Vanity fair article about Kate Middleton

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"She is said to find the constant clothes changes (up to five a day if the itinerary includes shooting, tea, and a formal dinner) and the omnipresence of a full household staff rather stressful,"

Now I am quite fond of Kate Middy but AIBU to have snorted very loudly at this sentence?

Oh to have such a stressful life!

Having money doesn’t mean that KM doesn’t feel stress or worry FGS. When she was pregnant she would have had exactly the same fears as any other mother to be, and now her children are here I’m sure she worries constantly. I don’t see how she is sheltered from that just because, as a PP said, she knows which school they will get in to. Yes the clothes changing comment sounds flippant but I am sure she is trying to relate to everyone as she would rather be in jeans all day or whatever she means. She comes across as an extremely nice lady TBH who loves William and does her best.

it's not the changing that's the issue, it's the events

Precisely- imagine having to spend, I dunno, a week or whatever constantly changing outfits, sitting in church services (poss a bit boring unless you're actually religious), having tea and making small talk with your husband's extended family who you perhaps don't have very much in common with, then having to have breakfast and dinner with the same people, and the itinerary and length of meals being dictated by your husband's 92 year old grandmother who is not known for prioritizing time with small children (of which you have several). Oh and you have to look like you're having a rollicking good time through all of it, lest someone see you and accuse you of being ungrateful or surly or thinking your marriage is in trouble.

I have less sympathy for Meghan as she and Harry will be less beholden to the above as he's not the heir. Once her maj is gone I suppose they will have much greater freedom to do their own thing, but Will and Kate will always have more expectation on them to maintain tradition with Balmoral etc.

The article said she is "SAID TO"

She hasn't gone on tv saying "Oh, my life is so hard ...."

More likely she said to pacify an envious friend, "Yes, life's great, but it's a bit of a hassle having to change 5 times a day and I'd love to be able occasionally to pick my nose without 13 people watching"

Give her a break

The five changes of clothes reminded me of school where we had to put on uniform (1) for breakfast, and bad things happened if you missed breakfast.

On Wednesdays we had an hour of outdoor sport at 11am, so change into sports kit (2). Sports kit not allowed in the dining room so back into uniform for lunch (3). After lunch, there was an optional yoga class so yes, yoga kit (4).

Change again into afternoon uniform for supper (5). In the sixth form we were slowed to wear 'home clothes' after supper which would have been clothes change (6) and then bedtime (7).

Sigh.

I love my now much less privileged life, where I wear what I like and and am valued for what I can contribute not what I wear.

I really hope Kate enjoyes her life overall, I would absolutely hate it.

She chose that life. I couldnt give a monkeys. If that's all you have to stress about think yourself lucky...

So many posters saying they'd hate her life. I'd fucking love it. Ok, you have to smile when you might not want to and look nice all the time but seems to me like the benefits far outweigh the negatives.

I reckon Kate loves her life...but to say so would come across as smug.

There are a lot of rumours that she is having to put up with the same nonsense her mother in law did, but that she’s doing it with grace and accepting that a man in his position shall have a mistress. That’s what I feel sorry for. (OW’s husband apparently also having an affair but with a man)

I really hope this is not true. When you see them together, w&k seem to be very happy together, otherwise they are excellent actors.
I think William was a bit twattish and entitled in his 20s and realised that he wasn’t such a catch after all, so went back to Kate. I think he does appreciate the family life h they have and their relationship is pretty equal.

I guess even HM has put up with Prince Phillips alleged philandering for 7 decades. It is an anachronistic world in the RF. Kate had 10 years to make up her mind and was much better prepared than Diana. However, I think the odd moan periodically is fine. She is still human.

Christmas at Sandringham sounds awful, doesn't it?

No surprise that they like to go to her parents!

Wonder if William will change it?

I would find her life extremely stressful, having her every move scrutinised and photographed, lack of freedom, the pressure to be perfect. I'd much, much rather have my life. I don't care how much money she has.

It sounds awful. I'm very much a jeans and t-shirt woman. That why I didn't marry a prince, leaving a trail of broken hearted princes.

I think the advantages far outweigh any negatives. Can’t see the point in her grumbling about them. I always think of Princess Margaret, she apparently “loved” Peter Townsend, but not enough to give up the life of extreme privilege and entitlement. That to me, says it all.

But she only comes out of hiding a handful of times each month

Surely she can wear what she wants/have minimal staff around 80% of the time

If she could only take a leaf out of Einstein’s book who - allegedly - had a wardrobe full of identical suits to simplify life. Then nobody would notice if she didn’t change.

Unfortunately one of the main points of being a woman in the royal family is the wardrobe changes. It’s modelling with handshakes. Unless you’re the Queen and you’ve got a red box to rifle through as well. But Kate is not the Queen. And so far she has embraced a curiously old-fashioned view of womanhood. In fact she makes the Queen look like Germaine Greer!

That’s the enigma of Kate. She seems to have really wanted to marry William very strongly, which was always going to place her centre stage, yet I have the sense, even though she’s very smiley, that she’s quite a retiring person. She doesn’t, from outward appearances, seem to like giving speeches or to be the sort of person to relish taking charge of charitable projects or enjoy dreaming up fresh ways to be royal in the modern era.

I thought that she might at least quite like the wardrobe changes aspect as she is always very soigné. But maybe not!

I have a job I find stressful and I can't leave it because I need the money. It doesn't involve too many clothes and staff.

1 You have the chance and choice to change your job.

2 And surely you knew what you were getting into when you signed up for it? :)

Why is is that ONE comment, about Christmas at Sandringham, gets used as a means for having a go at her?

If you read this forum in the run up to Christmas, it's full of women complaining about who they are going to spend it with and asking what to wear, and not wanting to spend it with their MIL or whoever.

Yet when someone else (in the RF) mentions it, it's seen as an opportunity to put the boot in.

I think you would need a few days of doing absolutely nothing but sleeping & lounging around after a week spent doing Christmas at Sandringham!

*Kate chose that life. 🤷🏻‍♀️

There are far worse lives to lead, she is wealthy, has three lovely children, lots of help at home, will never have to worry about money or childcare. I don’t feel sorry for her.*

She also has the know,edge that come old age she will receive the highest standard of care imaginable until she dies. I do envy her that.

If she could only take a leaf out of Einstein’s book who - allegedly - had a wardrobe full of identical suits to simplify life. Then nobody would notice if she didn’t change

I love fashion so do pay attention to her events. But if she were more like Princess Anne and just wore sensible suits and shoes, far fewer would pay attention. If she truly hates the spotlight (I believe she enjoys it, to a point), then she behave more like Anne imo who probably hasn’t changed her look or clothes since the 70s.

I don't particularly envy her. However nor do I particularly pity her. Unlike the blood Royals. She chose that type of life.

My job actually involves real qualifications, as opposed to changing clothes and enduring staff attention, so changing is not so easy.

I would hate every minute of her life. No matter what she does or how important she is always reduced to what she is wearing.
I'm still in my pyjamas at 10 am with yesterdays makeup on and quite frankly I'd resent having to look perfectly presented first thing in the morning on my day off.

Christmas at Sandringham sounds like truly the worst part of being a Royal, day to day at least.

The thing is, whatever she says someone will complain about it. If she tries to sound ‘normal’, saying she finds aspects of her life stressful, she is accused of being ‘tone deaf’. However, if she said ‘my life is fabulous because I’m rich and I have no problems at all’ she would be accused of bragging and out of touch with the majority. She can’t win.

I'm still in my pyjamas at 10 am with yesterdays makeup on and quite frankly I'd resent having to look perfectly presented first thing in the morning on my day off

Kate doesn't have to look perfectly presented on her day off does she?

I'd imagine if she has a day with no engagements, she's not walking round her house in a suit with high heels, perfect hair and make up though.