I posted before about this situation;
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3416523--What-s-your-address
Basically, I man that I met via volunteering had started making a nuisance of himself via text and email and had asked for my address for no good reason. I was under the impression he may be interested in me but he never directly asked me out so I couldn't turn him down. I had given him clear messages that I didn't want to meet up. I was starting to feel uncomfortable but he hasn't done anything terrible or illegal. To make matters worse, we have mutual friends. I chickened out of doing a gig for these friends and the charity to avoid seeing this man again. Back in early November I sent him one final message saying I didn't want mail from him and I would not give my address. I have ignored all contact from him since and sadly, stopped meeting up with our mutual friends.
Since then he has emailed at least once a month and text several times. He sends long messages as if he thinks we are still having a conversation. I haven't seen him since September but he's still going on about things from then. For example, I mentioned someone I found inspiring back then, to everyone in the room, not just then and at Christmas he sent me a long email review of his opinions of a film of their's that he watched and he's just emailed now saying I've inspired him to go and see a play this weekend.
He sent texts last month about an event thats happening in the summer talking as if we were going. The first one was a long text with him telling me about the event, then 20 minutes later talking as if I'd accepted to go and telling me about the facilities at the place the event was being held, again a long text. I blocked his number from my phone but can't stop the emails. He'd also sent me a message when I'd been ill saying "Hi Shady, hope you're feeling better now" and this really freaked me out because there was no way of him knowing I'd been sick. I'm not on social media and, as I say, have been avoiding our mutual friends. He works in IT and had previously sent me some art work that needed to be downloaded and I started to panic that he'd installed spyware on my devices. My iPhone was playing up (freezing, turning itself on and off) so I did a factory re-set and I've had no problems since. His most recent email included something to download (a poster for an event he wants me to go to), which obviously I haven't clicked on.
He's never made any reference to the fact that I've ignored any contact from him for the past four months. He continues to talk as though I'm in his life and has just sent an apology that he hasn't asked me to be involved in a charity event he's organised and said it's because he knows how hectic and busy my life is?! I just find it all so weird and don't know how to handle it. It's like he's got some sort of imaginary relationships with me in his head. I know for a fact that he is completely neurotypical and I've known him several years. It's only since the summer that he has been behaving like this.
I don't know what to do about one mutual friend in particular. I really like her but she thinks the world of him and frequently arranges for us all to meet up. I never want to see this man again and I don't want him to know anything about my life. So far, I've kept making excuses over why I haven't been able to meet up because I don't want to put her in an awkward position or create and atmosphere and I don't think she'll understand why I feel uncomfortable. It's got to the point where I'm on the verge of ghosting her.
I've spoken about it all tonight with a friend that is like my sister, we are exceptionally close but she doesn't know him and she just kept saying "awww bless him, he lurrrrves you" and "Ah he sounds harmless, he's just lonely and needs some company". If that's her response, then what chance do I have with my friend who thinks the world of this man?
AIBU to think I can't really do anything about this situation? I've just got to cut my losses and accept I've lost a lovely friend?