People who can't accept that you don't love the things they do.

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AIBU to be annoyed when people refuse to accept that something isn't for me?

A friend adores camping and is going on a camping holiday with a small group later in the year. I said how lovely. Have a wonderful time. She says you should come with us. I said you know camping isn't my thing but I'm looking forward to hearing about it. Cue a long rant/speech about the joys of camping and how wonderful it is and that I shouldn't let my first experience put me off.

I had the same when I read a book that a friend recommended which I didn't love but said it was an interesting read. This resulted in another conversation practically demanding that I admit how wrong I was.

Does anyone else know someone like this?

I have a big birthday coming up. I don't want any fuss but everyone thinks they know better. Why can't they just accept I deserve to have the birthday I prefer.
If anyone arranges a party of dinner I'm not going. I am so stressed out by the whole thing.

Mrs Brown's Boys. Don't tell me to give it another chance because it won't change the fact that I think it's complete shite.

Absolutely with you on camping. I have a bad back so I like a decent bed. And hot and cold running water. And lights. And privacy. And relaxing on holiday by laying on my arse and doing precisely nothing for a week - rather than having to build my own accommodation and carry every sheet, fork and tin can with me. A friend adores camping and has a beautiful bell tent and awning, fairy lights and just about every accessory you could think of. Her photos look great and she loves it but for the amount she's spent I'd rather get a late deal on a decent hotel with housekeeping service, in a place where the weather will be reliably warm and sunny!

Yes to the birthday party thing. I’ve eve. Had people mention narkily not being invited to my significant birthday “do”- I didn’t have one!!
I also hate clubbing and going out and standing up and I will not go to Benidorm even though my mother insists I will like it

Oh yeah ... I have the big 40 coming up in a couple of years. Big parties etc have been mentioned because apparently, although I say I don’t want a party, I clearly do.

No actually, I really don’t. What I intend to do is fuck off back to America and spend 2 weeks on a ranch. THATS my idea of a celebration!

Is it some kind of tribal psychology, I wonder? People feel safe if they feel they're in alignment with others around them?

I'm quite happy that so many people like camping tbh. Less competition for deals at the 4 star hotels I like best.

badlydrawnperson maybe stop fucking them, then?

Is it some kind of tribal psychology, I wonder? People feel safe if they feel they're in alignment with others around them? hmm

I think it's exactly that.

@kaitlinktm I read that as "miserable sun fucker"... maybe that should be his nickname

Eugh dh loves camping. He wanted to do a “basic” camping trip a while ago. I agreed reluctantly. I hated every second of it.

He thinks now we’ve got kids we should go every year. I’ve said no. More than happy for him to take kids for a weekend to a local campsite on their own. And I’ll stay home in my relative comfort.

But I’m being unkind. Uncaring. Unreasonable. Blah blah blah.

I just hate camping.

novasglowx

Well I don't have to call him anything now as he lives abroad and I never have to see him. I have heard that the heat doesn't agree with him so much these days though - as he's getting older.

I don't know... Life is about compromise, tbh I have come to the conclusion that I don't actually like skiing but dh loves it and I want the kids to learn (part of the reason I don't like it is because I only learned as an adult and I suck at it) so I will go on family skiing hols in the future and just make the best of it.

It would be the same with camping, I don't love it either but if everyone in my family loved it apart from me I'd go under certain conditions. Thankfully I have quite wussy children who complain too much for camping and dh isn't bothered either.

I'm not a martyr though, I expect dh to compromise for me too which is why we sometimes go on all Inc hols (so no cooking / food agro) even though he would prefer other types of hol.

BTW, whoever said dinner parties, 100 percent with you, I die a little everytime we're invited as it just then adds to the ever growing list of people I don't have time to reciprocate for...

You should try being a person who doesn't like tea or coffee. People actually recoil in horror if you turn down a cuppa, and for some reason, ask again numerous times. Especially at work, I'm asked every day "just in case you have started to like hot drinks"

And I'm with you on camping OP. Why would I want to stay somewhere where you have to clean bugs out your sleeping area every day. It's supposed to be a holiday! I have a rule that I only stay in places that are as nice or nicer than my bedroom, and a tent isn't one of them

I've lost count of the amount of times I've been asked to justify why I don't watch The Soaps

Because they are absolute shit and hugely time demanding, about 10 hours worth a week.

I'm perfectly fine with you liking them though, crack the fuck on

This thread reminds me of a thread a while back where the OP was discussing that her DH would be working Christmas Day and she was looking forward to spending the day alone pretty much doing nothing. Various relatives were insisting that she had to come to them or variations thereof (I think one variation was some of them showing up at her house), and some posters were also saying but you really don't want to spend Christmas alone do you?

People are different. But there are some cultural norms that are so strong that others just can't seem to grasp that what the vast majority of people like or say they like just doesn't appeal to some.

I actually like Steve Coogan's character (Alan Partridge). The whole idea of the character is that he makes you cringe at his awkwardness, a bit like David Brent.

I love Steve Coogan and I love his character Alan Partridge but I don't care who else does or doesn't. Not everyone's got the same sense of humour.

I don't want to go on a cruise or go skiing EVER and that really winds some people up.

I have never had a cup of tea or coffee in my life - don't get the 'ooh I could do with a cup of tea'

As for camping, did it a lot in my late teens and early to mid 20s. In England and Wales mostly but also Japan. Wasn't keen really. Japan was better as guaranteed great weather. That, I can bear.

I will not go camping in the UK again though, just not my thing.

Oh my goodness, the amount of people who want me to go away skiing! I have never been interested and didn’t think it would be something I’d enjoy.

My ex talked me into trying it. The views were breathtaking but as expected, the skiing did nothing for me and I have no desire to try it again even though I got by ok.

Two of my siblings are like this. It’s fucking exhausting.

Russian roulette is abit of a jump from camping. you must have some pretty wild friends. I absolutely love hiking, my friend took me years ago. At the time I didn't see the point of going to the top of a mountain having lunch and coming back down again. Lived a very sheltered working class life. Couldn't actually believe places like the Lake District existed in England until I went, now it's my favourite past time. I'm guilty of wanting to push myself out of my comfort zones, but I don't expect the same from others. Not everyone has the same mentality.

HA!!!! It was HAM!!!!! There was HAM in it!!!!! You say you don't like ham and there was HAM in there and you ate it and liked it!!!!! I told you you liked ham, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

This is my internal monologue when I sneak vegetables into the kids meals!

Another thing - I don't drink alcohol, because I don't like the taste. This upsets a lot of people "have it anyway to get drunk" "No thanks, it's £6 a glass and tastes like window cleaner, whilst being drunk is fun it's not worth the money, the horrible drink or the hangover, so I'm good" "....try rhubarb gin, I bet you'd love rhubarb gin". 🙄🙄🙄

Ooh, I like quiz/game shows (and if you don't, you're WRONG ) and the number of times the following scenario happens:

Host: Asks a question about golf/Eastenders/knitting/Renaults.

Contestant: "Aaaagh, my dad/sister/gran/brother-in-law will KILL me if I get this wrong, because he's a huge golf fan/she's crazy about Eastenders/she spends every spare minute knitting/he works for Renault.

Yes, that's THEM. But they aren't you. YOU'RE the contestant - NOT THEM!!!

It’s weird. I think people must be insecure in their life choices not to be able to handle people liking different things to them.

Also I'm pleased I'm not the only one baffled by the fuss over Alan Partridge. An ex introduced it to me, and stared at me every time a joke or 'hilarious' moment came on, obviously expecting my sides to be splitting. Then sulked because i didn't find any of it funny

SchadenfreudePersonified your post really made me laugh! My Mum was like this with baked beans. No fucker liked baked beans in our house growing up. Nobody. I suspect not even her. So obviously it was her life's work to infiltrate every damned thing she cooked with bastard baked beans. She got away with it, I'm sure, many times but her big big mistake was that she could never just STFU about it. No - she had to caw and squawk that "There! None of you noticed the baked beans in THAT did you?"
She doesn't do it any more. I killed her.

(not really before someone points out that matricide isn't, in fact, a laughing matter)