To think you cant "make DS gay"

[TwittleBee]

I am still really pissed off from a conversation with DH this morning…

It all started because we were talking about things our parents done for us as kids, e.g. my mum put on a pamper evening and dad used to take us to Blockbusters once a month

Anyway DH then said he couldn’t wait for boys evening with DS (okay fair enough that is lovely, some quality DH and Ds time) but when I then said ooo yeah and we could have pamper evenings too (nothing wring with relaxing and taking care of yourself right?) DH then flipped and said I was determined to make our DS gay?!

Calmly I stated that you cant make someone gay and pointed out that nothing my parents done made me bi!

Anyway, I am sure you can imagine how the rest of the conversation went… not well… DH said I am introducing him to that world and pushing him in that direction already by letting him play with my make up whilst I get ready!

Anyway, DH is BU right? And even if DS did turn out gay then why should it even matter to DH! I am honestly feeling very shocked by DH reaction.

Btw i'm getting ads for all gay cruises on this thread, with what I'm sure are very realistic pictures of the type of man who goes on a gay cruise in them

I think Ribbonsonabox's use of the term "insecurity" is telling; it gets right to the issue of "what exactly is he scared of?" If you happened to have fathered a gay son, why is that a problem? I was wearily accustomed to correcting small boys who though that "gay" was a stinging insult, and that gayness was contagious; it usually covered up for a deep sense of insecurity about their own developing personalities. Understandable in a growing lad, but needing a steer......the most ridiculous example I had to deal with was one lunchtime, when one lad was almost in tears at the prospect of carrying his lunch on the "gay tray" (lighter in colour than the other dinner trays; apparently this can reverse the sexuality of anyone who touches it (!) small boys can be barking mad sometimes.....)
Had an interesting conversation with another colleague about this; she joined our staff when living with a same-sex partner, out and proud, later transferred her allegiances to a chap and becoming a loving SM to his DC. Her take on it was, it was the person she loved, and the equipment they happened to be carrying was a side issue.