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Pancake day tantrum

86 replies

Slazengerbag · 04/03/2019 13:40

Semi lighthearted but I’m feeling guilty Blush

Tomorrow is pancake day. I am going out for dinner with friends. Ds threw a bit of a tantrum last night that I wouldn’t be here to ‘celebrate’ Hmm I laughed and said don’t be silly. Dh agreed with him! We eat dinner together 5 nights out of 7 so it’s not as if it’s family time.

I explained I will make the pancakes tomorrow (they like the American ones) as it’s my day off and they can warm them up.

I should add that ds is 17 with no sen. The other children couldn’t give a shiny shit if I’m here or not as long as they get pancakes Grin

Now I’ve got the mum guilt about missing pancake day and how many more will I get? But to be honest it’s usually me in the kitchen making them whilst they sit at the table scoffing away and I get the odd few whilst I’m cooking.

Aibu to just go out anyway?

OP posts:
LadyGAgain · 04/03/2019 13:41

Nope. Go out. Don't make them - he's 17 and I assume your husband has arms too? Grin

DisplayPurposesOnly · 04/03/2019 13:43

Definitely go out. Let them make their own sodding pancakes.

FurrySlipperBoots · 04/03/2019 13:43

Awwwwwwwwwww! That's actually really sweet. Will you be there at breakfast time? Maybe you can make them together then?

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 04/03/2019 13:44

He’s 17. He can make the pancakes himself if he’s that bothered.

outpinked · 04/03/2019 13:45

A 17 year old can make his own damn pancakes. Go out and have fun.

SoyDora · 04/03/2019 13:46

Celebrate?! You don’t ‘celebrate’ pancake day, you just eat pancakes Grin.
He’s 17 FGS. Is there any reason him or your DH can’t make the pancakes?

PennyMordauntsLadyBrain · 04/03/2019 13:46

Offer to show him how to make them, and no more.

Give a man a pancake and you feed him for a Pancake Tuesday. Teach a man to make pancakes and you feed him every Pancake Tuesday for a lifetime

RiverTam · 04/03/2019 13:47

oh, I think that's rather sweet in a daft kind of way. It's very endearing that your 17yo doesn't think pancake day is pancake day without his mum being there! I mean, I wouldn't change your plans!

Passthecake30 · 04/03/2019 13:48

At 17 I was expected to make pancakes for everyone. Was that his plan?Grin

claireblueskies · 04/03/2019 13:48

I think all it means is that DS17 likes eating pancakes and you make good ones. Pancakes are best eaten straight away.

Take the compliments to the chef, but go out anyway.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 04/03/2019 13:49

He can make his own. Can your DH not cook either?

ALannisterInDebt · 04/03/2019 13:49

17...he's practically an adult.

If pancake day means so much to him, why doesn't he make them fir the family Grin

youngestisapsycho · 04/03/2019 13:51

Hmmm.. my 12 yr old DD makes her own pancakes every sunday morning.... go out and let them get on with it!

MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2019 13:51

Literally can’t understand why they can’t make their own pancakes...

Drum2018 · 04/03/2019 13:52

I have a 17 year old Ds. I'd laugh in his face if behaved like that. Go out and enjoy your night. And just leave the batter (or better still the recipe) - let them fry the bloody pancakes themselves.

sackrifice · 04/03/2019 13:52

surely at that age he can make pancakes himself?

sonjadog · 04/03/2019 13:52

It's not the joy of your company they are complaining about. They want you there to serve them freshly cooked pancakes. You are a pancake making machine to them. Go out and leave them to make their own pancakes.

Looneytune253 · 04/03/2019 13:54

Lol I would go for the whole mock ‘wow I had no idea it meant so much to you, I can teach you how to make the pancakes for the family, the siblings and whoever else should come by for your party’

happymummy12345 · 04/03/2019 13:55

I don't see why it makes any difference.
My dh works long hours, if he's here on the day great, he makes lovely ones from scratch for the 3 of us (he cooks for a living so it's nothing strange for him, he's used to making things). If he's not then it's aunt Bessie's in the microwave for ds and I (I can't cook at all and trying is my idea of hell).
As long is mine are covered in sugar and lemon I'm over the moon. But I wouldn't be upset if dh wasn't here.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 04/03/2019 13:56

Good grief! Leave them to it and enjoy your night.

Sexnotgender · 04/03/2019 13:59

They should be making them for you! I thought you were going to say they were 4 or something.

My 15yr old DD made me fresh pancakes the morning after I came home from having DS.

NannyRed · 04/03/2019 14:01

If he is throwing a hissy fitbecause you won’t be there to “celebrate “ I presume he is giving up something for lent too!
Sorry, I wasn’t expecting the ‘child’ in question to be almost adult!

downcasteyes · 04/03/2019 14:03

FFS, your DS is old enough to make pancakes himself! And why can't your DH help out?

Is this the usual gender balance in your household? Because if it is, I suggest changing it straight away - not only in fairness to yourself, but for your DS. No woman or man these days wants a partner who doesn't know how to fend for themselves in the most basic ways with groceries, housework and cooking.

PiebaldHamster · 04/03/2019 14:06

He and your DH make pancakes then. We're having Subway.

RiverTam · 04/03/2019 14:07

I'm actually starting to think that this was posted (or at least framed in this way) to get all the 'well, my Dc were whipping up the family pancakes by the time they were 2' crew into a frenzy.

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