · 08/03/2019 23:01

I wouldn't bother asking her for the money....i'd just arrange for someone else to take her place - and don't tell her

Let her ask you (if she's still keen), if she does i'd play along with just telling her what activities you've got booked etc and just let her have the general impression that she's going - let her find out the night before that she's not going

PregnantSea · 09/03/2019 05:30

Text her and say "I need the rest of the money for the holiday by X date". If she doesn't give it to you then you can take someone else on holiday.

MaybeitsMaybelline · 09/03/2019 06:04

Why do so many people have such awful friends? I have booked regular trips and holidays with friends. They ask me what they owe, I give them a breakdown and they transfer me, usually the same day. If it’s going to be a few days later they ask if that’s ok. And of course it is.

Tiredemma · 09/03/2019 06:17

She's taking the raving piss.

Go on your own

MediocrePenguin · 09/03/2019 07:57

She sounds awful. Why would you want to go on holiday with someone who is clearly such s scrounged?!
Just go on your one of you can't find anyone else to come!

SandAndSea · 09/03/2019 18:30

@rebeccapp - Any news?

AnnieCat84 · 09/03/2019 20:04

She sounds awful.
I'd be asking for that money daily!

HavelockVetinari · 11/03/2019 13:02

Did you get the money back?

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