to not make DD have last HPV vaccine

[adultcat]

DD (14) had the first injection and promptly fainted. The second one was traumatic. She's just refused to have the third one. They were all done at school but last week she refused to have it and told them I'd take her to the doctor to get it done.
Can I do that? Should she have it?
Tried to research it but there's lots of opinions out there and I'm really confused!

She should have it. I know some people react really badly to them but they're definitely worth having unless she's actually having a dangerous allergic reaction to them (in which case there are alternatives).

Is it fear on her part? Because it’ll it is I’d be doing everything I could to persuade her to have it. I’m terrified of injections but honestly, a few minutes of fear is worth it to be protected against HPV

Also, yes, you can get it done at the doctor's.

At 14, if she refuses, I doubt she would be overridden.

I had mine all done at the doctors because I faint every time. But it is important for her to get it done. Ask if she can have it whilst lying down, that's what I do.

i would encourage her to have it, which i have recently had to do with my own dd rhe same age

And as per GreenWingers, if it’s just a short term non-dangerous reaction, that’s worth it too.

Did she have an actual physical reaction to the content of the vaccine or was she just upset by the needle and the fact of the injection itself? Does she have any special needs?

I had abnormal cervical cells removed when I was 21. Please do help her get past this fear as having the biopsy/removal was far worse than any injection.

She should have it of course. It's cancer we are talking about here. You probably can't force her though. Can you talk to her about the reasons or even ask a nurse to do the same?

Thank you all! She's terrified of the actual injection and gets herself so worked up! I'll give our GP a ring!

My dd had them at the drs and fainted at them all

She should have it, yes. However, I think you'd be hard pressed to find a GP who would give it to someone against their will, especially at 14. For some reason I thought 13 was all that was needed for medical consent.

Watching with interest. DD (15 next week) is pathologically fearful of needles. I won’t bore you with the many attempts to get her to have the second and third HPV vaccines, plus the other, now outstanding ones. Only this week have taken a call about her and that the team are in the school in March; would she like to go along and chat about her worries etc. Asked DD - flat NO!
I have very clearly told her why, the risks of not having, the far reaching consequences etc, but so far, she has not been able to compute this and have them.
I’m hoping, in time, the ‘penny will drop’.
I’m approaching the point now where we will say no to something she desperately wants to do (school trip (not abroad)) unless she gets the vaccinations. It’s seems cruel, but I don’t know what else to do.

Emla cream to apply to the area beforehand. Go with her, keep eyes shut, talk about random stuff. Done.

If you speak to the GP, perhaps they could prescribe an anxiolytic drug (e.g. Diazepam) to be taken a little while before the injection?

I'm terrified of needles, I had all 3 and hated every second of it and cried for hours (not exaggerating). Also had tetanus, diphtheria & polio vaccinations too and it was embarrassing to shout and cry in front of peers. I just sort of had to force my was through it.

Antenatal blood tests were horrific and I asked my DP to hold me down each time.

Emla/numbing spray might help
I had headphones in with music loud to distract me for blood tests

Of course she should have it done. There are a lot more needles involved with cancer treatment. Distraction and get it over with.

As well as cervical cancer, it also protects against the strains of HPV responsible for 90% of cases of genital warts. I had those removed at 20

I had all mine at the doctors, and my parents wouldn't tell me until an hour before so that I wouldn't spend all day getting worked up. I would then get to go to my favourite restaurant for dinner if I had it. I usually still fainted but I got a meal out of it!

I used to have Kalms in the run up to injections, whether its a placebo or not it worked

Of course you can’t force someone to have an injection against their will but it would be terrible if her fear stopped her from getting something that could benefit her so much later in life. You mention that you’ve read different opinions, but we know that the vaccination saves lives. In Australia they are predicted to eradicate cervical cancer within 40 years, because of the vaccination. She’s 14 so it all seems a lifetime away and of course she’s focusing on the short term, but you need to help her through. Would bribery help?

I’m approaching the point now where we will say no to something she desperately wants to do (school trip (not abroad)) unless she gets the vaccinations. It’s seems cruel, but I don’t know what else to do.

Take the immediate pressure off about the vaccinations - you'll only make it worse.
Discuss the impact of her phobia in general (accessing medical care as she gets older etc.
Instead of trying to convince/force/blackmail her into the vax's, gently try and convince her to see a counsellor who specialises in phobia treatment (focus firmly on the danger's of the phobia in general).

Dangling the trip over her head if she's that scared, would be cruel.

I’d certainly encourage all I could and try to find a way to calm her down, you could end up kicking yourself later in her life if you don’t do all you can.

Hell bribe if you have too....