People who can't accept that you don't love the things they do.

[ChickeningOut]

AIBU to be annoyed when people refuse to accept that something isn't for me?

A friend adores camping and is going on a camping holiday with a small group later in the year. I said how lovely. Have a wonderful time. She says you should come with us. I said you know camping isn't my thing but I'm looking forward to hearing about it. Cue a long rant/speech about the joys of camping and how wonderful it is and that I shouldn't let my first experience put me off.

I had the same when I read a book that a friend recommended which I didn't love but said it was an interesting read. This resulted in another conversation practically demanding that I admit how wrong I was.

Does anyone else know someone like this?

My FIL once mentioned that their boiler had gone wrong, but that, thankfully, they'd had it fixed without additional charge under the terms of their pay-monthly British Gas cover plan.

I said that was good, glad they'd managed to get it sorted easily, especially with Winter just around the corner and he asked which boiler cover plan we had.

I said that we'd considered it, but decided not to pay for a monthly plan - and thought that was the end of a very boring conversation. He persisted and basically challenged me to 'justify' our 'foolishness' and, surprised, I just said I understood that a lot of people like the peace of mind and prefer to have fixed regular payments with no big unexpected bills, and the plans are a very good idea for people who prefer to budget that way. However, we have a very good local boiler man who charges for his time and work but doesn't add a big mark-up to the price of the boilers or parts themselves as the likes of BG do and, having thought about it carefully, we'd decided to self-insure and take our chances; but I reiterated that the plans were very popular and that a lot of people consider them to be invaluable, so they can be a very worthwhile thing to buy.

He actually SWORE at me (the only time he's ever done that) for being obstinate and so against what is plainly the common sense way of doing things. I told him that I wasn't in any way against the plans and could very well see the attraction they held for millions of households, but they weren't our personal choice for our household.

I thought his blood pressure was about to make him spontaneously combust.

I guess we must just live life too much on the edge

I remember being ridiculed at school because I didn't watch Monty Python. A load of utter shite and sooooooooooo unfunny

Oh remembered another

I drink, but I'm really choosy about what I drink

I also really don't need to drink "just because" if I'm not feeling it

My sister (and to be fair there are LOTS of issues) will sneer at me as if I am defective if I eschew an alcoholic drink for a soft one just because it's with a meal and I'd rather have one or because for whatever reason we're celebrating, mostly Christmas I don't fancy caning lots of alcohol at 3pm just because I somehow "have HER permission"

She does look for reasons to judge and sneer on a wider level though

Russian roulette is abit of a jump from camping.

But at the beginning of the thread you said you were a "try everything once" kind of person, and other people are closed minded. But you seem pretty closed minded to the idea of Russian Roulette.

Maybe you are more a "try anything that doesn't fill you with dread" type of person. Like many people.

YANBU people can’t understand I DON’T LIKE FUCKING CATS.

People who don't like fucking cats can't understand that fucking cats love people who don't like fucking cats. I've got a few friends who don't like fucking cats. My fucking cat is absolutely guaranteed to suss them out and then settle down on their fucking knee, fucking purring!

I feel like ppl are always trying to persuade me to have kids. It's weird as it's such a personal decision surely. Oh and that I should buy a car/learn to drive. I don't really see why it's anyone else's business as long as I'm not expecting them to drive me around (which I'm not).

@pengAly i’m Not trying to be insulting but that is why I haven’t read Harry Potter as I assume it’s for children with a lower reading age than me and I can’t get that thought out of my head. I sssume it’s very good as it’s popular and I can’t say I like it dislike it as i’m just not interested.

I also have a big birthday soon and one of my workmates can’t understand why I don’t want a work night out. I’m paid to spend time with the fuckers, there are only a few of them I would actually choose to spend my free time with.

as I assume it’s for children with a lower reading age than me

So you assume all the adult fans have a child's reading ability?

I hate people like this... when someone tells me they don’t like the same things I do, I have a little joke about it, till em each to thier own.. end of story.
I do love camping though, DP doesn’t... DS who has asd has asked to try it so gonna try sort that out somehow

@pengaly no I wonder why they are reading children’s books. As I said I have no idea if they are good or shit! I assume they must be good due to the fan base but at the end of the day they are for children! I’m not responding further as it bores the tits off me!

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I'm like that with Catherine Tate, think she is crap.

One of my best friends was telling me over and over again to go on a cruise. Please don't make me. I don't like being with people that much.

I agree. My DM can't get her head round the fact that I don't have any interest in art or music.

If DH and I are going away somewhere she'll say 'Oh you must go to the Uffizi / Louvre /Prado'. No, we mustn't. Two hours at the Uffizi is two hours of my life I won't get back.

Same with music most of the time. Just turn it off please.

PS. I loved camping when DC were little and it was an adventure and also a cheap holiday. Happier in apartments nowadays though.

A number of years ago DH and I were in London for a long weekend. When people knew we were going there we were repeatedly asked what show we were going to see. Could not believe that we were not going to see any. Sorry but not for us but enjoyed a film instead. Also people keep saying that we would really love a cruise.
No no nope thank you very much

DH wants to go on a cruise, but I couldn't think of anything worse and pointed out that I get sea sick. He said "you won't on a cruise ship they're huge and it's smooth sailing". He won't have it that the thought of being on water and looking out to sea is what makes me sick for the most part!

@SchadenfreudePersonified amazing post That's a sketch right there!

It must be insecurity. I have a friend who does this. We don't see each other very often so I tend to let it go. One of the latest ones was I should start using face creams. I said
No, I don't like putting cream on my face.
Well you should.
It's not for me. I don't like it.
You will end up getting wrinkles.
I will anyway. I clean my skin with water, it's naturally oily and that's fine with me.
Well. You can do whatever you like.
I will.
But you should use creams.

Ffs

DP watches these stupid vines or fb clips or whatever he is watching and insists I come and watch because "they are hillariou" apparently. They are not and when I tell him I'm not interested he gets quite offended. It dr8ves me insane.

I do think it's a tribal survival thing. You want everyone abiding by the same cultural rules, being interested in the same things to make society nice and straightforward. Everyone likes drinking mud water, eating buffalo, painting on the walls. No one wants to go and try drinking blood or eating mammoth or making rock sculptures. Status quo is safe.

OMG! DH has 'rediscovered' skiing and not 5 minutes ago DH spent 10 minutes telling me how much I'd love downhill skiing if I'd 'just try it the right way' and 'it would be something we could have fun doing together'. No amount of explaining that I would NEVER enjoy careening down a mountain on two wooden slats because I do not enjoy danger or thrill-seeking in any way shape or form would deter him.

We have been married over 30 damned years and he tried this same argument 20+ years ago. He knows this about me! ARRRGGG!!!

AcrossthePond55 yes to everything you’ve said there about skiing.

Fortunately for me, DH is no more enamoured of the idea of hurling himself at 100mph down the side of a mountain than I am so we can put up a united front against friends who insist we’d love it. Look, we’re happy to go to the snow, we like snow. The mountains are beautiful covered in snow. We like to look at the snow, walk in the snow, fight with snowballs and make snow angels and snowmen but we do not want to risk life and limb on a pair of greased planks. We do not want to spend the next day best case aching, stiff and bruised or, more likely, worst case getting our limbs encased in plaster in the local ER.

You go ahead, we’ll go for a nice tramp in the woods then sit around a roaring log fire in the bar sipping hot chocolate or wine and wait for you.

Exactly warped! DH and I actually used to cross-country ski (gentle rises & 'baby' trails) and I did enjoy that. He tried to tell me that XC skiing is 'actually harder' than downhill. Um, I don't think so. XC is like roller skating on snow.

I broke an ankle and a wrist, they're both plated and a bit stiff so we no longer XC. I didn't do it XCing though, I did it walking on ice.

I think next time DH brings it up, I'll tell him I'll try skiing when he agrees to take up swing dancing!!! He'd rather chew glass than get on a dance floor!

Reminds me of the SNL La La Land sketch.

But don't you think if you just went with them you'd see how amazing it is and change your mind, and realise that you LOVE CAMPING? sorry, I couldn't resist OP.

Yes, I also know people like this and annoys the f out of me. I happen to enjoy camping a lot and my closest friend hates it. I invited her once a few years ago and she said "no thanks, can't imagine anything worse. I'm not a camper" and I said "fair enough, I'll send you the pics". And that was the end of the conversation. Somehow our friendship survived this...

Some people are just really up their own arse and can't fathom why you would have any different opinions to them.

I love camping but no longer able to do it but would never presume to pressure someone into doing it.

I was just mentioning on another thread my things I hate - that I have at times had people try and pressure me into doing.

Mainly fairground/theme park rides. I hate feeling out of control, being dizzy (I always throw up), terrified of heights so they're not my thing at all. Sooooo many times as a teen/early twenties friends (not close friends A they know better B they had more respect for me) tried to get me on roller coasters and Walters and log flumes etc it got really quite upsetting at times.

To the pp with the sunbather - my ex was the same, I'm a redheaded, ghostly white, freckly Celt! I burn even using factor 50 and NOT sunbathing utterly ridiculous to expect me to sunbathe!

Gracemarks - I'm the same. Last summer was HELL for me, I got a heat rash, had almost constant headaches, felt bloody lousy. It just doesn't suit me at all. Even now predicted 13 here tomorrow and I'm dreading it. I don't like extreme cold either though. 5-10 suits me fine. I too hated that exams were in summer because in addition to heat issues I had hayfever! I felt bloody lousy in the summer! I did OK in exams but I'm sure I'd have done better in Jan/Feb. Uni 2nd time round was in the air conditioned, windowless gym - much better

Also mentioned on that other thread about people REFUSING to accept not everyone has the same sense of humour. Father ted, blackadder, monty Python, Alan partridge, Mrs browns boys, and similar not funny to me in the slightest, I don't criticise their choices beyond it not being my taste yet certain people seem to get determined to MAKE you like the same as them. Same goes for music and film too. There are certain films I've never seen and don't want to, certain people just won't accept this graciously it's so rude!

I'm not a gamer as such I pootle about with some favourites on my phone is all but even I don't understand people's attitudes to it, it's a hobby like any other. If an mner posts their other half is being a lazy neglectful twat who spends many hours gaming the problem isn't the gaming it's the person! Just as many lazy neglectful twats with "worthy" hobbies (though I have noticed cycling seems to attract twats like this as a preferred hobby by them) my ex was a rugby fan, playing and watching. When he made noises that he'd be back playing all day every Saturday as soon as I was home from hospital after having dd while I was still pregnant he was soon put straight! The problem wasn't the rugby though it was his attitude to responsibility! Sisters exs thing was snooker, he was sodding off to the snooker hall for many hours most evenings and virtually all weekend while she had a baby and a toddler to look after, more fool her for putting up with it, she moaned about the snooker but the problem was him!

Pengaly I disagree, I think most people start off saying things like "it's not really for me" then pushy arseholes get insistent and the person that doesn't like X ends up having to be blunt because pushy arsehole ISN'T LISTENING

Also you don't seem to be getting that you are doing on this thread the VERY Thing most of us are complaining about!

I love children, love being a mum, I've spent much of my life also looking after other people's children, but I have friends and family who don't want children and I totally respect that and think that it's a ridiculous idea to think people should have children who don't want them, not least because that is highly unlikely to create a healthy atmosphere for the child. But then I'm the child that ended my mothers desire to remain childless too and so I know how shit it can be. That's not because people who don't want children are awful it just doesn't make sense to have them if you don't want them and I am very supportive of my friends who don't want children to the point I've told others giving them a hard time to wind their necks in!

I love being a mum but full time parenting is bloody hard work and should be entered into willingly.

Bringincrazyback ugh breaking bad - I've a family full of addicts, addiction made my childhood miserable and I've lost loved ones to it, I have no interest in watching a programme that basically hero worships or at best excuses a fucking drug dealer! Bad enough people who bang on who don't know my history I think VERY badly of the ones who KEEP banging on even after they do know. They can fuck off!

Seneca I remember that Christmas thread the sil was being bloody annoying!

I suppose more intraverted people probably won't like camping as its more a group activity, its the social experience rather than the actual camping itself thats fun, so if you're not good round groups of people then its prob not for you and everyones different.

I'm more extravert, I love it as its normally a good group and we have fun whatever we're doing

An ex work colleague lived her life when outside work, in the pub. She couldn't understand why I would not enjoy doing the same and was always insinuating that I and other colleague must have a very boring existance as our lives didn't revolve around going down the pub. It used to drive me potty!