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Vanity fair article about Kate Middleton

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NCforthisoneb · 28/02/2019 23:52

"She is said to find the constant clothes changes (up to five a day if the itinerary includes shooting, tea, and a formal dinner) and the omnipresence of a full household staff rather stressful,"

Now I am quite fond of Kate Middy but AIBU to have snorted very loudly at this sentence?

Oh to have such a stressful life!

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 01/03/2019 06:18

Do you choose who you fall in love with? I’d have thought circumstance brought her into this life.

You can understand why as much time as possible in the past was spent at her parents home - where they could sit around in there jeans

PineapplePower · 01/03/2019 06:23

Do you choose who you fall in love with

She was at William’s beck and call and she rearranged her whole life to be with him, he wouldn’t commit for like, what, ten years? She sacrificed and put up with it. Especially his obnoxious behavior during their breakup. The romance was always a bit one-sided.

Luckily it worked out for her in the end.

Crankybitch · 01/03/2019 06:25

I don’t think it’s as stressful changing 5 times as it would be for any of us

Staff will lay out the outfits, help her into them, take the old ones away to be laundered and returned to their proper place

My teen daughter does try to get changed a few times a day and everything’s left on in a pile on the floor.....

I get that they have people following their every move but that’s their “job” They still have a lot of time away from photographers etc

lyralalala · 01/03/2019 06:28

British tabloids are relentless. creep bastards

I think in comparison to some of the foreign paparazzi the British papers aren't too bad now with the royals.

There are way more photos of them, especially the children, in papers and magazines abroad than here.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 01/03/2019 06:31

I'm a teacher and there are loads of bits of my role that I find stressful.

Am I not allowed to mention them or be stressed by them because I chose this job?

Redcrayonisthebest · 01/03/2019 06:31

I'd hate it and feel stressed by it too, also the constant speculation about every aspect of her life must drive her nuts!!

I would find her way of life extremely stressful. But I would never have chosen it.

Did she choose it do you think? Or did she just fall in love with somebody who was living it?

DonaldTwain · 01/03/2019 06:46

FFS. She could row back on the costume changes if she wanted, and do her but towards lessening expectations of female grooming. She chose to spend her life reinforcing female stereotypes. Deal with the consequences. You’re paid enough.

Orangecake123 · 01/03/2019 06:53

I'd want to be more financially secure, but would hate that level of intrusion.

Monty27 · 01/03/2019 06:53

That's her day job
I always imagine her having family quality time with her family though.
deluded

BalloonSlayer · 01/03/2019 06:55

I mentioned this on another thread but remember the story of how Cherie Blair got pregnant with her 4th child, Leo? She said they went to stay with the Queen and to her horror she discovered that her case had been completely unpacked by the staff, including her diaphragm which had been put in the bathroom (presumably they must have known what it was to put it there so looked at it, eek!). She was so embarrassed that the next time she went to stay with HM, at Balmoral, she didn't bring it. Then, Balmoral being freezing cold, she needed to cuddle up to Tony and one thing let to another . . . Grin

I don't even use a diaphragm but yeah would find it bloody stressful having staff unpack all my personal stuff for me. One of those things that sounds like a luxury but to me is anything but. I wouldn't want a cleaner, as the thought of someone else seeing the mess I'd made makes me cringe, but if I lived in a mansion I suppose I'd have to have one.

MaybeitsMaybelline · 01/03/2019 07:03

I would find it stressful. What’s the point of all that wealth and privilege if you can’t enjoy it.

Does she ever get to spend the day in her pyjamas, order deliveroo and eat it in front of Netflix? Be able to let out a fart because no one is around? Take her kids to school and gossip in the yard, pass the time of day with a neighbour.

I would far rather be trust fund wealthy and anonymous.

DonPablo · 01/03/2019 07:09

She's judged on her appearance.

So to have to change 5 times, to know that your choices and the fit and the colour and the hem line (weighted or not!?) and the shoes are all going to be scrutinised not just once but 5 times a day. Yeah, I'd find that stressful. Even if a nanny is minding the kids and there's more zeros on the bank than I can count.

You don't have to like her (or the RF) to be able to see that, do you?

IdaBWells · 01/03/2019 07:13

I really don’t think we have a clue about their relationship and wether he “disrespected her” or not. All we get are snippets of their life. What we know about them during that ten year period you refer to could probably fit on a postcard. I think they’ve successfully kept their relationship private.

Right now they seem to be also successfully keeping their lives with their children under wraps with the occasional photo to stave off the ravening beast that is us. That’s one part of their lives I definitely don’t envy, that almost everyone in the world knows what your kids look like and a small handful would actively like to seriously hurt them if given the chance. Needing constant security and bodyguards is not something I crave.

flumpybear · 01/03/2019 07:22

I quite like Kate, she comes across as being dignified as required to keep the royal family 'perfectness' Hmm yet we all know she's normal (seem to recall smoking, sunbathing topless etc ) but demure enough to keep in the 'right side' of the Royal good behaviour rules (personally I'm
Not into the royal family, but if you want to be part of it then abide bY the rules)!

I can't abide the 'well I'm
Used to the Hollywood way' apparent attitude from
Meghan Markle .... bearing in mind literally nobody knew who she was even when Harry proposed, she's had a few crappy movies out and been in a Netflix series .... hardly 'Hollywood' ffs - that type of attitude stinks

JinglingHellsBells · 01/03/2019 07:23

she stopped being Kate Middleton many years ago.
She is the Duchess of Cambridge.

JinglingHellsBells · 01/03/2019 07:25

@BallloonSlayer

I don't even use a diaphragm but yeah would find it bloody stressful having staff unpack all my personal stuff for me

I don't believe a word of what she said. It's nonsense. Any woman with any sense would put it in their handbag. Or not have sex if they didn't want another child.

Margotshypotheticaldog · 01/03/2019 07:28

She was hired to do a job and she appears to do it well. Every job has it's downsides, and her's has plenty of perks also.
I don't relate to her at all. We are not the even the same species Smile

JinglingHellsBells · 01/03/2019 07:31

Of course ti's bloody stressful.

Everyone is monitoring everything you do, if you have a single grey hair, if you look tired, if you are slimmer fatter, whatever.

Just because money is not a problem doesn't mean she has to enjoy being in the public eye.

I think there are some very shallow people around when it comes to the Royals. The money and help at home (which plenty of other people have too) does not imo for one minute make up for the loss of freedom and always having to smile in public when you are tired, having a period, just want to crawl away and not see anyone.

formerbabe · 01/03/2019 07:31

5 outfit changes!?

But it's not like she's doing that whilst working a 9-5 or commuting. She won't be changing five times a day whilst cooking tea, popping to Lidl, putting a load of washing on or cleaning the bathroom.

It's her job.

pilates · 01/03/2019 07:36

Yes I can imagine it must be stressful to be in the spot light and not have a normal life. She comes across very well and a great ambassador for our country.

SoupDragon · 01/03/2019 07:37

It's her job.

And? Many people find their job stressful but they get to leave it behind when they leavework for the day.

SoupDragon · 01/03/2019 07:38

This is her whole life, pretty much every hour of every day.

LondonBelongsToMe · 01/03/2019 07:46

Since someone else is choosing and purchasing the clothes, having them altered and organised by day, laid out to put on and then removed and laundered and stored for her, the 5 changes aren’t exactly difficult.
There are a lot of rumours that she is having to put up with the same nonsense her mother in law did, but that she’s doing it with grace and accepting that a man in his position shall have a mistress. That’s what I feel sorry for. (OW’s husband apparently also having an affair but with a man)

formerbabe · 01/03/2019 07:50

And? Many people find their job stressful but they get to leave it behind when they leavework for the day

Then they go home to more stresses...

Housework
Money/bills
Food shopping
Laundry
Worrying about what school their DC will get into
Worrying about childcare
Waiting for medical treatment on NHS waiting lists.

Yes, her job has downsides. It also has immense benefits.

bethy15 · 01/03/2019 07:51

Her diamond shoes are too tight......