To really not like my teenage daughters sometimes

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Sometimes I just really don’t like them. That’s it really. I do t like their behaviour, I don’t like their attitude and sometimes I wish they would just go away (temporarily...kind of!)

Mind you Dd (with exh this weekend) just sent me a text saying "I know you will be ok. I love you". So really is a darling most of the time!!

Btw that was in response to me having a bit of a tough time with my dp lately!

It’s natures way of preparing you for when they leave home. It makes it less painful.

My eldest dd could be hideous as a teen, but she is lovely now she is 27 and a mum herself. Hold in there, hopefully it will get better for you all

Mine are all adults now but each of them when they were in their early 20s came to me and apologised for how they were as teenagers - the combination of maturity and getting a bit of distance from family life helps them to develop a renewed appreciation for the unconditional love of their parents!

Oh my days same. Mine is a giant drama queen who makes absolutely everything about her. She speaks to me like shite on her shoe and thinks nothing to us driving her about for hours and hours. Awful.

Solidarity here. I have dd(15) dsd(14) dsd13) plus add ds (14) into that mix as well. They’ve been bickering and winding each other up on purpose all week (on half term) but if I try and pull them up on it they bloody well gang up on me! How rude!
I’m hiding in the toddlers room with a Maltesers Easter egg, a pack of Jammie dodgers and my kindle while they spend the next 2 hours arguing over what to watch on Netflix

My oldest DD 17 has changed completely in the past year, it’s got so bad I am now on antidepressants. I haven’t admitted that to anyone, even DH doesn’t know. She has pushed every single boundary, so I’ve completely given up setting any. Mother of the year I definitely am not!

I think most of it is my fault, mine are 10 & 13, the eldest is a mess and I think she's heading towards the gutter, because if the way she talks. My X will enjoy blaming me and so will the school.
.Im fed up if it all and I can't seem to get it through to her. I even thought about saying fuck jtvyo the court orders handing them I RR to the X and fucking a long way off, but I won't.

My nearly eight year old has behaved like a stroppy teenage diva since she she was old enough to toddle.

She has behaviour problems/sen, but basically for a good few years I've described her as a tiny teen.

Sometimes she really is hard to like. But I cannot imagine ever not loving her.

It’s natures way of preparing you for when they leave home. It makes it less painful

I just got hammered on a mothers or boys threads for saying just this. I have a great relationship with my son, but my late teen daughter is vile.

Sneering, unappreciative, rude, vain, cold. Just absolutely nasty. I miss my sweet little girl. Im not banking on her coming around. Its devastating.

Same upbringing as my boy, I doted on her. If anything I gave her more attention than him when they were young. She chose to be horrible to her family and put us through hell.

My son is a lovely young man.

Oh, I remember those years well! 13 to 18, an antisocial stranger who was happy to live in squalor surrounded by unwashed plates and cups occupied my DDs body.

What a crap user name, it is NOT your fault. At this age if they refuse to comply, and you have already taken away privileges what else can you do.

She should respect you and appreciate you. Its her who is not daughter of the year. You are not in the wrong.

Thanks DesolationCrow Sadly I haven’t got the energy to battle anymore. Just hope that she gets all this crap out of her system and grows the eff up quickly. If not I may end up in an asylum

Same here, dds 17 and 14. They can be vile to me, but at the moment they are much worse to each other, with name calling, sneering, sniping, and physically fighting. Nine times out of ten oldest starts it, and is quite frankly a bully, although youngest can give as good as she gets. Oldest is 33 weeks pregnant and I hate the thought of a baby coming into this toxic atmosphere.
What I find hardest to get my head around is that they have so much more than I had at that age. I'm 50 and therefore ancient so of course there were no mobiles then, but neither did I have many clothes, and certainly not mega bucks trainers, riding lessons, and frequent meals out or McDonald's.
I also - and again this is a massive issue for me - would never dreamed of swearing or speaking to my parents or to my sisters the way they do. I wouldn't have dared, besides which I respected them even though I found them utterly dull.

Dont let her bait or push you.

Withdraw whilst providing the minimum for her. Let her miss you. I feel much better for removing my emotional responses. She was driving me to a heart attack.

Im so sorry you are going through this.

This thread is really not filling me with much hope, I currently have 2 girls aged 3 and 4 and I'm expecting my third girl in the next 2 weeks, which means I'll have three teenage girls at the same time! Now I'm dreading it, thanks ladies lol

DD1 was incredibly hard work at 15/16. Disappearing overnight and having to report her missing to the police, 8 short term exclusions from school in 18 months before being permanently excluded in year 11, awful attitude and spoke to me like crap. I was a single parent at uni and working very part time. I ended up on antidepressants and imagining having a car accident to get a break!

At 17 she is like a completely different person. She helps me loads with her little sister and never complains, has bought me gifts for my birthday completely on her own initiative, polite and if she does over step the mark will apologise. I actually like her again and enjoy spending time with her.

Ours was vile from 13-17. She’s 25 now, wonderful young woman.

I have a 14 year old dd whom I love dearly but sometimes dislike. She can be so rude, entitled and lazy.

Same here! DD (nearly 14) can be such a brat and creates mess everywhere. I feel sad sometimes because I know we only have four years left of her living at home full-time (she's adventurous and I can't seen her coming home from uni much ). I'd like to enjoy this time with her, but it all has to be on her terms. Still, at least we're close and she tells me what's going on in her life.

Reading this with trepidation as my eldest daughter is about to enter the teenage years (yr 6). I calculate that when she turns 12 that will be the start of 16 years of having at least one teenage daughter! (3 dds, youngest is currently 3). God help me!

I hear you. I love mine, but often sometimes don't like them.

DesolationCrow - that’s so true! I have vowed not to react, as it will end up with me having a heart attack or stroke! My nearly 13 year old dd is so lovely most of the time, but she can also be absolutely vile to me.

Amen, Bong. You poor thing!