To think my friend is taking the ......she owes me money.

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October last year I paid for a weekend away for June this year with my friend.
I put it on my cc as she said she didn't have enough money.
She paid £20 off in November and nothing since.
She owes £180.
Yesterday she was posting pics on Facebook of a shopping trip and getting her hair /tan done (hundreds of pounds of things ).
She rings me saying her dad paid for everything (she's 35 so doesn't ring true )
We have a mutual friend and she told me yesterday that she told her she had thousands in the bank.
Now she's just sent me a pic of her buying lots of cakes.
I said to her seen as you seem to be in the money,I don't suppose you have anything towards the holiday.
She said she didn't unfortunately
I feel like a twat.

Go on your own. It’ll be amazing. Take books, go to the spa.

She’s ridiculous anyway.

I think you need to be blunt with your cheeky fucker friend. Tell her that unless the money is paid by the beginning of April, you’ll be taking someone else on the holiday.

She won’t know that you don’t have anyone else who can go.

She’s taking the piss out of you. You need to be firm and tell her you haven’t had any money since November so you assume she can’t afford to go. I would still go by myself and have a lovely time! Or bring someone else so you’re not out of pocket?

You need to cancel the break and get a refund. I would just tell her i'd cancelled and then end it with her.
Also you need to learn that you don't lend friends money because this always happens in one form or another.

She's not your friend. Friends don't do this to actual friends. She's a CF pisstaker who's letting other people fund her life while she banks her money.

Can you cancel? If so, do. But tbh, if you lay down like a rug, you can expect people will try to wipe their feet on you.

Does it include treatments at the spa? If you go alone you can use both if you can’t find a friend to go

Tell her she has until Friday to pay you or your friend (make up one she won’t know) is going to give you the money as she wants to come instead

She doesn't want to go. That's why she isn't prioritising it.

Invite someone else, cancel or go on yr own.

Text her today to let her know that she isn't going and how would she like her £20 back.

I agree with the above
She doesn’t want to go, she wants you to give up. She isn’t going.

Ask her to pay by a set deadline. If she doesn't pay, get someone else to come, or even go alone.

I would not be able to go with her after this, id rather take the financial hit cancel or go alone, put it down to experience.
I definitely would not ask her for the money again, tell her you are going to cancel on her. She's a C.F.

Bad decision to lend the money, especially if you have problems with assertiveness/ people pleasing. Cancel if you can get most of your money back. If you would lose too much of your money invite someone else and go alone.

Tell her that if you don't have the cash by x date you'll be taking someone else.
Take anyone else, even if they can'y pay you either - don't let her have a free holiday whatever happens!

I'd do as others have suggested and ask one last time for the money by a certain date saying you're earning interest on your card and if she can't pay say you're cancelling.

I'd then go on my own - a holiday to a cottage and spa on my own? Heaven. Go and chill and relax knowing you'll only have to cover your own spending money! Yes you'll end up paying £360 just for yourself but you're not going to get the other half by the sounds of it anyway. If she then kicks off about the fact you said you were cancelling then went anyway, you can kindly remind her she also said she was going to pay half of the holiday and didn't.

Ach! I give in... she's a toal CF and yuou are on a hiding to nothng.

Facebook it to all your firends... let her deal with that

God I would love a weekend away on my own. You don't want to go with her as things stand surely? Tell her to pay and apologise or bugger off

I'd do this! www.gov.uk/make-court-claim-for-money

I can't stand people who don't repay debts.

Agree with PP. Tell her you need the money by the end of March or your friend X will be going with you.

Then just go on your own. Absolute heaven.

Don’t pay back the £20. You’ll have been charged that in interest

If you do cancel don't pay her the £20.or at least make her ask you and then say unfortunately you've not got it.

Could it be because it's not until June she is thinking that she doesn't need to pay yet?
Have you had a chat with her about when she's actually going to pay?If not then you need to do this.

Oh and her dad could have paid for everything even at 35. A mate who is older still gets the occasional treat like this from a parent.

Even if you take someone else for free you will probably be better off, as your CF friend will probably expect you to pay for stuff while you are there. At least this way, that won't happen. And will clearly show CF friend that you will no longer be giving her any more "loans" to be repaid sometime never.

Have you asked your friends/family lately if they are available in June. It’s months since you booked and situations may have changed.

She can afford to pay you.

She's choosing not to.

Don't be anyone's doormat.

I'd rather lose the money than be taken the piss out of.